Rocd

I’m in this stage too. It’s really hard during this stage but I’ve learned this is really the ocd talking. It’s a doubting disorder that eventually will make you doubt you even have ocd. What’s helped me is responding to the thoughts saying “maybe i love him maybe I don’t” I don’t need to accept the thought but I just recognize it’s there and try to let it fly by. (It takes a lot of effort tho) if that’s too triggering right now then just try to label every doubting thought about your relationship or if you even have ocd as “ocd thinking.” That helps, for me at least, put things in perspective and get a sense of reality

Thank you both for the post and response. It’s soothing to know that I am not the only one and that the thoughts can change. I’m wondering how long these intrusive thoughts can last ?

I been dealing with this for 1 year

I make lists of good qualities- sometimes going back to the good qualities I appreciate about my person help. Also, I don’t always have to be IN LOVE with him to be choosing the relationship. My kids make me crazy a lot and I don’t feel overwhelming love for them everyday but I choose them everyday. I think maybe love could be consistently choosing even when someone is less than loveable. I think I would feel more loved if someone liked me even on my worst days - maybe my partner feels the same?