Am I overthinking my feelings for this great guy or should I leave?

ROCD

I have been so stressed and confused as of recently over a guy l've been getting to know and I don't know what to do. I can't trust my own emotions anymore. He's a great guy and as l've been getting to know him I've found that we have a lot of common and he's very sweet, but have so many doubts and feelings that I don't like him. And I'm worried and confused. I don't know what to do. There isn't inherently anything wrong with him in terms of morals and character, he just acts goofy and sometimes dumb. And it makes me think negatively of him and it’s frustrating that I do. It keeps pushing me farther and farther away And I don't want to let these thoughts bug me or overshadow the good things. I'm so confused. I can’t tell if these thoughts and feelings mean I should leave. I don’t want to leave. But now I’m also worried that maybe I just don’t want to leave because I’m scared. I don't want to be irrational about it. I don’t know what to do

Username: ConfusedDrewConfusedDrew

Date posted: 42w ago

I know exactly how this feels i'm going through something similar right now. these situations are tough battling our own minds for control is so uncomfortable and I personally feel a deep sadness from it. heres what I try to do every time those intrusive thoughts slip in my mind. I close my eyes and breath shifting my focus from the thought to the feeling of my lungs expanding and i do that for as long as i need to. It helps me refocus and see that things are ok. I hope that helps.

Username: Anonymous_confessions Anonymous_co...

Date posted: 41w ago

@ConfusedDrew Thank you! I will try that. I need to learn to reshape my thoughts and look at things from a new perspective and allow the thoughts to pass and relax

Username: ConfusedDrewConfusedDrew

Date posted: 41w ago

@Anonymous_confessions - Thats the key to winning viewing things from a different perspective and allowing those thoughts to pass, with practice this will become easier to do. for practice whenever you're alright and your brains not as scattered find some time to mediate and focus on your physical body, listen to your heart beat, feel your lungs, sense your fingers and toes. I promise just a few minutes of that feels great.

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 41w ago

I know exactly what you mean. When you said, you worry you don't want to leave because you're scared. Those few sentences were like being inside my mind. It's like every thought creates another worry. Hang in there, I hope things get better for you.

Username: RileyAdams55RileyAdams55

Date posted: 41w ago

i completely get how tough it can be when your OCD muddles with your emotions and perceptions about a relationship. it's indeed super frustrating when you feel like you can't trust your own feelings. all this confusion and stress you're going through right now must be insanely tough. 💕 by the way, have you heard about this new AI-powered OCD therapy tool called 'unstuck?' the same situations used to mess with me until my NOCD therapist recommended 'unstuck' (unstuckmyocd.com/try) to me. it gives personalized, step-by-step guidance just like an OCD therapist, which could really help clear out those relationship-related doubts you're having. i hate when people promote stuff, but i really think this could help you because it changed my life. lmk if you have any questions, or just want to chat more! <3

Username: Anonymous_co...

Date posted: 38w ago

ROCD or am I lying to myself?

How am I to know whether I have ROCD or if I should leave. I keep having critical and negative thoughts about everything my partner says and does and the way he looks and acts and his personality: literally everything! But I know he’s not the problem, I am, because he’s not toxic or bad. So how do I know if it’s ROCD or if Im trying to force myself to like the wrong person? I’m so lost and confused. He’s such an amazing person and I don’t want to hurt him. I just wish these thoughts would go away and I could see him through rose coloured glasses. But I’m feeling so discouraged and getting tired of trying.

Username: Anonymous_co...

Date posted: 34w ago

ROCD?

Is it normal/ok to think your partner is weird? I keep thinking it and I keep panicking and feeling like I don’t like him and need to leave. I’m starting to worry that maybe he’s just too weird, or maybe a “little off” and crazy. It’s so frustrating.

Username: jeremys

Date posted: 27w ago

Stay or go?

Over the past week I’ve recently started having doubts about my relationship with my boyfriend. I have logistical concerns that we were working on but something kept telling me it might be falling out of love. Because I truly do care for him. But feel that if I’m unsure whether or not we’re meant to be together. If anyone has dealt with ROCD and has any advice please let me know. In the past I’ve had OCD episodes with different types so I know what it’s like to some extent. Over the past week I’ve been very distressed over this all and that led me to ending things with him last night but he’s the one who told me it could be OCD, if it is I want to work on it with him but if it’s not then, it’s not unfortunately. Back story We’ve been talking for the past 7 months and dating for 3. When I met him it was a few months after I had a relationship end very abruptly and traumatically but I don’t see him as a rebound Thank you in advance

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