- Username
- justtryingmybest
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Don't stress it too much. I was watching a documentary about a women with D.I.D the other day and I startes worrying I was gonna get ocd about having D.I.D, I felt like a shift inside my brain but I immediately shut it off. The key is to not let it affect you otherwise it may become an obession
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how do you shut it off though?? i keep using self talk and stuff and it helps i guess. the thing is that i’m kinda worried that if i treat it like ocd and say “yup i’m trans” then it’ll turn into ocd, ya know?? so i’ve just been telling myself, “hey it’s ok. this is just a thought. that’s it. it’s not an emergency, there’s no need to be scared about it. these thoughts about becoming trans and it becoming ocd are welcome in your mind. you’re ok” i don’t even think about this until my brain forces me to think about it...if that makes sense lol. its not intrusive like my HOCD. i don’t get constant thoughts and i’m not always thinking about it. actually, i’m never thinking about it—except when i do. it’s so weird, i can be doing great and i haven’t thought about it once in however long and then my brain just goes “oops you forgot to think about this!” it’s so annoying. it’s like my brain WANTS me to think about it and REMINDS me to think about it ugh.
One thing that helps with ocd is to either watch the thoughts pass and try to no react or label them or ignore them. Since it's not constant it's not an obession, so when it pops out you gotta observe it as if it was a cloud passing by. Remember ocd feeds off fear the less you react the better it goes. I relate to last part a lot and one thing that I've learnt is that the sooner you let these thoughts be the quicker your mind will get bored of them
thank you so much!! ur such a big help
No worries :) :)
I have This right now haha. It’s like the thought is making me uncomfortable and anxious? Idk. I am trying to not let it form
I’m new to this app and just wanted to share my story. As a young girl I definitely had compulsions. My mom always told me she would take me to a psychiatrist (I would cry when people sat on my bed). Anyways, as I got older I definitely grew out of a lot of things. I’ve never been diagnosed with OCD but I have GAD. I know I definitely have OCD because I have done a lot of research. Recently I have really, really been struggling with HOCD. I’ve never experienced this before, and that’s why it’s making it more scary. I’m a young adult woman and have been in a very serious relationship with a male for many years. I love him so much. I am also very athletic and not very girly. I always loved the fact that I was a guys gal, but lately it has made me super insecure. A lot of people at school assume I’m bisexual because I’m super pro LGBTQ rights and idk? Idk why I give off that “vibe”. It never bothered me, I always thought it was funny, and I have no issue with being gay, but I’m definitely not?! During this quarantine my guy friends have said I have way way more guy friends than girl friends, someone asked my teammate if I was bisexual, and I have never had an orgasm from my boyfriend. It started really getting in my head and I keep being like “am I gay and that’s why I don’t orgasm”. This seems so pathetic and writing this actually helps and makes me realize there is no way I like women. But anyways THE THOUGHTS DO NOT STOP. I keep worrying that I do not know myself, and maybe I don’t love my bf, and maybe other people see something I don’t. Anyways, how can I help myself? I am noticing I’m reassuring and checking and starting compulsions
I find it really hard to accept the uncertainty of the thoughts. I mean i used to have HOCD and accepting the possiblility that i might be gay was really stressing, but i manage to control it and now i don't have uncertainty with that. I have a boyfriend now but i think i would be with a girl too. The problem is with this other obsesion, fear about being Trans, TOCD? I find it a lot more difficult to accept the uncertainty. Cause it's like okay it's not my sexuality, it's my identity, i have to change who i am, my gender? And not being certain about that scares me a lot. Im really tired of asking myself so do you identify as a man or a woman? It's hard to stop rumiaiting cause it's all in my head. My question is how do you accept the uncertainty of not knowing and being okay with it? Do you have any tips?
TW: GENDER OCD Okay, I posted a lil while ago about SO-OCD, but I have recently been suffering Gender OCD too. And unlike SO-OCD, this one is blowing a hole through my heart. I have never once questioned my gender. I’ve helped my trans and NB friends come out, and never once thought about my gender. But ever since my SO-OCD started and then died down, the thoughts about my gender cropped up. They range from two thoughts: I’m nonbinary, or I’m a gay trans dude in denial. And the latter one freaks me out so much, because I love reading queer media (I’m bi, and so many of my fave book series focus on gay couples), and my brain uses that as an excuse that I like it because I actually AM a gay guy. The thought is paralyzingly, and I can’t even begin to think of a way to overcome it like SO-OCD because the thought of me ‘accepting’ it as true scares the hell out of me. I can’t enjoy my favourite books anymore, or my favourite TV shows/movies. Anything with a gay couple makes my brain think I want to literally be one of them, when before I could just enjoy it for what it was, a story with queer characters. My connection to my gender is something I’ve always held dear to me, and the thought of being pulled from it is heartbreaking, and also makes me feel extremely guilty because I support trans rights so much, so why am I so scared of being trans/NB? How do I even begin to get over this when the idea of accepting the thought terrifies me? How do I begin to convince the anxiety that just because I enjoyed reading/watching something doesn’t mean I actually want it to happen in real life?
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