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How do I stop engaging with the thoughts or stop ruminating when I can barely think of anything else without it turning into something it’s not?
How do I stop engaging with the thoughts or stop ruminating when I can barely think of anything else without it turning into something it’s not?
There’s a woman I watch on YouTube her name is (Chrissie Hodges) she has some really great videos of OCD and she’s funny. I hope that you look her up she’s my go to when I have these moments like you’re sharing check her out. I hope she can help and she has tons of videos of all different type of topics
You have to first remind yourself that your rumination cannot protect you. It will only 100% of the time increase your anxiety. Knowing that, you choose not to focus or direct attention to the intrusive thoughts.
I cannot for the life of me stop ruminating or checking how I feel about thoughts or focusing on thoughts or creating more thoughts. I feel like I’m losing my mind. I want to scream. I try not to ruminate about the thoughts, but trying not to just makes me think about them more. I try not to check, but somehow, I still check. I want to let a thought sit in the background, but the more I try not to focus on it, the more I end up focusing on it. I don’t want the thought to expand because that feels like engaging with it, but I can’t just stop it from expanding. It feels impossible. People keep saying I’m in control of my compulsions, and maybe that’s true for the physical ones. But when it comes to the mental compulsions, I swear I have no control. It feels like I’m missing something that everyone else seems to have, like there’s some tool they’re using that I don’t have. Controlling mental compulsions has never felt possible for me. I’m starting to fear them. And every time someone says I’m in control and can just choose not to do them, I end up beating myself up even more when they happen. Or when I *choose* I guess. I don’t know anymore. If this is my fault, if I’m responsible for this, then what does that make me? I feel like a monster. I am at my wits’ end. How am I supposed to control mental compulsions when it feels like they control me? I freak out when they happen. They don’t bring me relief, they just make me panic. I want it to stop so bad.
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