idk how to explain this but i’ll try the best i can lol: ok so one night i was in bed and scrolling through this app and focusing on not doing compulsions for my HOCD (hearing other ppls stories can trigger me sometimes so i use them as exposures). anyway i read a post about someone who had HOCD & TransOCD. i thought “poor guy, that must be really hard”. then of course i thought “am i trans?” but i didn’t even worry about it because it’s one of those things that just isn’t something i need to worry about you know? it almost seems silly to worry about haha. anyway, the thought didn’t give me anxiety—almost at all (because for me it’s just a no brainer). then i started to get all worried about getting TransOCD, even if i really wasn’t fearful about becoming trans. so basically, i know i’m not trans, i’m not questioning who i am, and the thought of being trans doesn’t really make me nervous or afraid (because i just know it’s not true)—i’m just worried that this will turn into another OCD type...and THAT is what i’m obsessing on. how do i help that???

Don't stress it too much. I was watching a documentary about a women with D.I.D the other day and I startes worrying I was gonna get ocd about having D.I.D, I felt like a shift inside my brain but I immediately shut it off. The key is to not let it affect you otherwise it may become an obession

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how do you shut it off though?? i keep using self talk and stuff and it helps i guess. the thing is that i’m kinda worried that if i treat it like ocd and say “yup i’m trans” then it’ll turn into ocd, ya know?? so i’ve just been telling myself, “hey it’s ok. this is just a thought. that’s it. it’s not an emergency, there’s no need to be scared about it. these thoughts about becoming trans and it becoming ocd are welcome in your mind. you’re ok” i don’t even think about this until my brain forces me to think about it...if that makes sense lol. its not intrusive like my HOCD. i don’t get constant thoughts and i’m not always thinking about it. actually, i’m never thinking about it—except when i do. it’s so weird, i can be doing great and i haven’t thought about it once in however long and then my brain just goes “oops you forgot to think about this!” it’s so annoying. it’s like my brain WANTS me to think about it and REMINDS me to think about it ugh.

One thing that helps with ocd is to either watch the thoughts pass and try to no react or label them or ignore them. Since it's not constant it's not an obession, so when it pops out you gotta observe it as if it was a cloud passing by. Remember ocd feeds off fear the less you react the better it goes. I relate to last part a lot and one thing that I've learnt is that the sooner you let these thoughts be the quicker your mind will get bored of them

thank you so much!! ur such a big help

No worries :) :)