Hudi123
- Date posted
- 2y
HOCD or not
All my brain keeps saying is how do I know if this is OCD? I know reassurance won’t help but my brain just can’t stop questioning with my HOCD anyone have any ideas on how to make it stop
Priyanka Priyanka
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- NOCD Alumni
- Date posted
- 2y
That is the tricky thing about OCD, your ocd will make you question is it really ocd. Use this example in your ERP if you are in therapy and have an exposure on “no this isn’t ocd it’s real” and sit with the uncertainty. It is hard, just trust process and treat this just as an intrusive thought. I had the same thoughts as well and still do at times thinking is this actually ocd or not. It’s hard but I believe in you. Wish you the best in your recovery journey ❤️
AnonymousAnonymous
- User type
- Staff
- Date posted
- 2y
I know that this can feel so hard. I always tell people that a good rule of thumb in determining if something is OCD related is to ask yourself A). does it come with a sense of urgency- like I need to KNOW right now? B). Do I feel I need certainty right now- immediacy and C). Am I feeling anxious and uncomfortable- does it feel like OCD symptoms usually make me feel? These are red flags that something probably is OCD related. Remember OCD is all about doubt- it wants to make you doubt anything and everything that is of importance to you. The idea is not to get rid of the thoughts- I know that would be nice- but everyone has similar thoughts- they bother you, likely because you have OCD- so the key here is to allow the discomfort, recognize that there will never feel like enough certainty when you have OCD and that you can still live your life. YOu can do the hard stuff.
zebravazebrava
- Date posted
- 2y
well therapy
Priyanka Priyanka
- User type
- NOCD Alumni
- Date posted
- 2y
Also this thinking is something called meta ocd, here is a great article about it https://nocd.page.link/jR7SM1VHW9494UCB8
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