Why am I experiencing negative feelings in a happy relationship?

You’re not alone , I get like this also ! Currently experiencing it with my gf , I hate them believe me , it’s funny though cause when I’m not feeling this sorta feeling or thinking this sorta thought I’m perfectly happy and fine and loving my gf again, but when you go through it it feels so real and scary , my gf too is amazing and loving and the absolute best gf I’ve ever had in terms of being reassuring loving and tryna understand my thoughts and issues, I hate haven these thoughts and feelings randomly cause I think the same , is it me or is it ocd, I get scared cause I don’t wanna leave my woman , I had plans and feelings of marrying her and spending my life with her for the last ten months lol, I have felt through out my whole soul how happy and great I feel with her , to just thinking this shit, it’s happened on and off before and I’ve always go through it , but this time it feels different , it feels more real I don’t know how to describe it . All I want is to truly love her and I’m afraid I don’t and I’m not good enough for her and she deserves better

I go through this right now, And it’s safe to say that it will pass. I have been in a relationship with my girl for almost 2 years. I proposed to her a couple months ago and I have had a crap tun of OCD thoughts. I thought she was the issue , I thought I was the issue, all these things. I had to just realize that it’s a commitment whether if I’m feeling like I’m wrong. And everyday we do are best and we show up. I show no matter how I feel. That’s what love requires, OCD requires rules, restraint, and fear. Love requires , grace, patience and more good things .

I have similar thoughts like that too I recently was in a 4 year relationship and had thoughts like that the whole time. Part of ocd for some people is your brain making you or telling you that you want to do something or that your feeling something your not. The best advice that I can give you experiencing thoughts like that in a relationship is that you truly will just know. If it’s been a couple of months and you don’t wanna break up then i guarantee it’s just your intrusive thoughts. Give it some time. Try and take deep breaths when you start having those thoughts. Recently to try and settle my thoughts down I’ve been taking deep breaths and saying “I deserve to feel how I want to feel and not my ocd”. Or I try to remind myself to not punish myself and let my true thoughts come through. I hope maybe that can help you! :)))

How do I know that it's really just OCD and that I'm not actually feeling this way?

hey there, i totally get how tough it can be dealing with those intrusive thoughts – they can really sneak up on you and throw everything off balance, even when things are going well with your guy. it's rough when your mind tries to convince you of stuff you don't want to believe, especially with rOCD throwing in its two cents. while my own obsessions are more pure o flavored, the struggle feels just as real, and i'm here to just listen and support you through this. 🤗 i wanted to share something that my therapist mentioned to me – it's a free AI OCD tool called "unstuck" (www.AIOCDtool.com). since you're dealing with these sudden, unwelcome thoughts about your relationship, this tool might be a great fit for what you're experiencing. it's like having a mini-therapist in your pocket that guides you through the tough moments with ERP techniques. you just type in what's bugging you, and it helps you work through it step-by-step. i know app plugs can be super annoying, but i promise i'm not trying to sell you on anything – this tool has been a game-changer for me, and i hope it can offer you some relief too. feel free to hit me up with any questions about it, happy to chat more if you need.