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- 2y
Anyone been in this situation?
I know I need to face these emotions to gain understanding and resilience to them. But what happens when the emotions are just way too great that you almost find it impossible?
I know I need to face these emotions to gain understanding and resilience to them. But what happens when the emotions are just way too great that you almost find it impossible?
Trust that your body can handle what comes as it does. our capacity for how we can hold ourselves is always in flux like weather. Maybe u can start with just gently noticing when something comes up. But i feel u, ur not alone in this.
Yeah, it's hard my emotions are very strong and I almost freeze up sometimes. It takes so much energy as well, one anxiety attack can completely drain me.
sometimes we are prepared to hande emotions, sometimes not... so when no, we can cope with self soathing, self love, behavorial activation, hobby activities... but when we are prepared we can slowly go into our emotions and body sensations, but always have a SAFE anchor and do not overhelm ourselves... with OCD many times we have mental mess of intrusive thoughts I do not prefer to engage so much with them, I more prefer engage directly with emotions and bodily sensatios... but it is complex topic, particulary when you have OCD... I would recommend maybe consulting with experiences OCD therapist ... preferably also with some knowledge of body therapy
Thank you, it's hard because as of late I always feel overwhelmed. I start with my psychologist tomorrow so I hope that she will help.
I absolutely have had this experience. It’s very difficult, especially because for me it doesn’t *feel* like it’s just a feeling. It feels like I’m ignoring a legitimate threat. If I could just convince myself it’s only a feeling it would be easier, but convincing myself of that would be a compulsion. To answer your question, in my experience it involves a lot of patience, self compassion, and practice. It’s like getting into a freezing cold pool. I allow myself to get in a little bit and acclimate to it. Then I get in more.
Yeah ok, that makes sense. It's hard because my partner is going overseas on Friday so instead of easing into it I'm going the full real deal straight away 🤦
I have alot of problems with this and I question alot if I do avoid my emotions cause today everyone says to "feel your emotions, let them be" but it just makes me be stuck with suffering. Currently I have a problem at my job, it's really stressful and i feel like everyone thinks im stupid and a bad person and it's hard, I struggle with negative emotions and I rumminate alot about the things, what couldve happened,what will happen and sometimes it makes me feel helpless cause idk what to do. But when it happens I don't let myself feel helpless, I don't know why you should let yourself feel anything like hopelessness,helplesnees,or let yourself tell any story that will not help you. I acknowledge it that it came up, but I won't let it to continously be there. I never understood that when you have these feelings, sitting with them makes you just follow the story that is unhealthy. I feel things that are unhealthy for me and i tried to sit with it and made me feel worse being stuck with that emotion. I start to think that people who actually has avoidance problems they dont notice how they feel, when I do notice I just choose not to go on that path. I question grief too alot. Everyone grieves differently so that's why is difficult but I don't like when people say that grief will never end and if you feel better about your loss you are just lying to yourself... Ofcourse you will never feel happy about anything you lost in your life. When i dealt with grief I noticed it, back then i thought okay i have to sit with the pain but then it got worse and worse and I felt like im stuck in my pain. Then I decided I have to move and im not 100%over, i dont even know what that means cause as I said you will never feel happy about any loss you experienced,but thats a different thing, you can still live your life with that,but if its been years and you still think life sucks and nothing is good then youre stuck with grief. This is not judging anyone who is not over grief, But it's problematic for me when I say i wont let this emotion to rule my day, and then i feel like im supressing it... or when people say "just let it be there" then my focus is on that being there, so to change your focus to your life you have to ignore the feelings, and people say "no,you dont" but thats what you have to do... To choose that you will live your life and you will focus on something else no matter what means that you will ignore the feelings, you can still notice it but you give no power to them. That's called ignoring it... I have to learn what supressing feelings really means cause everytime I try to live my life I say i supress my emotions cause it feels like that. I hope someone will read this, either will help him or he will help me understand things more, so if you read this, thank you for your time! :)
But it actually feels worse, and no not because now Im letting myself feel the feelings, I feel more stressful and hopelessness sparked out too, and a weird scary feeling, i think its anxiety, that i feel back in the pandemic and I woke up at the middle of the night feeling that feeling many times.For years i felt good now that im trying to let myself feel the emotions, fear and hopelessness kicks in. I understand that you should accept and allow every feeling, but if you have alot of fear it will just throw you wherever it wants and you will feel hopeless. I know when you are there, feeling depressed and hopeless it means you did something bad(well not always but you know what i mean). I tried it but this scary feeling of hopeless anxiety made me stop it.
Its weird but its true. I try to notice emotions and not feed it but when I try the not feeding it part I feed it more. And i get angry cause it feels like its automatic cause I try to stop it but it gets worse. I say to myself stop feeding it then that gets triggered and now im in a cycle trying to tell myself not to feed the emotion. It was the same today with anger. I told myself to leave it alone and then more anger came and i told myself not to feed it and then more came, and it took my focus. I understand that its normal that it gets stronger but for me it goes to the depressive way where the thoughts are so dark that it takes away my focus... It gets me more triggered. What can I do about this. Also noticing every emotion like these responses too feels exhausting cause they come and go and noticing it just makes them stay... Also I heard it helps to ask yourself kindly why do you feel this emotions, I always get lost in more pain and shame if i ask myself that
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