NaggingOCD
- Date posted
- 2y
any help
how can i stop thinking about a past event that i regret and it easts me alive 😣
EdelgardEdelgard
- Date posted
- 2y
What I learned is that the event is not the issue. It's OCD. You made it an obsession because of an underlying reason. You fear that by having done a bad thing, you are x or y, or you fear that in the future x or y will happen to you. So to prevent that, you start problem solving, which kicks an infinite anxiety loop. The answer is to learn and accept that people are not their mistakes, and tend to make mistakes, small and big, moral or in grey areas. That it is okay to do that, and that you are allowed to learn from them. So, show the world you have now learned from the thing that bothers you so much.
River81River81
- Date posted
- 2y
I totally hear you. I AGONIZE after past events and how they make me feel like a horrendous person. For me, it helps when I flip the script. I think about if someone else had done this, wouldn't I offer them forgiveness and compassion? Usually the answer is yes and if someone else deserves it I do too.
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 2y
@River81 I am the same and I’m tired of living in shame - do you ever wonder how many other people do this stuff and it just doesn’t bother them like it does us?
NaggingOCDNaggingOCD
- Date posted
- 2y
i just can't help but think it's the worst thing to ever of happened i feeel regret guilt and just that my life's over
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 2y
@NaggingOCD Me too … other people tell Me I’m overreacting but then my brain just starts back up again
Gremlin98Gremlin98
- Date posted
- 2y
I’m dealing with the same exact issue right now. I know how you feel and if you wanna talk you can message me.
Ocd surferOcd surfer
- Date posted
- 2y
Don’t try to stop thinking. Just allow yourself to feel depressed or regretful. There is this strategy called LLAMP. Labelling emotions/ thoughts Letting go of the urge to control or get rid of the feeling Accept Mindfulness P- act with purpose. Like tell yourself. My purpose is not to get bugged by every OCD thought. Right now I want to what I always loved to do( fill in whatever you would like to do). You may want to do it whenever you are in a OCD spike.
NaggingOCDNaggingOCD
- Date posted
- 2y
@Ocd surfer it's hard to have it on my mind soo much i just wished it never happened
Ocd surferOcd surfer
- Date posted
- 2y
@NaggingOCD I’m sorry is that bad. Just hang in there. We ve all been there
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