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- 6y
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That is my biggest fear too, actually my OCD revolves around fear of losing him. I also had nightmares about him leaving me. What type of OCD do you have?
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I also have this fear. Unfortunately mine has got to the point where I have the fear of getting pregnant by touching ANYTHING another man has touched. I have been suffering with this particular one for almost 5 years (the same amount of time I have been with my boyfriend). It has absolutely controlled my life and honestly put a huge struggle on my relationship. Now I KNOW how complete irrational this fear is. But it doesn’t make the obsessive thoughts go away. But yours is very common. They even have a name for it; Relationship OCD aka, ROCD.
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I know from experience it’s the hardest thing to do but for me it helps to make the OCD think it doesn’t phase you. So for instance, I say to myself “so what if it doesn’t work out, there are other fish in the sea” now I KNOW that sounds like the worst advice and it’s would make your anxiety shoot through the roof but you just have to keep pushing through it. And when you realize your still together and in love with your boyfriend. The OCD will realize that fear doesn’t bother you anymore and should diminish. For me since I have physical compulsions I have lately been saying to myself and/or out loud “do the opposite” so when I want and feel the need to wash my hands or Lysol anything that is “contaminated” I say “do the opposite” and of course my anxiety goes sky high but it does come down and I’m amazed by how then some of the smaller triggers (since that’s as far as I have gotten so far) go away and don’t bother me as much.
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smallbird, its a little complicated. i had a previous therapist who almost diagnosed me with OCD but then she closed her practice before we could get into it more. its taken me a while to find a new therapist (and also come to terms with my OCD symptoms), but i literally JUST found a new one and told her i believe i have OCD (specifically ROCD, among others), so eventually i will hear from her regarding an official diagnosis.
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- 25w
Me and my boyfriend have only been together for a short period of time....and he's head over heels for me...at least he says so. All the time I'm so scared he's going to break up with me or any time something is uncomfortable I shut down and think I did something or he's thinking about me in a negative way and I don't know how to stop it. He doesn't do anything to seem like he wants to break up with me, but any time he does something a little different then normal I immediately think of the worst. If he's being really quiet I'll be thinking *is he going to break up with me* *does he not want to be with me* *is he just hanging out with me right now because he wants a girlfriend to pass the time* all of that stuff. And honestly I'm so scared..... because what if my thoughts are true?
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Hello, this is my second post, not too long ago i made my first, talking about a sudden come-back of my intrusive thoughts. This post will talk about another of my issues, mainly regarding ocd (obviously) and relationships. As i had said before, i had been feeling terrible and felt like i didnt deserve love, especially the love of the guy that i love. I would like to add that in prior moments we have promised eachother and he has reassured me he will never leave me, but today he was pretty much gone all day (long distance) and for the most part ive just been overthinking, all night, actually.. thinking that at any moment he will just randomly block me on everything and never talk to me again. Its now 4:03 AM, and i just feel so scared. Im scared of losing him, this is predominantly because in a past relationship things ended suddenly, my ex switched up after we had promises and everything and i am absolutely horrified of things ending the same way for me and him. I’ve been anxious, trying to take my mind off of it, but if i do, my mind tells me that if i look away, when i look back, i’ll miss it and he’ll have already blocked me. and tries to tie in earlier conversations i had throughout the day and somehow ties them back to now. (Like my bestfriend telling me she had some dream where i apologized to my friends for ‘leaving’) For the past few hours ive just been out of it. Im scared of being obsessive, Im scared of losing him, and whenever i check to see, my heart skips a beat because i thinks he’s gone. The thing is, I know this isnt the case, and I know there must be an explanation, but for some reason im still worried. and I know these thoughts arent a reflection of reality, but ive also had the idea that my thoughts can also affect what actually happens. I would also like to add that he lives in the US and is mexican, and with the increasing violent situation, my mind even starts to wander off and ask itself what if something happened to him? It makes it worse. because i can’t control it. and that makes me afraid. Im also worried about being a horrible partner, about everything failing and its all just making me feel worse. Yesterday morning I woke up feeling sort of out of it, and throughout the day i felt as if i were emotionless, which made me wonder what if i had lost emotions for him? this also happens to me sometimes. I, for some reason begin thinking like “you lost your love for him nothings gonna happen ever.” and my mind starts making up reasons why, or simply gives me this feeling of emptiness for that love, as if i have been detached from it. and then i overthink again “what if i actually dont love him but im just obsessed and thats all it is an obsession and none of it is real?” that last part, im feeling it right now. along with everything else. Im exhausted, Im tired, and i just want to be happy with him. Thank you to all those who choose to read this. thank you. ❤️ Edit: I would also like to add that ive been also dealing with the occasional regular intrusive thoughts. which dont form fully in my brain but i can still sort of, “feel” the intrusive thoughts uncomfortable themes.
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- 12w
Hi all, I’m F(20) and I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend M(20) for 10 months now. Lately it feels like I’ve been getting triggered at the tiniest thing. My relationship OCD is centered around the idea that my bf will leave me, that suddenly his feelings will change and he’ll never look back. Inherently I know this is irrational and I know he loves me very much (as he tells me repeatedly when I compulsively ask for reassurance). I just can’t make my brain stop. I just feel so unsecured. He will mention that one of his friends drove an hour to see him for only 30 minutes. I will then spiral that I am not possibly doing enough and it’s because he’s secretly done with me and he’s longing for a reason to leave and go be with this friend instead. See? Truly irrational. But I cannot stop it. Any tips at all? Maybe I’m at least not alone in this. I often feel literally insane:(
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