Rocd vs reality

How do people recognize the difference between relationship ocd intrusive thoughts and real thoughts about your relationship? I have been in a relationship for about a year, it’s my first long-term relationship and the healthiest, I am almost 20 years old, and I believe I have rocd (I haven’t been diagnosed but it’s pretty clear to me). The main thoughts I get are “what if I’ll lose feelings for my bf?, what if I don’t love him?, what if I’m gonna break his heart?” (it’s never about if he’s cheating on me or anything like that. He is a really great boyfriend and the best person to ever walk into my life, he isn’t toxic or bad in any way towards me or the relationship). Usually these thoughts occur before my period (luteal phase/pms) but I’m on day 6 of my period and I got these thoughts, which usually isn’t the case as I’ve said before. So I went into a spiral cus I believed that since I got these thoughts at a different time in my cycle, they must be true. Deep down I know I love my boyfriend so much, it’s just so hard to navigate whether or not these thoughts are just fake rocd thoughts or what I’m really thinking. Can anyone else relate?

Username: ctmontctmont

Date posted: 45w ago

Once you start trying not to think of something, the more your ocd will latch onto it and the more it’ll show up regardless of where you are in your cycle. Sit with the uncertainty no matter how distressing it is.

Username: ofcourseOliviaofcourseOlivia

Date posted: 44w ago

hey, i can really feel how distressing these thoughts are for you, especially since they're hitting outside of the usual times you expect them. it's rough when your brain throws curveballs at you, making you question what's real and what's the ocd talking. it's incredibly hard, but hold onto that knowledge that beneath it all, you know the love you have for your bf is genuine. 💔 by the way, have you heard about this new ai-powered ocd therapy tool called 'unstuck'? i've been through that maze of doubts myself, and what helped me was this free ai ocd therapy tool called "unstuck" (unstuckmyocd.com/try) that my nocd therapist recommended. i think it'll be especially helpful for you because it's like having an ocd therapist in your pocket, providing personalized, step-by-step support when those unexpected thoughts try to take over. it's designed to help you navigate these moments without giving into reassurance seeking. i hate when people promote stuff, but i really think it can help you because it's changed my life. lmk if you have qs or just want to talk more! <3

Username: anonymous1963anonymous1963

Date posted: 45w ago

We’ve also talked about marriage and living together in the future and that has triggered thoughts sometimes like “what if living together would be horrible? What if we live together and I don’t love him anymore? What if this doesn’t work out? What if we’re moving too fast?, etc”. I get worried that maybe we talked about these things way too soon, even though we’ve talked about this stuff for as long as we can remember, but I think I am so influenced by social media and people’s opinions on what is too soon for a relationship too.

Username: landhouse

Date posted: 5y ago

how long should my obsessive thoughts last about my boyfriend if i have rocd ? usually i have a bad period where i think i have lost feelings for him and then it comes back but i’ve been feeling anxious and having these constant thoughts for days now. i’m trying not to do my compulsions but even when i do i don’t get the feeling of loving him back i just don’t get the constant thoughts and anxiety. is this rocd or do i actually just not like my boyfriend ? i’m not formally diagnosed with rocd but i have done so much research and my habits and thoughts sound exactly like examples of those suffering from rocd. i thought that i had it and now i’m scared i don’t and i just don’t love him. but then i also know that that’s another symptom of rocd that the ocd convinces you that you don’t actually have rocd and you just don’t have feelings for them so now i’m scared and confused. can anyone tell me if they think that i have rocd please

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Username: peachy!

Date posted: 1y ago

having trouble with rocd

hi! I'm really struggling with rocd right now. I have a boyfriend that I'm very in love with, and havent doubted that until now. I've been struggling with what I think is derealization, which has caused myself to feel distant from him, and like he isnt actually my boyfriend. because of this, I now I keep getting repetitive intrusive thoughts that I dont love him, and that I never loved him, and that I don't even know him. its terrifying. I've told him about this, and hes very supportive. he knows I still love him, and just wants to help me. but I'm so terrified of these thoughts to the point of almost believing them. if anyone else has struggled with this, how do you cope? I've been trying to reassure myself of my memories of him, and looking at things I do currently that show I still have love for him, but I would love some other ideas since it's still hard to convince myself. thank u!!

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Username: Anonymous_co...

Date posted: 39w ago

ROCD? Please read 🙏

I’m so terrified that my feelings are not a product of ROCD and are actually real. They feel real, I think they are, and it makes me mad because I just want to be in a happy relationship but then I have a really real thought that picks apart every aspect of my partner: what he looks like, how he sounds, how he acts, how weird he is, his intelligence, his emotional state, etc. recently it’s been really sad because I feel critical towards him doing normal things like feeling exited, or trying to be funny, or making jokes, or even him being vulnerable and crying. I feel so judgemental and it feels so real, like that’s how I really feel, and maybe I do think he’s a little weird but I don’t want that to stop me from loving him. And I feel like it’s bad for be to think and feel all these things. I don’t want to let these thoughts take over my life and ruin all the growth that him and I have done together, but it honestly feel like that’s how I really feel some days, and idk if it’s ROCD.

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