Sunshine&flowers7
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ERP exercises for Partner focused OCD?
Anyone have any suggestions for ERP exercises for Partner focused ROCD?
AnonymousAnonymous
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So I would suggest writing down your worst fears on paper, and read them without doing a compulsion and keep feeling the anxiety, another one would get a picture of your boyfriend and just look at it without doing any compulsions, when you feel the anxiety build say to yourself something like ,come on ocd give me what you got! And feel it as much as you can the more you do this the anxiety will go down
AnonymousAnonymous
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I'm having the same with my girlfriend, like sometimes she looks attractive and sometimes she doesn't, it's so confusing!
SteveK12SteveK12
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So please do not make my mistake! I allowed this to cause me to end a relationship with a wonderful woman. I thought something was wrong ! She was so sweet and caring and loving ! I did eventually meet someone else and was totally physically attracted. I ended up marrying her and she turned out to be a total psychopath. I am addicted to her and she has ruined my life! I married her after only three months of dating! Please listen to me, do not let looks, or anything else get in the way. If you have been together a few years and feel the time is right, do not let them get away ! Go for it !! I let partner focused OCD get between me an a wonderful woman. We met for drinks just as friends once I began divorcing my abuser! She told me that she had been in love with me, but I am not the same man she knew three years ago!! I should never have let her go! Oh and on a side note ! She is even more beautiful then the woman I chose over her that has totally ruined me !!
Sunshine&flowers7Sunshine&flo...
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I think what I'm chasing is that infatuation/ euphoria feeling. Like puppy love. At 37, I know that this isn't what true love is but somehow my mind keeps telling me I need it to be happy and to get married. Meanwhile, everything else that I have wanted in a life partner is there.
JazzCrabJazzCrab
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Following, I struggle with this too
AnonymousAnonymous
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What are your triggers?
Sunshine&flowers7Sunshine&flo...
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Talking about taking the next step in our relationship (getting engaged). I'm triggered because I wonder if I'm fully attracted to my boyfriend and if I'm really in love because I don't feel it. We have been together 1.5 years.
AnonymousAnonymous
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I struggle with this all the time. Ive been dating for 3 years and always have the urge to be single even though she is an amazing gf
AnonymousAnonymous
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We have been long distance for a year also
Sunshine&flowers7Sunshine&flo...
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I'm LD with my bf and it's been 1.5 years. I worry that I won't be able confidently commit to getting engaged/marriage. I've always dreamed of getting married and having children. Now I'm terrified.
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