I have this incessant worry that my boyfriend will break up with me, even when I know we're doing great (which 95% of the time, we are). Recently, it has manifested into nightmares that recur almost every night. I'm awake and currently writing this at 5:30am because I woke up from a really vivid one. The nightmares are making my daytime obsessions so much worse. I was wondering if any of you had this problem? I'm sort of at a loss.

That is my biggest fear too, actually my OCD revolves around fear of losing him. I also had nightmares about him leaving me. What type of OCD do you have?

I also have this fear. Unfortunately mine has got to the point where I have the fear of getting pregnant by touching ANYTHING another man has touched. I have been suffering with this particular one for almost 5 years (the same amount of time I have been with my boyfriend). It has absolutely controlled my life and honestly put a huge struggle on my relationship. Now I KNOW how complete irrational this fear is. But it doesn’t make the obsessive thoughts go away. But yours is very common. They even have a name for it; Relationship OCD aka, ROCD.

I know from experience it’s the hardest thing to do but for me it helps to make the OCD think it doesn’t phase you. So for instance, I say to myself “so what if it doesn’t work out, there are other fish in the sea” now I KNOW that sounds like the worst advice and it’s would make your anxiety shoot through the roof but you just have to keep pushing through it. And when you realize your still together and in love with your boyfriend. The OCD will realize that fear doesn’t bother you anymore and should diminish. For me since I have physical compulsions I have lately been saying to myself and/or out loud “do the opposite” so when I want and feel the need to wash my hands or Lysol anything that is “contaminated” I say “do the opposite” and of course my anxiety goes sky high but it does come down and I’m amazed by how then some of the smaller triggers (since that’s as far as I have gotten so far) go away and don’t bother me as much.

smallbird, its a little complicated. i had a previous therapist who almost diagnosed me with OCD but then she closed her practice before we could get into it more. its taken me a while to find a new therapist (and also come to terms with my OCD symptoms), but i literally JUST found a new one and told her i believe i have OCD (specifically ROCD, among others), so eventually i will hear from her regarding an official diagnosis.