Anonymous
- Date posted
- 6y
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 6y
No, he just mentioned it as a joke cause I said I had a yeast infection which was actually caused by horrible amount of stress. He's always joking like that, but I know it is actually his insecurity and huge trust issue he has. He accuses me of cheating a lot, so I know if I have some sort of std he wouldn't believe it was from him and he would leave me even though I never cheated on him, I love him more than anything in the world.
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 6y
Yes, I understand that, thank you for answering ♡ I love him so much...it's so hard to accept that he can be so mean and so unfair sometimes, but the truth is I never talked about it with him, I will try that definitely. I still have hope he will understand that his behaviour is not okay.
djsognaldjsognal
- Date posted
- 6y
Wait... he has it? Or just mentioned it?
djsognaldjsognal
- Date posted
- 6y
Hmmm, well you really shouldn't allow him to accuse you of cheating on you if it bothers you, that's controlling and emotionally abusive and I'd at least talk to him about it. Maybe I'm misunderstanding his intent though.
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 6y
It is some sort of emotional abuse unfortunately, but I feel completely powerless cause I just know he wouldn't believe me, no matter how much I try to logically explain it to him. And now I have this new obsession because of his sarcastic "jokes" :( I probably have to disregard it, but as always, the problem is that it feels real.
djsognaldjsognal
- Date posted
- 6y
I had someone trying to do the exact same thing to me of late, multiple times. It's gaslighting. I would suggest that you talk to him about it and ask him to stop, but I doubt he will. You deserve better than to have someone you purportedly love accuse you of things you didn't do.
pureolifepureolife
- Date posted
- 6y
This is definitely emotional abuse and in most cases that means you need to leave. I don’t see any evidence that your partner recognizes this as a problem or wants to change. If you left them, I think you’d see a dramatic decrease in your OCD symptoms and while the breakup would be sad you’d eventually be soooooo much happier both alone and with someone else someday.
djsognaldjsognal
- Date posted
- 6y
If you haven't communicated it with him clearly, it's only fair to give it a shot. Good luck! But just make sure that this relationship is the right thing for you. This isn't something where you two need to compromise. If he continues accusing you of these things and it makes you uncomfortable, it needs to change. We're here for you ♥
pureolifepureolife
- Date posted
- 6y
I understand that you love him. And that makes it hard to leave. But you can both love him and recognize that he’s not good for you and unwilling to treat you the way you deserve to be treated. If you wait until you no longer love him to leave, you may never do so. And you’ll spend your entire life in this misery. If you go, and see how amazing life can be without him, you’ll see how bad the situation really was. And you’ll be proud of yourself for respecting your own self worth.
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