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- NaggingOCD
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- 1y ago
any help
how can i stop thinking about a past event that i regret and it easts me alive š£
how can i stop thinking about a past event that i regret and it easts me alive š£
What I learned is that the event is not the issue. It's OCD. You made it an obsession because of an underlying reason. You fear that by having done a bad thing, you are x or y, or you fear that in the future x or y will happen to you. So to prevent that, you start problem solving, which kicks an infinite anxiety loop. The answer is to learn and accept that people are not their mistakes, and tend to make mistakes, small and big, moral or in grey areas. That it is okay to do that, and that you are allowed to learn from them. So, show the world you have now learned from the thing that bothers you so much.
I totally hear you. I AGONIZE after past events and how they make me feel like a horrendous person. For me, it helps when I flip the script. I think about if someone else had done this, wouldn't I offer them forgiveness and compassion? Usually the answer is yes and if someone else deserves it I do too.
@River81 I am the same and Iām tired of living in shame - do you ever wonder how many other people do this stuff and it just doesnāt bother them like it does us?
i just can't help but think it's the worst thing to ever of happened i feeel regret guilt and just that my life's over
@NaggingOCD Me too ā¦ other people tell Me Iām overreacting but then my brain just starts back up again
Iām dealing with the same exact issue right now. I know how you feel and if you wanna talk you can message me.
Donāt try to stop thinking. Just allow yourself to feel depressed or regretful. There is this strategy called LLAMP. Labelling emotions/ thoughts Letting go of the urge to control or get rid of the feeling Accept Mindfulness P- act with purpose. Like tell yourself. My purpose is not to get bugged by every OCD thought. Right now I want to what I always loved to do( fill in whatever you would like to do). You may want to do it whenever you are in a OCD spike.
@Ocd surfer it's hard to have it on my mind soo much i just wished it never happened
@NaggingOCD Iām sorry is that bad. Just hang in there. We ve all been there
I want to share some thoughts that might resonate with those of you grappling with intrusive thoughts or lingering regrets from the past. First and foremost, it's essential to remember that our thoughts are not definitive representations of who we are. They often stem from random electrical impulses in our brains and can feel overwhelming at times. Itās important to acknowledge that these thoughts do not define us. Instead, they are just passing moments that we can observe without judgment. Secondly, itās crucial to realize that past events would have unfolded regardless of our actions. We often believe we are the main cause of certain outcomes, but many events occur independently of our choices. Think of your life as a storybook; while you can read and reflect on the pages, you did not write the narrative that led to those moments. This perspective can help alleviate feelings of guilt and self-blame. Lastly, letās remember that we are all human, and making mistakes is part of the experience. Itās vital to forgive ourselves for past errors and recognize that these experiences contribute to our growth. The mere act of reflecting on our mistakes shows that we have learned and evolved. To foster healing and personal growth, consider incorporating some positive habits into your daily routine: Get Outside: Aim for daily walks in the sunlight. Nature has a remarkable way of uplifting our spirits. Pursue Hobbies: Engage in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. This can help redirect your focus and energy. Volunteer: Offering guidance to others who may be facing similar challenges can be incredibly rewarding. It not only helps them but also reinforces your own lessons learned. By taking these steps, you can create a meaningful path toward moral repentance and personal development, freeing yourself from the burdens of the past. Remember, healing is a journey, and every small step counts. Embrace it with kindness and patience towards yourself. Have a great day all š
I have pocd and am dealing with a real event situation with it. I did something really really odd when I was 18, like really weird. It kinda involved a child but no one was hurt and nothing s*xual really happened. What I did tho was really weird and although Iām kinder to myself and not calling myself a p*do anymore I still canāt shake how weird what I did was. Im not talking something cute and quirky weird like im talking weird weird and strange like mentally not with it. I feel like Iāve ruined everything and base my life on this thing I did. How do I stop feeling like this when I feel like I deserve to be put in an asylum.
What to do when your brain keeps bringing a past real event and saying something else happened (that is horrible) but you know you didnāt actually do something wrong, how do you make it leave you alone?? I just donāt want my brain to keep bringing this up over and over, like itās so distressing I know you say āmaybe I did, maybe I didnātā but what if it GENUINELY doesnāt leave you alone? Do you do something or?
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