rocd help

i dont know what to do on the one hand i love my bf but on the other hand there are so much things that are bothering me. i get so easily pissed off sometimes im so mad at him. I consistently think that he will cheat on me that he likes other girls more or that he finds them prettier he says he loves me but i dont believe him i dont trust him . im not happy even though i love him i really do i want this relationship but in the next time i think about bad things and want to end it please help me

spookycupcake

Date posted: 2y ago

Same the things that bother me and piss me off make me spiral, I actually just posted about it. I also worry about my bf cheating and even though I know he wouldn’t it still is something I get anxious about.

Fuzzybears10_

Date posted: 2y ago

I relate so much and it’s so painful and mentally exhausting. The minute I feel happy I think how can I possibly be happy when he’s out there probably looking at other women or secretly admiring them then I think it’s impossible that he doesn’t and I get so mad and I feel so worthless It’s tough 😞

Jesus loves ...

Date posted: 2y ago

Oh I get this completely!! I feel like my insecure thoughts make me cause unneeded destruction in my marriage. I realized something though. My husband can tell me a million times I’m the most beautiful girl in the world to him and he wants to spend the rest of his life with me.. but I mostly don’t believe it. It’s not that he can fix that. It’s an internal issue. I do this because of how I feel about myself. I think I’m ugly. I think I’m this or that so he MUST think that. You have to be able to look at yourself and love yourself. If you can’t do that it’s hard to accept it from someone else. Your boyfriend can’t FIX you or make you believe in what he’s saying. All he can do is continue to be patient, understanding, and make you feel loved. But this is an internal issue within yourself. I saw a video the other day that said just because someone else has beautiful qualities, it doesn’t take away from your beautiful qualities and make you any less beautiful. Because you have your own. That really helped me. This is coming from someone that feels exactly that way. But don’t give up on the relationship. Its normal to get really angry and feel this way when you feel deep insecurities. Hang in there. I’m sorry you feel this way :(

anonym2004

Date posted: 2y ago

@Jesus loves you thank you. this helps me a lot 🤍

goinkrazy

Date posted: 21w ago

planning to break up with my boyfriend cuz of rocd

i couldn't take this anymore. maybe i'll just let ocd win this time. it's too hard to not have a clear conscience everytime i'm with my bf cuz my mind is telling me i'm unfaithful and don't deserve to be happy. i feel like i'll never get better anymore. i already told myself many times to stop attracting attention from other people especially to people i'm having false attraction to. but i did it again yesterday, right after i smiled a little extra in front of that girl i might be attracted to i could feel the massive anxiety in my chest. already decided last week that i might be actually attracted to her so it's best to fully avoid her. i avoided her with the best i could, but we're in the same classroom and i saw her in my peripheral vision looking at us (my bf and i) whispered to myself not to make any mistake i'll regret, but then i felt like i lose control and laugh a little extra. i searched micro cheating and it says there "trying to impress someone you're attracted to" and now i want to break up with my bf. the guilt is too strong. i couldn't sleep at night.

Mariabae

Date posted: 15w ago

i am distressed and panicked

My rocd is making me disconected from my boyfriend thinking he is cringe and that i dont know him or i dont like him for real, making me question the times i was happy thinking i was pretending and i was just thinking i am happy and in love but i wasnt… when i think abt my boyfriend i cant feel happiness… im scared. Yesterday we talked he said he is happy when we talked he sais how happy he is and that if i dont feel the same i should not panic (hw knows about my thoughts) i am so sad, i dont want to be like this forever, im scared

Songtothesiren

Date posted: 13w ago

Rocd

Does Rocd make it nearly impossible to forgive your partner for anything. Whether it is big or small? My situation is so gray area where there’s something my bf did that I feel like I’m not okay with but he did this when we were first dating (not bf and gf yet). I ruminate all day about it bc I don’t want to lose him and see a future with him and I know he loves me so purely. But I also feel like I’m going against my morals here bc I do feel betrayed by what he did. I try to forgive him by diminishing my feelings and telling myself “he never did anything physical with a girl or went out with another girl while we were together” but still feel so hurt that he even messaged another girl while us dating. He’s given me an explanation and has proved how much I can trust him so I’m just completely stuck on whether I should forgive something I know I would’ve never done to him or leave him even though the only thing he’s done wrong was before us becoming official. I’ve broken up with him countless times over this situation bc I feel like I “can’t live with it” but then immediately when we break up I want him back and I kind of understand his explanation and reasoning. I don’t know what is ocd and what is my real intuition anymore. I genuinely think it’s both. Are any of you guys in the same boat?

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