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- 6y
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That is my biggest fear too, actually my OCD revolves around fear of losing him. I also had nightmares about him leaving me. What type of OCD do you have?
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I also have this fear. Unfortunately mine has got to the point where I have the fear of getting pregnant by touching ANYTHING another man has touched. I have been suffering with this particular one for almost 5 years (the same amount of time I have been with my boyfriend). It has absolutely controlled my life and honestly put a huge struggle on my relationship. Now I KNOW how complete irrational this fear is. But it doesn’t make the obsessive thoughts go away. But yours is very common. They even have a name for it; Relationship OCD aka, ROCD.
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I know from experience it’s the hardest thing to do but for me it helps to make the OCD think it doesn’t phase you. So for instance, I say to myself “so what if it doesn’t work out, there are other fish in the sea” now I KNOW that sounds like the worst advice and it’s would make your anxiety shoot through the roof but you just have to keep pushing through it. And when you realize your still together and in love with your boyfriend. The OCD will realize that fear doesn’t bother you anymore and should diminish. For me since I have physical compulsions I have lately been saying to myself and/or out loud “do the opposite” so when I want and feel the need to wash my hands or Lysol anything that is “contaminated” I say “do the opposite” and of course my anxiety goes sky high but it does come down and I’m amazed by how then some of the smaller triggers (since that’s as far as I have gotten so far) go away and don’t bother me as much.
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smallbird, its a little complicated. i had a previous therapist who almost diagnosed me with OCD but then she closed her practice before we could get into it more. its taken me a while to find a new therapist (and also come to terms with my OCD symptoms), but i literally JUST found a new one and told her i believe i have OCD (specifically ROCD, among others), so eventually i will hear from her regarding an official diagnosis.
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- 25w
Lately, I’ve been struggling with feelings that I might be sabotaging myself in my relationship. By sabotage, I mean that I find it hard to stop engaging in compulsions, like seeking reassurance or overanalyzing my thoughts. I also sometimes behave badly with my boyfriend, and the intrusive thoughts I have can completely change my mood. I love my boyfriend—he’s such a good, beautiful, and wonderful person—but I’m afraid these thoughts are going to ruin things. I truly want to love him, but I’m scared. I know the thoughts are anxiety-driven, but they still make me question if I’m forcing myself to stay with him. Today, for example, I felt okay earlier, but when he called me on video, I suddenly felt like I didn’t feel anything, and I started thinking I don’t like how he looks. These thoughts hit me like a wave, and I panicked. Usually, I find him very attractive, but when these thoughts come, I feel sad and disconnected. What’s confusing is that I also have many moments—like today and in the past few days—where I’ve felt really good and I’ve felt love for him. I feel awful writing this because my boyfriend doesn’t deserve this, and I feel like I’m posting out of habit. It makes me scared that I don’t want to accept the truth, even though I know I care about him. I hate feeling this way because it feels like I’m betraying him by having these thoughts and posting them. Has anyone else dealt with these feelings of sabotaging their relationship or feeling like they’re forcing themselves to stay? How do you cope when the thoughts feel like they’re true, and how do you work through the fear of letting go of anxiety
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When my boyfriend and I are apart, it honestly feels like I've lost all feelings for him. I start questioning everything, wondering if I even love him at all. Then, when we're finally together again, the memory of those earlier doubts creeps in and completely ruins the moment. I get so caught up in overthinking and analyzing my feelings that I can't even enjoy being with him. It's like I'm constantly second-guessing myself. The worst part is, sometimes later, when we're still together, I do feel the love. But then the anxiety kicks in again! I start worrying that I'm just faking it because I had those doubts earlier in the day. It's this endless cycle of questioning, doubting, and overthinking, and it's exhausting. I'm really struggling to stay present when we're together, and it feels like this constant cycle is preventing me from truly connecting with him. We have been together for three years and we love together, and I just started feeling this way about a month ago; it’s been almost every day since. One day, I randomly thought about breaking up with him. Our relationship is healthy, especially compared to my previous toxic one, where I was anxiously attached for two and a half years. My boyfriend is very supportive of me. I have talked to him about my doubts and everything I’m experiencing, and he continues to support, care for, and help me through it all. I am very grateful for that. One aspect of my current relationship that I would like to improve is our communication, but we are both willing to work on it together. I often find that my overthinking leads me to question whether I really want to try to fix things or if I’d rather just continue as we are. This creates a constant push and pull in our relationship. Has anyone else experienced something similar? Any advice on how to break this cycle and just be present in the moment? I'd love to hear from anyone who's been through something like this.
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I’ve been struggling with something that’s been really overwhelming, and I’m hoping to get some perspective from others here. I feel a lot of guilt about it, and I’m not sure if I’m alone in this experience. Lately, I’ve found myself daydreaming about romantic situations or getting caught up in ‘what if’ scenarios—where I wonder if I could develop feelings for someone else, or if someone develops feelings for me. The thing is, I’m in a relationship that I love, and I don’t want to act on these thoughts at all. What makes it even harder is that these thoughts often hyperfixate on one specific friend, and sometimes they feel entertaining or give me a dopamine rush. But then, of course, I feel even more guilty because it makes me feel like I’m betraying my boyfriend. These thoughts usually happen when I’m upset and looking for comfort, but then they morph into romantic scenarios, which makes me feel so disloyal. I’m constantly going back and forth between feeling curious or entertained by the thoughts and then feeling horrible for even allowing them to happen in the first place. I keep confessing these thoughts to my boyfriend, and he tries to be understanding. He’s just never been the type to daydream, so he doesn’t know if this is something other people experience or if it’s just me. I feel like such an awful girlfriend. Has anyone else dealt with something like this?
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