Seeking reassurance from others but still ruminating on their words?

This is something I struggled with for years. I would have to run everything by my husband. Unfortunately, the reassurance never stuck. There would always be another question or I would end up asking him the same question more times than I could count. When I realized this reassurance seeking was compulsive behavior that kept the uncertainty coming I had to stop it. Now, it is so freeing! My conversations are genuine and sincere, I’m truly present for people I love and not just trying to get reassurance.

Yes currently I have really bad tmj pain and I get scared and ask my boyfriend if he think this could be something else worse than tmj

I have really been struggling with this with my parents , espically my mom. She has always been my go to to talk to and recently I have been struggling a little more and have been asking for so much reassurance, and our talks have been escalating with both my parents because I will get so frustrated with their responses whether it’s me not getting my reassurance or if I think there responding in a certain way, and I just get so frustrated and it is hard because I love them so much and I know they are trying to help but at times I just get so frustrated and it just hasn’t been fun and a big part of that is just not asking that reassurance and fighting through the anxiety, which sucks.

Oh my goodness I relate to this: I am CONSTANTLY asking my best friend if I f*cked up, if it’s really bad as I think, or if it’s worse. Part of me is trying to get her to reassure me that I’m not a terrible person, but when she says something other than “don’t worry about it”, I feel really guilty regardless. At this point I genuinely don’t know whether I’m just a person who makes mistakes or a terrible person :)