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Urges
Can someone explain to me what urges are with ocd or what they feel like
Can someone explain to me what urges are with ocd or what they feel like
I think this is an urge - basically I have an intrusive thought that I’m XYZ. I don’t want to be XYZ, because it I was, it would mean all these things that cause me great distress/anxiety. However I can’t stop thinking that I’m XYZ and my mind constantly tells me I must be XYZ. To combat that I get the urge to seek reassurance and to ruminate in an effort to make me feel less anxious. At least I think that’s how it works :(
Pretty good way to explain it. And it puts our mind in to a "fight or flight" mode, that's how serious and dangerous it can be. So the compulsion becomes almost a subconscious act. Also why it's not easy to break the cycle.
@Someone99 hello. i am worried i have the urge to do something i don’t want to do- not a compulsion. how would this feel like?
@brokengirl Hi @brokengirl. It's can be tricky to differentiate the thought from an urge from a reaction to a thought, etc. We accept an normal in our thought pattern because it's how we've always reacted to our thoughts. Is it an urge, a thought or a reaction to a thought? Thanks for writing me. 🙂
@brokengirl I'm here to talk anytime
@Someone99 i don’t recall any urge or impulse it just happened. could it be one of those things were bc u really don’t want to do something u end up doing it. like how i ddint want to look but i somehow ended up looking? bc i was so worried i would? if i had an urge or impulse wouldn’t i remember it? wouldn’t it be clear taht i somehow couldn’t resist this thing and did it?
Basically a urge is the feeling of instantly doing something,in case of OCD most of the times it fits onto a compulsion
Maybe, maybe not. (Allow uncertainty) :-) The OCD cycle begins not with the initial thought, or urge, but with our response to it. "What does this mean?", "This must mean I'm...", "oh no, I'm a...", and so on. I'm guessing it's something that goes against your values? Usually is, those shock us the most. It takes some time, but with care you can have peace in this area. Thanks for writing and talking with me. :-)
@Someone99 hey. i am not looking for certainty. i jjst want to know what am i experiencing so i can deal with it. i just want to know how can i understand if i am experiencing this.
@brokengirl Understandable. Without knowing any details, I can only offer sharing what's helped me through my OCD journey. You struggle is questioning who you are based on having an urge to do something you don't want to do. Is it something that might hurt someone else or get you in trouble?
@brokengirl It's ok if you don't want to talk about it. Just hoping you're having a good day today!
I think when people are saying OCD is egodystonic is really triggering me and I was just wondering if this has happened to anyone else? I’m going through a really bad relapse and right now I’m trying to figure out if my thoughts are truly egodystonic, like I how do I know I won’t act on them, how can I trust my emotions and everything. I feel really confused and I feel like I don’t know who I am anymore or how I carry on with life because it’s so long and I’m so unsure of everything that’s going on in my head. Like how do I know that this is OCD and true desires/urges. I’m so confused.
Can harm ocd thoughts appear like “i want” or “im going to” someone please lmk if they experienced this 😣
Earlier I had what felt like an urge but I’m not sure. I’ve had urges before but this felt different as the object was in front of me (not intentional btw) , I’ve been quite stressed lately and my OCD is latching on to that. I had an urge to harm and within that I had like 2/3 intrusive images that came to mind, I couldn’t rationalise with it, I felt “stuck” when I came out of it I felt scared immediately was trying to work out why I’d even think of doing that & was very upset. A while after I keep getting thoughts like “say your goodbyes it won’t be long until you act out” I cried to my boyfriend and told him everything. How do I know if this was intent vs intrusive urge?
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