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how can i deal with what if thoughts, i do have a post up already but no one has commented š£ struggling
how can i deal with what if thoughts, i do have a post up already but no one has commented š£ struggling
Its in the past? Then it happened already. Regardless your not responsible for controllin everything ...let it be...its not worth your anxiety. Tell urself "what is meant to be will be" and I cannot control what happens in the world. It may OR may not ..what if? ..ok so what. You can go on and live your life ...you CANš its just your obsessions goin playing you dont let that upset you. Its only thoughts not Real ..leave the thought at the door, let it goš
No worry please, Honestly sometimes they cant see them all, lots of posts daily from different countries its alot on feed so not everyone will see your post to answer. Its not they dont read or care. I posted few days ago no reply then i saw several posts that came right after mine pushing mine ALL the way down on feed so no one saw it. People DO Care here....I CAREā¤
Just wanted to say something that has helped me is just being sarcastic with those thoughts like āYup youāre right sure Iām going crazy uh huh sureee ā like just laughing at it helps like acknowledge the thought but laugh at it poke fun at it it has helped me on top of the maybe, maybe not thought also
Yeah we pour our heart out and get one reply if that itās actually quite sad how selfish people are,I am trying to deal with what if thoughts for the last year and am struggling really bad because people just say that you think to yourself āwhat if it does what if it doesnātā but saying that to myself just makes me believe it will come true š¢
@I hate ocd!! i completely get where your coming from it's hard and i can't do maybe maybe not either as it's like i'm agreeing with it and i'm then meant to be no go meg forward without knowing that's scary for me, i do have a trigger warning on my post so maybe it's hard for people to look which i also i understand just wish some one could help me š£
What if" thoughts are demon of OCD they always be there. They tell us to learn to accept the uncertainty of ..yes this may or may not happen then letting it BE. We cant control are thoughts we learn to accept them and not be controlled by anxiety. OCD lies it will ALWAYS tell us the worst will happen ...we know that's not true. It wants us to panic and stop. Keep goin! And let the thought pass you will feel better knowing ...ok whatever i let it GO!!šš
@Stefanie280 my what if is based on a past event so what if certain thing was said it's like i can't move on without knowing
I am in the same place after feeling anxious after a real event there was no reason for me to feel anxious so I started going over the day in my mind and couldnāt find anything to be anxious about so my mind started throwing in intrusive thoughts to explain the anxiety now the feel like they happened but I know they didnāt
@sazMar i'm just so stuck it stops me enjoying my life there's always something
so i was on instagram and it came up with other signs of ocd then someone commented this doesnāt mean you have ocd now im stressed that its not ocd background - i had so-ocd for a few years then got treatment for it but am now on the waiting list for further treatment for other stuff but i dont have another theme which makes me feel like its not ocd my day to day life consists of touching the door handle every time you go past it or someone will die, and inability to send emails without re reading loads of times and getting other people to check because im scared i wrote something bad but the what if itās not ocd thought is triggering me now and i donāt know what do
I find that the intrusive thoughts that hurt me the most are the quiet ones. The ones that, at a glance, can be hard to differentiate from your own thoughts. The louder thoughts are easy to diffuse, to say "maybe, maybe not" to but the quiet ones leave me ruminating for hours trying to figure out if they're mine or OCD's. They leave me feeling disconnected from those around me and even from myself. I can go from happily thinking about marrying my boyfriend in the future to feeling like I have never actually loved him in a matter of minutes all because a thought was a whisper rather than a scream. This is my first post and I'm not sure what I'm looking for in making it. Advice? To know I'm not alone? I guess if there's anything you feel the need to share I'd love to hear it.
First off - Iām sorry, I post here a lot. My thoughts are going to be scattered because I have the adhd/ocd/executive dysfunction wombo combo. Im so embarrassed I am THIS neurodivergent. I swear my brain couldnāt pick one struggle and settle with it. Iām not making these diagnoses quirky personality traits by any means, in fact, in this post im venting about how exhausting and embarassed I am living with a brain like this on the daily. I need to hear someoneās advice please. I love hearing everyoneās advice on posts because itās so useful, and brings me back down to reality. Everyone on here gives advice so tastefully in a way where it doesnāt feed into the self reassurance compulsion, but itās also been thorough and constructive enough where itās reminded me to ground myself in a healthy way. I love seeing others helping others, it soothes me. This community has been so kind, and Iām so happy I found it. I wish I could ask more, but I have so many questions I think itād drive everyone here crazy lol. I am doing erp therapy now, and itās been teaching me so many amazing techniques. Iāve been making progress. However, I sometimes have my moments of vunerablity. Iāve been experiencing this especially now more than ever because I am going through a breakup. He did it through text after nearly 9 months together. Iād do anything for him and love him through anything, and he broke my heart when I least expected it. Iād make his bed for him multiple times, but I havenāt done that for myself in years. Iād sit with him for hours to watch and do anything he likes, but heād never do the same and Iād never do the same for me. Iām also at fault because I was too scared to speak up so I let a lot of disrespect slide. Why did my ocd do that? Why does ocd make me people please even when I donāt want to? Why does OCD make me care so much about things that will never effect me (like wanting validation from a random person on the street and hoping theyāll think Iām pretty enough to look at), but then when it comes to my future or positive wellbeing (like focusing on college/doing well in classes/personal hygiene/health), forces me to not care/neglect myself and those needs? I donāt understand it. Ocd makes me think everythingās a setup or a trap. I can never believe that I am fine right where I want to be. Why am I so hard on myself? Why do I even think this much? I care and feel so deeply but it becomes unhealthy so fast because ocd makes me fixate and I stay there for a while. For some reason I let this breakup define my self worth. I let it topple into the ocd fear that I will never make it in life - that I wonāt be successful, Iāll never get the career I want, the love I want, or the life I want. My OCDās version of ālogicā isnāt even logical. Yes, I understand how the breakup means feelings of low self worth which will then topple into feeling bad about other things. But why has my brain been wired to think this way? Why does it seem so easy for everyone else to function normally with life but not me? Honestly this is the first time in my life where Iām dedicated to focusing on myself and learning more about myself instead of others in my life and itās a very odd and bizarre feeling. Iām excited of course, but Iām also scared. My ocd makes me ruminate like āwhat if I will never make the most of this life Iāve been givenā, āwhat if I truly have no worth and the most I will ever be in other peopleās lives is a background characterā, āwhy do I care if Iām a background character or not? I should feel guilty and ignorant for assuming everyone will automatically like meā, āare people lying to me when they call me pretty, smart or kind?ā, āI need to look and sound perfect in both pictures, videos and in real life. I will never be satisfied for accepting who I am nowā, and a bunch of other annoying questions. But sometimes itās like I just canāt take the reality for what it is but at the same time, but I also acknowledge that I know this is ocd talking. This is so, so difficult. Do I make any sense with what Iām saying? Can anyone help?
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