Annella
- Date posted
- 2y
Long distance relationship
how come my bf is fine with going long periods without me? he has said he doesn’t mind it and why is he so much less unbothered by it than i am
moonjoymoonjoy
- Date posted
- 2y
i understand this. tbh i honestly came to the conclusion that i just need to learn how to be ok with enjoying time alone as well. i can relate because my bf can enjoy moments even when he is without me for a bit. i understand tho. its hard because then u start thinking like “damn am i not a missable person?” or things like “does he like being around me?” stuff like that, but i learned that people can love the time with you and without you and it doesn’t take away the joy they get when they do see you. i do understand tho. i have to work on this myself
AnnellaAnnella
- Date posted
- 2y
I am so glad you can relate. I try to be okay with this but then he does this: he has been in Japan for 2 weeks and after he got back I could not see him for awhile and then he finds out his tire has a nail in it. So then I am not able to see him until the car is fixed and he told me he would visit me as soon as it was fixed...but then his brother wanted to use his car out of no where to go on a ski trip with his friends and my bf lets him use it. it made me so furious because he switched the plan on me when i have already been waiting a month to see him but his whole thing is that he will see me in a few days so it will be okay but he does not understand why i am so crushed by his choice and how it makes me feel like he doesnt want me.
hellopeoplehellopeople
- User type
- NOCD Alumni
- Date posted
- 2y
Hi! With any “what if” ocd thought we have to sit through the uncomfortable feelings, you can do it :)
AnonymousAnonymous
- User type
- Staff
- Date posted
- 2y
I know that this feels really hard, especially in the moments that it happens. I think that everyone is so different in how they react to various situations. Something someone once told me that helped me in a different scenario was that maybe it isn't that one is right and the other isn't- maybe you are both right in your way of handling situations, it doesn't have to be either or. You both come from different histories that shape who you are and how you respond. I think that relationships are about learning about each other and finding ways to compromise and allow each other to feel what they feel. Hope this helps somewhat.
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