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- 6y
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- 6y
yo i thought this only happened to me, only difference is i’m a female. it really makes me frustrated because it makes me so confused as to what i actually like
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- 6y
I have experienced exactly what you’re talking about. I’ve also overcome SOOCD and these thoughts never bother me anymore. I know you’re in a tough spot right now, but I promise it gets better! Do you have access to a HOCD specialist? Have you done any research on ERP and CBT on your own? The only way out is through with OCD. With some hard work, you can totally overcome this. When these thoughts come up, you have to stop fighting them and getting upset at them. Just let them happen. They’re there for one reason: to try to get you as upset as possible. The more you can allow them to just run free but sit with the anxiety until it subsides without doing compulsions to calm yourself, the more you’ll show your brain that these thoughts are irrelevant. And they’ll stop having the control.
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- 6y
I’ve felt exactly the same, only I’m female. I used to just find guys attractive naturally but now every time I see a guy that I think is cute or attractive, I run through my mind to make sure or check that I think he’s attractive, and analyze every thought and feeling that I’m feeling towards him. If for some reason I don’t feel attracted to him even for a second, I get crazy anxiety that that’s a sign that I’m gay. And I do the same for girls, only making sure that I’m NOT attracted to them, and if I feel like I am even for a second, the same anxiety strikes. It’s so confusing and maddening
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- 6y
I relate to this so much! I’m struggling to stop myself from mentally reassuring myself that I’m straight and instead just feeling the anxiety. If I can stop my mental compulsions before they trigger, I think I’ll be on a good path.
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- 6y
I feel for u
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- 20w
So my OCD has been bad lately. I’ve been ruminating and obsessing over my sexuality again. And it just keeps getting worse. I hate it so much. I try to sit with the discomfort but then my ocd does the backdoor spike. And the groinal response is what keeps me looped. It SUCKS. I am not attracted to men, but my OCD is trying SO hard to convince me that I am. There have been days where I’m just so mentally exhausted that I “accept” what my ocd tells me and I just walk around a hollow, lethargic shell. But then I rethink it and I feel better. It feels like I can only find my TRUE self when I tire my nervous system out enough that it literally breaks down and has me suicidal and hopeless. And then accepting my OCD’s “truth” (that I’m attracted to men) feels like a burden and a chore. I woke up today from an OCD dream, tried to go back to sleep, and my stomach kept cramping bc I was so anxious and ruminating over my intrusive thoughts. I’m starting to doubt it being OCD anymore. My brain is too tired to fight and cry about it anymore.
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- 18w
This shit has to be one of the most confusing subtypes of ocd because no matter what you will never find clarity. When it started it wasn’t as bad and confusing because it was mostly anxiety. But when it started getting physical that’s when it got extremely confusing because I feel tension and fear when thinking of gay stuff but while testing I get arousal sensations so the big question is “if I am afraid of it how can my body respond as if I’m into it and if I’m into it how does my body respond with fear as if I’m not” and it’s endless. I wish I never started testing my arousal so I never started getting groinals to gay stuff in the first place. But there’s no going back now.
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- 14w
I feel like I'm lying to myself, like I just don't accept that I'm gay, I don't want to be gay, I don't want to feel any kind of attraction anymore, I want to go to a psychologist to find out if I really have hocd or if it's just an excuse, because it feels like I really am gay, but nothing was authentic, it all started with thoughts that made me panic extremely hard and I felt like crying and I had delusions, I don't understand why this is happening to me, I didn't like any boys before the thoughts appeared, but exactly one day after they appeared, all the boys were attractive, of all ages, I want to recover :( I'm only 17 years old, for about 2 months I've been having thoughts, I don't know what to do, I can't go to a psychologist, I need help :(
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