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ERP exercises for Partner focused OCD?
Anyone have any suggestions for ERP exercises for Partner focused ROCD?
Anyone have any suggestions for ERP exercises for Partner focused ROCD?
So I would suggest writing down your worst fears on paper, and read them without doing a compulsion and keep feeling the anxiety, another one would get a picture of your boyfriend and just look at it without doing any compulsions, when you feel the anxiety build say to yourself something like ,come on ocd give me what you got! And feel it as much as you can the more you do this the anxiety will go down
I'm having the same with my girlfriend, like sometimes she looks attractive and sometimes she doesn't, it's so confusing!
So please do not make my mistake! I allowed this to cause me to end a relationship with a wonderful woman. I thought something was wrong ! She was so sweet and caring and loving ! I did eventually meet someone else and was totally physically attracted. I ended up marrying her and she turned out to be a total psychopath. I am addicted to her and she has ruined my life! I married her after only three months of dating! Please listen to me, do not let looks, or anything else get in the way. If you have been together a few years and feel the time is right, do not let them get away ! Go for it !! I let partner focused OCD get between me an a wonderful woman. We met for drinks just as friends once I began divorcing my abuser! She told me that she had been in love with me, but I am not the same man she knew three years ago!! I should never have let her go! Oh and on a side note ! She is even more beautiful then the woman I chose over her that has totally ruined me !!
I think what I'm chasing is that infatuation/ euphoria feeling. Like puppy love. At 37, I know that this isn't what true love is but somehow my mind keeps telling me I need it to be happy and to get married. Meanwhile, everything else that I have wanted in a life partner is there.
Following, I struggle with this too
What are your triggers?
Talking about taking the next step in our relationship (getting engaged). I'm triggered because I wonder if I'm fully attracted to my boyfriend and if I'm really in love because I don't feel it. We have been together 1.5 years.
I struggle with this all the time. Ive been dating for 3 years and always have the urge to be single even though she is an amazing gf
We have been long distance for a year also
I'm LD with my bf and it's been 1.5 years. I worry that I won't be able confidently commit to getting engaged/marriage. I've always dreamed of getting married and having children. Now I'm terrified.
Can anyone relate to this type of ROCD? It’s like i obsess of my partners past, I’ve spent probably 100 hours over the last 3 years asking him about girls he was with before me questioning him about every little detail and seeking reassurance. I don’t want to think about these girls at all. And I’ve been in ERP since August and was doing really good and not sure if it’s just getting bad again the last few days because of the holiday (Easter) and i had to go to his hometown where I know he had a past in and he recently brought a ring which I’m so excited about but it just seems like it’s getting harder for me and i don’t wanna be talking about girls he dated for a few months before me when we are about to get engaged. Am i ruining my future? What can I do to help and to not bring up stuff about the girls before me? How can I be in the moment and not relate everything to an irrelevant girl before me? Help
Been struggling with existential OCD lately. Very hard to describe the thoughts/feelings, but it is a constant feeling of being stuck in my head. Like what is consciousness and where do I think from? Like I think it’s OCD, maybe it is maybe it isn’t. But if it is, what would be good ERP exercises? Just existing (lol)? And what would be my response prevention? I’m not even sure what mental compulsions I may be doing.
I am at a very difficult spot in my relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years, and I have a history of cheating that for years we’ve been trying to work through. To me, it makes a lot of sense that my OCD has attached itself to this and for the last few years I’ve experienced intrusive sexual thoughts of others and relationship ocd. I have been open to him about the content of my thoughts and now, with a proper diagnosis of an anxiety disorder, I am able to reframe them and work through them with ERP so that my brain will *hopefully* get bored and stop sending them. But, things have not been easy. As a result of this and everything in our past, he has become anxious about all the scenarios where I could be having sexualized thoughts about other people. To him, if I am thinking something utterly different than what I am telling him or acting like to him, he can’t fully trust it. And of course, I can imagine how difficult it is to know your life partner is sexualizing others in her brain and to be able find a way to dismiss them as unthreatening, especially when past mistakes say otherwise. Is there anyone that has gone through this with a partner? And other than repeatedly explaining the egodystonic nature of my thoughts and providing reassurance, what are some things you did that helped them? Any advice helps! Thank you
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