My last ERP therapist was aggressive. Not sure if it’s supposed to be that way but I always felt worse after our sessions. Is that suppose to happen? Can ERP not work for everyone?
For me, I didn’t like therapy because my therapist did not give me reassurance for my anxiety. That can be off putting for someone with OCD that is used to everyone reassuring them. But the goal is to not seek reassurance anymore
Hello! Generally speaking, I think that you have to find the right therapist, I think the development of rapport is key to any good therapeutic alliance. If the first therapist wasn't a fit then I think you keep looking- I went through a few before finding the right fit. In terms of OCD- I would just caution that OCD may try and convince you that you don't want to do the treatment or find sneaky ways to sabotage your progress. Not saying that is what this is- just keep it in mind. Make sure avoidance isn't at work. But if you felt like you needed something else then definitely find what you need, you deserve that.
Hi, I went through a couple of therapists before liking one. Make sure they are experts at OCD and have treated others before. I can see why after a session you feel worse. Your therapist gives you/ you do exposure during the session that heightens your anxiety. When you leave the session you have to deal with that anxiety alone. Maybe ask your therapist for ways to deal with anxiety afterwards if that is the reason you feel worse after.
I am sorry that you are having a difficult time. It is common to feel worse after doing ERP at first, because we are learning something new and it will take our brain a while to accept our new response. That being said, I think it is important to be comfortable with the therapist you are working with or I would think, although I can't be sure, that it would have an impact on your recovery. Communication is key - so if the therapist is moving too fast or asking you to do something that you are not ready to do, you need to voice that to the therapist. You are in charge of your care, but if the therapist is unaware of how you feel, then he or she cannot fix it. I hope that you find someone that you are comfortable working with and are able to continue the ERP therapy.
Hi everyone. I'm feeling kinda scared because I have to wait a whole month to start ERP therapy, but I feel like I need to start doing exposures now because the longer I wait, the more anxiety I get. It just feels like the OCD monster is getting worse. One thing that helps me is asking one person about an obsession I have...asking a person that I trust, and then doing an exposure after I get the "ok" to do it. I feel like I do need 1 reassurance and then I can go ahead and do it. I know i'm not supposed to ask for reassurance at all, but i dont think you're supposed to do ERP on your own right? Does anyone have any suggestions for what to do while waiting for therapy? PS-the reason there is a wait is bc she's on vacation. After she's back we will meet regularly.
So you got to ask me anything… Now I’d like to ask you something! I’ve heard from Members that they were so scared coming to their first ERP session. They were terrified that I would think they were crazy, that I would tell them their worst fears were true. That I would confirm they are some form of a terrible person or have them hauled off to prison for their thoughts. I’ve also had Members share how they’re very scared to begin ERP treatment because they’ve researched enough to know it means facing the fear, without the compulsions that have kept them feeling safe (but not really safe) this entire time. They struggled to see how they could be capable of doing this, while simultaneously acknowledging that they did not want to live like this anymore. If you have had your first session, what were your thoughts before? Did you have any hesitations or fears going into it? How did it turn out? If you haven’t yet begun to work with an ERP specialist, what is holding you back?
Can I hear some examples of specific parts of ERP that has helped you? I've been doing talk therapy for a few years and the major issue I have with it is that I already have analyzed all of my problems from every angle, so I'm kind of just sitting there yapping about it for an hour. I need solutions and things that make me feel better.
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