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That is my biggest fear too, actually my OCD revolves around fear of losing him. I also had nightmares about him leaving me. What type of OCD do you have?
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- 5y ago
I also have this fear. Unfortunately mine has got to the point where I have the fear of getting pregnant by touching ANYTHING another man has touched. I have been suffering with this particular one for almost 5 years (the same amount of time I have been with my boyfriend). It has absolutely controlled my life and honestly put a huge struggle on my relationship. Now I KNOW how complete irrational this fear is. But it doesn’t make the obsessive thoughts go away. But yours is very common. They even have a name for it; Relationship OCD aka, ROCD.
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I know from experience it’s the hardest thing to do but for me it helps to make the OCD think it doesn’t phase you. So for instance, I say to myself “so what if it doesn’t work out, there are other fish in the sea” now I KNOW that sounds like the worst advice and it’s would make your anxiety shoot through the roof but you just have to keep pushing through it. And when you realize your still together and in love with your boyfriend. The OCD will realize that fear doesn’t bother you anymore and should diminish. For me since I have physical compulsions I have lately been saying to myself and/or out loud “do the opposite” so when I want and feel the need to wash my hands or Lysol anything that is “contaminated” I say “do the opposite” and of course my anxiety goes sky high but it does come down and I’m amazed by how then some of the smaller triggers (since that’s as far as I have gotten so far) go away and don’t bother me as much.
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smallbird, its a little complicated. i had a previous therapist who almost diagnosed me with OCD but then she closed her practice before we could get into it more. its taken me a while to find a new therapist (and also come to terms with my OCD symptoms), but i literally JUST found a new one and told her i believe i have OCD (specifically ROCD, among others), so eventually i will hear from her regarding an official diagnosis.
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- 18w ago
I’ve just recently found out that Relationship OCD is a thing. I feel like I relate but it also feels like relationship trauma. I’m in a fairly new relationship and I keep telling myself that things are going great, we are good, he cares for me, but does he? There’s this unbelievable amount of self doubt that sits in me because of what my ex did to me many months ago. I kept getting told that I do too much, i smother, need constant reassurance, then got told that I don’t care enough, the things I do aren’t enough and that I’m not enough. I feel like I am waiting for the day that I get broken up with because of these “problems” just so I can be proven right at the fact that I should be considered unlovable. I go through this every month around my period because I get so emotional and nervous that I stress over the idea that he doesn’t like me. How does someone continue a relationship with Relationship OCD? How do I explain it?
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- 13w ago
These past few days I was fine. Minimal intrusive thoughts ,no anxiety etc(to add I'm on medication so maybe it's starting to work although it barely is 2 weeks) and today I got a sudden wave of anxiety and it started latching on some thoughts like" what if I'm in denial and I wanna break up with my bf? And what if erp doesn't work for me because I actually wanna break up with my bf?" But they didn't really stay long usually those thoughts would make me spiral for days or so, now they lasted for some hours. And now I'm trying to trigger myself into being anxious again because if I don't it means I don't have ocd and if I don't have ocd it means I don't love my bf and if I don't love my bf it means I have to break up. Idk if it makes sense but the lack of anxiety makes me wonder if I actually have ocd or not.
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- 12w ago
I'm struggling really hard with relationship obsessions. Do I really love my partner? How can I know? Am I really just faking it? That kind of thing. It's making my life and relationship a lot harder than they need to be. I could use a few helpful coping mechanisms, trying to move away from less helpful ones like chasing reassurance.
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