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- 6y
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- 6y
No, he just mentioned it as a joke cause I said I had a yeast infection which was actually caused by horrible amount of stress. He's always joking like that, but I know it is actually his insecurity and huge trust issue he has. He accuses me of cheating a lot, so I know if I have some sort of std he wouldn't believe it was from him and he would leave me even though I never cheated on him, I love him more than anything in the world.
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- 6y
Yes, I understand that, thank you for answering ♡ I love him so much...it's so hard to accept that he can be so mean and so unfair sometimes, but the truth is I never talked about it with him, I will try that definitely. I still have hope he will understand that his behaviour is not okay.
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- 6y
Wait... he has it? Or just mentioned it?
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- 6y
Hmmm, well you really shouldn't allow him to accuse you of cheating on you if it bothers you, that's controlling and emotionally abusive and I'd at least talk to him about it. Maybe I'm misunderstanding his intent though.
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- 6y
It is some sort of emotional abuse unfortunately, but I feel completely powerless cause I just know he wouldn't believe me, no matter how much I try to logically explain it to him. And now I have this new obsession because of his sarcastic "jokes" :( I probably have to disregard it, but as always, the problem is that it feels real.
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- 6y
I had someone trying to do the exact same thing to me of late, multiple times. It's gaslighting. I would suggest that you talk to him about it and ask him to stop, but I doubt he will. You deserve better than to have someone you purportedly love accuse you of things you didn't do.
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- 6y
This is definitely emotional abuse and in most cases that means you need to leave. I don’t see any evidence that your partner recognizes this as a problem or wants to change. If you left them, I think you’d see a dramatic decrease in your OCD symptoms and while the breakup would be sad you’d eventually be soooooo much happier both alone and with someone else someday.
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- 6y
If you haven't communicated it with him clearly, it's only fair to give it a shot. Good luck! But just make sure that this relationship is the right thing for you. This isn't something where you two need to compromise. If he continues accusing you of these things and it makes you uncomfortable, it needs to change. We're here for you ♥
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- 6y
I understand that you love him. And that makes it hard to leave. But you can both love him and recognize that he’s not good for you and unwilling to treat you the way you deserve to be treated. If you wait until you no longer love him to leave, you may never do so. And you’ll spend your entire life in this misery. If you go, and see how amazing life can be without him, you’ll see how bad the situation really was. And you’ll be proud of yourself for respecting your own self worth.
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- 25w
I know he’s not cheating on me. He’d never do that and, as hard as I try to tell myself “he’s proven already that he’s not” and show myself all the signs of commitment and dedication, I still have that fear. It’s eating at me and ruining my relationship. How do you guys get over this? If my brain were true he’d have been cheating on me for months in ways that aren’t even possible. It doesn’t make sense if I think about it logically but it seems like when I do, I create in my head more ways for it to be logically true. What is your advice? How can I stop self sabotaging?
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- 22w
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- 21w
I'm 18, and been in a relationship with my man for nearly 2 years. I started living with him around 2 months ago, and all I do is think about if he's cheating. We were long distance for a year and a half of our relationship, maybe seeing eachother once every month or two. I decided to move in with him, and ever since all I can think about is if he's cheating or watching porn. When he's in another room I think he's doing something wrong, I have to check on him every ten minutes to ease my anxiety. I didn't have this problem before moving in. Granted he has talked to some girls on his phone, even having his ex on his phone (didn't do anything bad) and he is porn addicted though he is getting better for me. It's gotten so bad I want to leave him. A couple days ago I broke up with him and it absolutely broke my heart, I couldn't bare it so I gave him a month to show me he can do better, and for me to work on myself. If I'm still unhappy with us I'm going to leave. I love this boy more than anything. I'm scared to be without him, this is my first real relationship. At this point I refuse to even sleep until he is sleeping. I don't want to start over, I don't want to leave him, but I really can't take this pain it's causing me. It's all I think about. I've convinced myself so many times that he's cheating, but I know he wouldn't. I question whether it's anxiety or intuition. Maybe I just know deep down he really is cheating and I just don't want to believe it. I don't know. I don't think he would do that, but at the same time he's really into women. I hate that he looks at other girls in a sexual way, it bothers me so much, and we talk about it often, but with it being an addiction it's difficult. He has gotten a lot better since we have talked about it. He understands I have an issue and is usually happy to talk about it over and over and promise me over and over that he's not cheating. He allows me to have his phone whenever I want and everything, I have no reason to think he's cheating, but I can't get over it. It's not fair to him either. How do I deal with this? How do I stop hurting so much?
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