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- scared91
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- 5y ago
I know, I tried to do the same but I get so stressed.Maybe I don't know how to actually do it and I would like to know
Have you tried practicing mindfulness? I think that’s what you’re getting at. “Accepting” doesn’t mean “validating at true.” It just means that you acknowledge the thought and move on without sticking around to examine it and “figure it out.” In mindfulness, you watch each thought float by, notice it, and let it go.
Just repeat it an intrusive thought and move forward to what you were thinking about before don’t even try to reason with it or try to figure out ways it is wrong just think about it day is an intrusive thought and continue with what you were doing is hard at first but with practice it I’ll become easier
So say you see a little girl, you have the thought “she’s pretty.” And then cringe at yourself for thinking that. Normally: you’d start going “oh god, why did I think that. What’s wrong with me. Why does this keep happening... etc” you’d probably look at her again to “check” how you feel when you look at her. And the thought spiral would continue from there. All of that is OCD. Rather: Acknowledge what just happened to yourself, ie “oh hi there thought about her being pretty. I see you. And that made me kind of anxious. But rather than follow you, I’m going to focus back on what I was doing before now. Bye.” And refocus your attention. As you get better at acknowledging and letting go, you can shorten the script in your head: “I just thought that girl was pretty. Okay. Moving on.”
So if I see a cute girl just say intrusive thought? X
That's great pure thanks a lot. But why do I feel as though I am attracted and I'm just trying to justify it etc? :(
Cause you have OCD! Ask anyone with OCD about their thoughts and each person will tell you they often think they’re just in denial of their “real” self and urges and are trying to make themselves feel like a better/different person. (They’re not.) This isn’t a community of people with secret identities. This is a community of people who’s brains score higher in conscientiousness, so they’re more in tune with and concerned about what’s right and good and want to perform well at that. Which is exactly why our brains go, “oh yeah, you’re so good, so what if I made you think THIS?” And throws out whatever is actually our worst internal fear because we deem it the most disturbing.
My OCD is spiking in the form of pOCD today. This particular type seems really scary to me because this type is the one that has led me to more severe panic attacks and this is the one that led me to discover that I really needed help. It feels like I let this go too far and went untreated for too long, and now my brain just makes the association whenever I'm exposed to a trigger, which leads straight to terrifying and horrendous thoughts instead of the usual tests to prove I'm not a pedophile. For anyone who has wrestled with pOCD: how do you sit with these thoughts? I understand that with OCD, you often times (or maybe always, I'm a bit new to this) need to learn to accept your thoughts as they are. When your thoughts are so horrendous and difficult to have, how do you accept them?
When people tell me to accept it, do they mean accept the thought or accept that you have these thoughts. Because I have Suicidal OCD and I get these thoughts and just can’t accept that I could do something like that
Right now I'm dealing with Pocd, and my main obsession is like age checking ? Whenever I see someone somewhat attractive I always have a thought saying "what if they were underage and you found them attractive " do I just dismiss the thought? Because it really does bother me but at the same time I'd like to know. Or one time some girl appeared on social media to look older and I found her attractive but once I saw her age I freaked out & felt so uneasy and uncomfy.
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