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- 2y
any help
how can i stop thinking about a past event that i regret and it easts me alive š£
how can i stop thinking about a past event that i regret and it easts me alive š£
What I learned is that the event is not the issue. It's OCD. You made it an obsession because of an underlying reason. You fear that by having done a bad thing, you are x or y, or you fear that in the future x or y will happen to you. So to prevent that, you start problem solving, which kicks an infinite anxiety loop. The answer is to learn and accept that people are not their mistakes, and tend to make mistakes, small and big, moral or in grey areas. That it is okay to do that, and that you are allowed to learn from them. So, show the world you have now learned from the thing that bothers you so much.
I totally hear you. I AGONIZE after past events and how they make me feel like a horrendous person. For me, it helps when I flip the script. I think about if someone else had done this, wouldn't I offer them forgiveness and compassion? Usually the answer is yes and if someone else deserves it I do too.
@River81 I am the same and Iām tired of living in shame - do you ever wonder how many other people do this stuff and it just doesnāt bother them like it does us?
i just can't help but think it's the worst thing to ever of happened i feeel regret guilt and just that my life's over
@NaggingOCD Me too ⦠other people tell Me Iām overreacting but then my brain just starts back up again
Iām dealing with the same exact issue right now. I know how you feel and if you wanna talk you can message me.
Donāt try to stop thinking. Just allow yourself to feel depressed or regretful. There is this strategy called LLAMP. Labelling emotions/ thoughts Letting go of the urge to control or get rid of the feeling Accept Mindfulness P- act with purpose. Like tell yourself. My purpose is not to get bugged by every OCD thought. Right now I want to what I always loved to do( fill in whatever you would like to do). You may want to do it whenever you are in a OCD spike.
@Ocd surfer it's hard to have it on my mind soo much i just wished it never happened
@NaggingOCD Iām sorry is that bad. Just hang in there. We ve all been there
Everyday I wake up, all my mind makes me think of is the stuff Iāve done in the past, like all day Iām in a constant cycle of judging who I used to be and it hurts so so much. I wish I never thought to do those things, I wish I had been more mature than how I was before, itās really lowering my self worth and I donāt think Iāve ever felt this miserable before, like last summer was the worst because I was dealing with this shit, I about almost ended my life over it, and I thought it would get better, which it did, but it didnāt last but for a while. As soon as it became 2025 I was going through it again, having constant cycles of āIām a good personā to āIām the worst person imaginableā and Iām so sick of it because I just want to feel like the good person l like to imagine myself to be, but I canāt because of shit I did in the past that I obsess over. Iāve cried and screamed so much over it and it seems like it will never leave me.
Hi everyone, Iām new here, and I wanted to share my experience. Iāve been struggling for over a year now on obsessing over a mistake. And the rumination of the mistake I made has been overwhelming and exhausting in those two years. I feel like such a horrible person. At the time, I didnāt realize what I was doing would affect me so much. When I realized it was wrong, I just said Iāll never do it again, and I moved on. But then months later, I was reminded of what I did, and I felt like I did the worst thing in the world, and that my life will never be normal again. And ever since then, itās been a constant thought. And itās exhausting. I have been able to open up to my family and a close friend about it and their reactions were so nonchalant compared to what my brain has been telling me. They say it wasnāt even that bad, and that I shouldnāt be beating myself up. I tell them how badly I feel and they just act like it was nothing. I thought that would help, but my brain continues to tell me how horrible of a person I am and I obsess over this one mistake I made two years ago. Iāve learned from it, Iāve moved on, Iāve opened up about it, Iāve gotten reassurance, but yet it still eats at me. Itās constant some days. Where all I wanna do is lay down in a corner and never leave. I feel like my life will never be normal again and Iāll never experience happiness again. Whenever I smile or feel any type of joy my brain tells me to stop and reminds me that Iām a bad person and I donāt deserve to be happy. Even though everyone tells me what I did wasnāt even that bad. And that it doesnāt make me who I am. But guess itās not enough and Iām really running out of options.
Does anyone deal with rumination with their childhood past mistakes. Deep down I know I didnāt know any better but then I start having thoughts and it gets worse after that. I also recently have dealt with death in the family, started my period, started college and just moved to my own apartment this last month. :-/ I genuinely just wish I could let go of my past I feel like I could be a better person for myself mentally if I could just let it go.
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