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@jm1998 She just fell out of love with me and wanted more out of life than I could offer. Dealing with this has made me a very minimalist and stoic person. All I want is peace of mind from this torture, so I don't have many desires such as fancy things, expensive vacations, giant house. I just want love and peace, which can be very disappointing for those who want more. It was hard, but I feel this is a good thing. Once I beat this, I will be more selective to find a woman who can appreciate my outlook on life. I truly feel for the first time in a long time that things are going to be alright
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I'm sorry man. It's rough. I was together with my wife for 8 years, most of the time feeling numb. I didn't feel anything towards anyone, except maybe hate for myself. I was also scared to work with a therapist cause they would just say I'm in denial. I just kept trying to figure things out and don't realize I was basically checking and looking for reassurance constantly. I feel like the nightmare is over and now it's time to heal. I have been doing workbooks alone cause I'm afraid of therapists reactions and I'm also poor. There are a lot of great workbooks out there and awesome videos on YouTube. I'm going to save so I can actually get therapy soon though. I think that will really do wonders
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@icandothings what made you two split?
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Guys, you have to slowly face your fears about this, one of the big things with ocd is self doubt, you don’t trust yourself and you fall victim to these thoughts and they convince you that you’re a particular type of person. But guess what, you are you and no thoughts or worries is going to change that
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Quit PMO!
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@matty z what is PMO?
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Porn
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@matty why are saying that? Not sure how it's relevant
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for me it’s getting to the point where i don’t feel in love with my boyfriend anymore. i’m trying to keep myself from compulsing since my compulsions are all mental. it’s like the thoughts consume my mind every second of every day and i can’t catch a break. it’s like i want to be with him so bad but my brain won’t allow me. any advice?
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I really dont know if it is ocd anymore I dont want certain sexual things with my bf anymore that i used to like When i envision it with a girl it is so easy to envision and it feels like i want that , that will give me the satisfaction This feeling is making me really question if i am still into men , desire men sexually Is this still ocd , i really dont know anymore , as it is a feeling it is too real
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Hi everyone, I’m a 30-year-old woman, and I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 5 years. I’ve always felt emotionally close to him — he’s caring, supportive, and we planned a future together, including having a family. I don’t want to leave him. He means so much to me. But for a while now, I’ve been obsessing over the fact that I don’t feel much sexual attraction to him anymore. It’s not like I never felt anything — when we first met, there were butterflies, excitement, emotional connection… something real. He was never “just a friend” to me. But the physical side of the relationship feels like it’s slowly faded, and I’m panicking about what that means. I keep thinking things like: – “Maybe I chose the wrong person.” – “You can’t be in love without sexual desire.” – “If I was truly in love, I would still want him.” – “What if I’ve been lying to myself this whole time?” Sometimes my body reacts — I can feel physical closeness or even arousal — but my mind shuts down and says: “no, this isn’t right.” Other times, I feel tension, resistance, or even disgust during intimacy, and I can’t tell if that’s anxiety or if something is fundamentally wrong. What makes this even more confusing is that I truly believe that real love includes sexual attraction. For me, it’s all part of one feeling — not separate. So if the attraction is gone, does that mean the love is too? Is it possible that this is still OCD — that my mind is obsessing and disconnecting me from my real feelings? Has anyone experienced something similar? Any support would mean so much. I feel so stuck between my mind and my heart.
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