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OCD is a doubting disease, where it makes you doubt a lot of things but they are just the OCD talking. If you guys tell each other everything, laugh together and support each other I think you do love him. OCD makes us doubt things
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Of course, I read once that sometimes people with OCD don't stick with things out of fear, I know it's tough but try not to second guess, my aunt told me to enjoy things in the moment.
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I struggle with the same thing. I have been working on ERP with a therapist. It has helped tremendously. It’s really hard at first and can be extremely upsetting/uncomfortable, but it helps. I’ve been with my boyfriend for two years now. He’s the only person I have never felt the need to run from. He’s my best friend, too. I had a really bad panic attack a few months ago and that is when it all started. I began doubting that I didn’t actually love him or that I may end up cheating on him. The ironic thing of it all is that he is the only one that can help me feel better. I still have moments of doubt, but learning to let the thoughts pass and not fight them has helped a lot. Not seeking reassurance is probably one of the hardest aspects of it all too.
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Isn’t it weird how one thought can trigger another and continue down a rabbit hole of self doubt? I highly recommend seeing someone though. It’s definitely beneficial. I’ve ready plent of self help books that have helped. One was on intrusive thoughts and how to deal with them and another called “The OCD Workbook”. It also had a lot of good information and techniques on what to do. I hope you can find something that helps. It’s a struggle for sure, but know others have similar fears/struggles is comforting my in a way. It’s nice to know you aren’t alone.
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Yes it is weird, I hate it I wish I never thought about certain things. But thank you, I hope you feel better soon!
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I have pure-o. I have worried about anything from relationships, sexuality, becoming a murderer/pedophile, contamination, etc. with pure-o, compulsions are mental, so a lot of seeking reassurance, self-talk, thinking of ways I know those thoughts to be true, things like that. It’s best to see a psychiatrist or psychologist. They are better trained on how to handle OCD and other mental health issues. Psychiatrist can even prescribe medication if that is a route you decide to take for treatment.
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Okay thank you
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It’s the same with a lot of mental health issues and also physical illnesses , your not necessarily going to get a cure but we all have to find ways to manage our physical and emotional pain
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Thank you for replying. I was hoping someone would reply with anything. I hope you’re right. I’ve been doubting so many things. I wish they’d stop. It makes me feel like crap because then I get nervous and anxious.
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Yes that’s great advice. I’ve done that before and it helps but sometimes I still feel nervous and can’t help but think of what’s making me that way.
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I’m sorry to hear that, it sounds so painful. I keep struggling a lot with hocd and if its not that I’m back to thinking what if I’m not I love with my boyfriend. But I’m trying not to seek reassurance as well it’s very hard.
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I have only found out I actually have OCD a few months ago. I started seeing a therapist because I didn’t want my meltdowns to to push my boyfriend away. She told me I have pure-o. I was told long ago it was just GAD. It makes so much sense to me now though. I have struggled with worries about sexuality, contamination, secretly being a pedophile, you name it. Knowing what it is definitely helps to better label the thoughts for what they are. Definitely helps normalize things, so to speak, too.
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I haven’t been diagnosed yet but I feel like I might have pure o as well. I hope I do, it first started with thinking my boyfriend would murder me and I didn’t love him because of that it made me so afraid. Then that lead to me thinking is murder my mom and sister. And then thinking I had std and my bf was cheating on me, then hocd. It’s really painful, but what lead to hocd was me thinking what if I don’t love my boyfriend, why don’t I feel happy enough, am I really happy? And so on.
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Can someone help me ? I’m not diagnosed but I’m 110% sure I suffer with OCD
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Carly1995 you should definitely see someone to get a diagnosis. Therapists can be a huge help in dealing with OCD. They can teach you ways to allow the thoughts to pass as well as combat your compulsions and manage anxiety.
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Can I go and see my GP? What types of OCD do you suffer with?
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Woah, self talk? Do you mean like talking to yourself trying to find answers or prove yourself wrong of the thoughts you’re having? And when you say thinking of ways you know the thoughts to be true do you mean like finding evidence that they could be true?
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Sorry, I meant thinking of ways for them not to be true. Basically contradicting the thoughts. That’s exactly what you shouldn’t do. It only worsens the anxiety and reinforces the ocd. Same with the self talk that I do. With that, I try to find answers over analyze, etc. here is a really great book that can help. It’s not super long and doesn’t cost a lot either. http://a.co/5iaigN9
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Ohh with me I look keep thinking of evidence that can make the thoughts true. Which terrifies me. For example I keep thinking of being lesbian. And I keep thinking of early childhood evidence that can make it true. Is that normal?
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I do the same thing sometimes too. I usually try to contradict things. Either way, it’s only reinforcing the thought. That book I shared above better explains it.
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Hi guys sorry to but in , I keep hearing the term sexual orientation OCD , but I don’t really understand it . but I’m happy to share experiences since I’m a lesbian myself and struggled with my feelings
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I fear that I’m lesbian, I have been dealing with this for 4 months now. It all started when I noticed I kept looking at girls. But I never had any crushes on girls or wanted anything sexual. Also because I have a boyfriend and I questioned what if I’m lesbian, all because I thought I wasn’t happy. I enjoy sexual acts with him. So I don’t understand why I keep thinking I’m lesbian.
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In my personal experience when I first started wondering if I was a lesbian it was because I never enjoyed sexual acts with a guy or could never form a true connection with a guy. And my sexual attraction was solely for women as I always had thoughts about ripping their clothes off . Looking at a girl is absolutely nothing to worry about , just because you appreciate a pretty girl doesn’t mean you fancy them or want to be with them. The fact you enjoy sexual acts and are in a happy relationship with a guy would probably rule out being a lesbian all together.
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Ohh okay thank you, but if I’m Being completely honest. My childhood worries me. Or the fact that looking at a picture of a women in a bikini could turn me on. But I read that’s kind of normal with all women. It scares me to death (no disrespect) since I was a kid I crushed on boys and I get aroused by my boyfriend. I never fantasized about a girl in my life nor do I think I crushed on them. Can you please tell me if I could be lesbian maybe? I also stress about the fact if I have an emotional connection with my Boyfriend. It worries me. He means a lot to me, and he’s my first serious relationship. Idk if this makes a difference but I’m only 15.
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The first time I knew I was lesbian tbh was probably at the same age you are now, when I was at drama class and there was a really cute girl , I just found myself looking and getting butterflies , looking forward to my next class just to be able to watch her again. In my personal opinion it doesn’t seem like you feel strongly enough about a particularly women to be a lesbian, although you are noticing women more I believe you would have identified one person in particular that catches your eye or that you can’t stop thinking about
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Okay so you think I would have a crush on a by now right? I’m sorry I’m just so desperate to know if I am or can be. But no I can’t think of anyone is particular. I have several friends that are girls and they are all kind but that’s kind of it. Any other signs you can help my out on?
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I would personally keep an eye on it , if this becomes a persistent thing where you are thinking about a specific person or it gets to the point you look forward to seeing a particularly girl and start to develop butterflies or become sexually attracted I would start to think about it a lot more . Remember being a lesbian is not a choice and even if you are a lesbian there is nothing you can do about it . I can promise you that no matter how hard you try , you can run but you can’t hide from your true feelings.
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Okay thank you for the advice. If I did could I possibly be bi?
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Because the way you describe how you felt about girls I feel about guys. Getting excited to see them and all that
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I would definitely say you would be more likely to be a bisexual than be a lesbian. Because if you were a lesbian you wouldn’t have the strong feelings you have for your boyfriend and you would be able to be sexual towards him
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Wouldn’t *
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It’s likely more that it is just the OCD. Especially if worrying about it takes up the majority of your day. Googling things and researching stuff is a compulsion because you are seeking reassurances. Yes it is common for women to get turned on by other women without being lesbian, but if you are not developing true feelings for someone like Carly1995 said, it’s just an obsessive thought that you will need to learn to accept as just that. A lot of people struggle with similar thoughts. You will figure it all out. Seeing someone can help you figure out if it is truly who you are, or if it’s just a thought/worry. I hope you can feel better soon!
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Remember the only reason I knew for a fact I was a lesbian is because I physically couldn’t have sex with a guy & I was unable to make any kind of connection with a guy other than friends
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So I wouldn’t feel aroused during sexual acts and stuff right? You never liked sound that with men? I’m so sorry you don’t need to answer that question.
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Thank you both!
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That’s right , you wouldn’t be a lesbian if you are enjoying sex and have a genuine connection beyond friend level with a guy
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The connection thing I worry about now, I mean I enjoy being with my boyfriend, I care about him, and we’re close. But how do I know for sure if there’s a connection..could this just be ocd as well
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It’s probably the OCD. I worry about the same thing. OCD does not like uncertainty. Love and connection are harder to physically prove and therefore are more uncertain.
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Oh god, I hate these feelings. I wish I was just certain about everything and didn’t have to question and obsess.
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Trust me. I 100% understand. Seeing a therapist and reading self help books about OCD have really helped me. I also decided to take medication as part of my treatment. I have definitely noticed a difference. There is nothing wrong with getting help. You will thank yourself for it. It will help you not have those feelings of fear/anxiety/guilt. Unfortunately there is no magical cure, but there are things you can do to cope and live with OCD without all the fear and worry.
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Hello. I am on my first relationship, (and I want it to be my only!) I've been at it for nearly 2 years, and it first starting happening a few months in. When the relationship started, it felt perfect to me. We are both extremely different people, we have different taste, different humor (but we both made each other laugh!) and just a different way of talking about things, (I tend to be more analytical, while she isn't as much). But I considered these differences to be fine, I never felt like it was an issue because our core values are very similar and I consider her a very intelligent girl. We just enjoyed time together, and each other, I thought she was cute as hell, and even if she didn't talk in depth about a lot of stuff, that didn't matter, I enjoyed the quiet times with her just as much as the talkative times. When the OCD kicked in, that's when I started to question everything, I questioned if I even loved her in the first place, if our relationship was just a sham, if I even found her attractive in the first place, her intelligence, her point of view, even dumb petty stuff like "oh she likes THAT movie???". After my first major breakdown, I confessed a lot to her. At this point, I didn't even know what was going on until I started to look into it. And that's where I found ROCD. On one hand, it was satisfying to see something I could point to as "the problem", on the other hand, I think it gave me bad motivation, it reassured me that this was something that I could just try and ignore. After I cooled down from this, I once again had a long period of bliss. I had a good schedule with her. >Go to work >Hang out with her (spend the night at her place sometimes) >go home and hang out with friends I enjoyed my time with her, taking part in her interests, and her taking part in mine. She wasn't always 100% into the things that I was, and that was always a bit disappointing to me, but in the same way you'd be disappointed if your friend didn't like the thing you liked. (now I over analyze these moments and question if I did always care more about this or not) This moment of bliss would end after another huge trigger. A part of the OCD I have yet to mention is my tendency to be worried that "getting along with other people that I find attractive" is the equivalent of either cheating on my partner, or backstabbing them. There was someone at work that I found attractive and I had a moment where it felt like I may have developed a thing for them, I still don't know if it's true because I generally found them to be annoying at times. I made a joke during work, that felt like I was propping myself up to them, I still don't know my motivation behind this joke, because it feels like it could have been something that I would have joked about to anyone, but I'm still not even sure about it. Either way I basically had a panic attack and later confessed to my partner. I don't know if I should have done it, or not, because I'm to this day confused about my emotions during that situation. Regardless. She was hurt, but she forgave me. It felt like I couldn't look her in the eye and feel like a sincere person to her. After this major moment, I felt like I never recovered. I started to avoid talking to this person at work, or really many women at work at all because of the fear that I'd fall for them. When an attractive women shows up I try and end the conversation quickly, this has only created a fear for taking to people, and it's extremely stressful. I got by though. And I would continue to love my partner. Until another major breakdown. This one created a new type of numbness to my partner, that felt completely different, and it's way more convincing. I mentioned in the past that my partner and I are very different, and that we even have different ways of talking about interests. My partner very much enjoys things for what they are, there's not much analysis, and that's fine. Me (and my friends) are very analytical. Last month I was showing her a game I like, and I started to question if she was even tracking what was going on, or even understood it, I was obsessing over the idea that she didn't even care about it (even tho I know she has always taken interest in what I like). This way of thought broke my brain and it made me feel completely incompatible with her. I question my behavior when I was showing her stuff in the past, I remember moments in which I questioned if she was actually paying attention even during moments when the OCD was low. I question if she has the ability to even watch something and understand what's going on. All terrible thoughts, and all thoughts that I never want to have. I'm scared to talk to my friends half the time because the thoughts of them being more "intelligent and analytical" pulsate through my brain. My friends and I are extremely cynical, about things like the film industry and sometimes if I'm going in on something it feels like I'm shitting on her by proxy just because she doesn't care about it as much as I do. I've isolated myself from friends and I think that did worsen my condition, because when it's just only me and my partner hanging out, I feel like it started attacking her more. This is the part where it just doesn't feel like ROCD anymore. I used to not give a single shit about these things, I was able to make blanket statements like "I think TikTok sucks and it's users are annoying" knowing full well my partner uses TikTok every day. There was a separation between me making broad statements and then not necessarily being indictive of my partner SPECIFICALLY. Now it doesn't feel like I have much anxiety anymore, because it just feels like I've accepted that my partner is who she is and I "don't know if I love her" when in the past, I've accepted my partner for who she is, and I loved her anyway. I feel like I'm just not as connected to her as I once was. I used to enjoy everything with her, now my brain overanalyzes everything she does and says. I can't just relax. I feel like I've lost any amount of structure and this turned into a ramble. But I guess that's where I'm at now. I've been attempting getting proper health insurance so I can talk to someone and not break the bank. I think about the times when none of these ridiculous nitpicks didn't matter to me, and I cry about the idea of leaving her. Thank you for reading.
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my bf knows abt my googling and talking with chat bgt but does not know about this app, he is at my house and now im alone bc he is at the bathroom and he told me to not google and things but im confused idk what i feel i want to feel good and happy, i was good amd happy today, but now i have a lot of thoughts, my libido is low and i found it hard to kiss and do sexual things. Im scared i will br like this forever amd that i will never want to have sex (i am a virgin) , i will be 18 soon and i hate that i am like this. Im so scared i will never want to do this. i want to, but i always feel strange and my thoughts attack me making me feel so bad. i hate myself for posting here bc it is a compulsion and i feel like a liar, he loves me so much :(
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