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- Brittany A.
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I don’t have any experience with this but I just wanted to say that if you decide to have children I believe in you. In my opinion just the fact that you’re worried about this is a ”sign” that you would be a good parent.
My personal thing was not to have kids because I did not want to pass down bipolar or ocd.
I have 3 kids, and to be honest, some days are hard, I deal with different types of ocd, mostly magical thinking, and it usually involves something happening to them if I don’t do This or that, sometimes contamination ocd kicks in too, and it’s a struggle, but they are the best thing that has ever happened to me. Ocd will give you good days and bad days, you can be a great mom even with ocd. There are sh*tty parents who don’t have ocd so... ??♀️
Thank you for that sweet reply, Lorette. Rachel, I totally get that and it’s also a concern of mine as well. And T, thank you for your honesty. It really helps to hear from someone who is actually living that life.
The “good” thing is that even if we pass ocd to our children, we’ll be able to help them at the first sign, I didn’t know I had ocd or even that ocd was a thing until I was in my 20s. So I didn’t have any help as a kid when it started, cause my parents didn’t know a thing about ocd either. I know that you’ll be great moms if/when the time comes, cause my mind may be a mess, but my kids are great, healthy and happy.
Thank you for this feed. I’ve been worrying about this a lot. I’m currently 28 and my dream has always been to have my own family but recently I’ve been feeling like I don’t feel I could cope.(I went to the doctors yesterday as I want my future children to have a happy healthy mum) I want to have all the joys that come with parent hood without ocd . We can all do this!
Does anyone with POCD have children? I want to have children in the future, but the idea of it really scares me because of my fears. Something I have been learning in therapy is not to make fear-based decisions. So it’s definitely something I want to do, but I just wanna know some of your experiences with this.
I struggle with pocd amongst many other ocd themes and even the thought of having children triggers it so badly. I try and avoid being around kids because they trigger it obviously but it makes me so sad because I was always so good with kids until I started struggling with this theme. I want children because I think it adds something very special to your life but I know having kids would drive my ocd insane. It’s like I can image how great I would be as a mum and then there is this ocd barrier between me and that. Maybe a lot of therapy could help but I’ve had ocd my whole life I think it’s just apart of my brain I don’t know if it can be fixed
i haven’t been diagnosed w/ ocd but my therapist says i have like symptoms of it but i recently just stared dealing w/ Pocd (hell) that my therapist says was triggered from the sound of freedom which absolutely breaks my heart bc i was so excited to support the movie but now i feel like it’s one of my biggest regrets. i feel as if i would’ve never watched the movie i would’ve possibly never started dealing w/ this. But my biggest scare now w/ this is having my own kids . i’m F18 and throughout my whole teenhood my biggest goal and dream was to become a mother a GOOD mother. everything i tried doing was motivated by the thoughts of giving my kids the absolute best one day. Now i feel like it’s my biggest fear w/ dealing w/ this and i don’t know how i’d even explain to someone like my bf for example, of the reason why i don’t want to have kids anymore ( though i still really do but i just literally feel like can’t because of this 💔💔) are there any mothers out there w/ Pocd w/ kids out here? how do you cope w/ this? should i even have kids?? i also feel as if it kinda bad rn. i was doing good for a couple weeks and last night it just rushed back for no reason. i’ve learned what groinal responses are ( it absolutely scared the shit out of me before i found out what it was and i was just not okay and sort still am not when it happens. it just feel too real and i end up sobbing god i hate this ) and i feel as if i’m constantly body checking myself especially when i see a cute baby or children tiktok i love babies n kids id never wanna hurt them in such away i rather pass away. i just can’t believe why this this happening i used to be so much more happier before this and i really don’t know how to deal w/ this and what i should do😖💔💔
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