If you have any questions about ROCD, leave it here! ❤️ I will do my best to answer each one and avoid reassuring you! Thank you

@ultimatelyumi Honestly all I can say is thank you. Dealing with can be so hard and so difficult to open up about. This made me cry because it made me realize that i am not alone, it gave me strength made feel like I can do it for once. Thank you..

@Mochi. You want you to know that you are not alone. Yes, I’ve had breakup urges before. In fact, I had it when I had confessed to doing something terrible (and it wasn’t OCD this time) so it was worse. I felt terrible, pulling him in with “please don’t go” then telling him “no. I’m hurting you. I don’t deserve you” (somewhere along the lines). I understand the confusion and hurt. I understand the thoughts that tell you to let go of him. But to think if you have ROCD or not, you don’t have to solve that question. Accept uncertainty, it is absolutely okay to not know (: If you feel the thoughts again to break up with him, come back to this: 1. Breathe. Mindfulness: you deserve to know and be in the present. Observe your surroundings, feel the earth you are standing on. Look at your hand. Is the sky blue? Breathe in, take it in. Feel your heartbeat. If you’re breathing terribly: do the 4-7-8 breathing. (With mouth inhales, exhales.) 4 for inhale. 7 for holding in breath. 8 four exhale with whoosh sound. 2. Tell your boyfriend that you have this compulsion. I know it gives you relief, but these compulsions can hurt your loved ones. Sometimes they take it too personally, they get hurt. Even if they try to understand, they will feel a way about it. Tell him not to give you reassurance such as “I know you’re a good person. I know this is your OCD”. But apologize, for your compulsions. Talk to him. Give him a talk. Sometimes, it can lead to bottled emotions. Tell him about your anxiety, how grateful you are to have him, that things are difficult, and that you are sorry. Apologize. 3. Accept that this is an OCD thought. It is a thought. Can you control this thought? No. You cannot. But you know what you can do? You can control... your actions. example: OCD telling you that you don’t deserve them and that you should break up with them. You feel anxiety, you want to cry. You feel panicked but you fear it’s the right choice. But here is when ACT comes in. Observe the thought. Accept it. Let yourself feel the terribly pain feeling anxiety that makes you cry at night and wonder “oh god.” Then remember about your values. You want to stay with him. Even though you feel like you don’t, YOU know you want to yourself. You probably want to be a good girlfriend and stay with this love of your life. The person that makes you laugh, that makes you smile. Does breaking up with him with no absolute reason (besides anxiety) correspond with your values? No. It doesn’t. But staying with him, is staying committed to your values. You accept the thought, the anxiety, Remember your values And stay committed to them. Don’t let OCD keep you from being the girlfriend you want to be. Don’t let the anxiety keep you away from your values. Act on your values. Even if it hurts. Not your thoughts. (: hope it works out. Come back anytime!! ☀️?

@aholcomb17 I am soooo sorry I replied late omggg!! If you’re looking for a way to relieve your anxiety or figure out your anxiety (in a compulsion way) please skip. If not, and you are just wondering, I believe that the thoughts do not affect you anymore if they don’t bring anxiety. It simply doesn’t trigger your OCD (:

@mochi Your response touched my heart so much!!! I felt alone too,, I felt lost and I didn’t know what was happening to me. I needed something or someone to explain what the heck was happening to me. You are strong enough. I believe in you,, everything’s going to be okay (:

How do you beat it? It has lead to the ending of 2 relationships for me I believe. I hadn't try to date someone for 5 years. Got involved with someone and it happened all over again with the thoughts, worries and anxiety.

How do you distinguish between instincts/reality and ocd thoughts? I find it’s a constant battle within me

@Hockeyguy2019, I’m so sorry it led to that ending. Nobody ever wants that. I believe that when all the thoughts, worries and anxiety comes back, it hits hard. Since you have not been able to fight through it initially, and maybe it came back when someone finally important came into your life. There is ERP and CBT and ACT. ACT is basically looking at your thoughts and letting it through, while staying committed to your values. ERP is exposing yourself to situations that give you anxiety. So that (what I say) an immunity builds up towards it. This can be - letting yourself close to someone else, kissing your gf’s when OCD makes you feel like you shouldn’t, etc. Try giving yourself 2-5 months to work on your ERP. Stay strict on your schedule,, Good luck.

Did you ever have break up urges? Like do your doubts ever get so bad that you constantly want to break up with your SO? How do you stop from acting out on them? Its been happening to me a lot lately and I know that by pushing him away then pulling him back im just hurting and confusing him but i can't stop the doubts feel too real. I honestly don't even know if I even have rocd or if we're just doomed..

Michi, yes I have had that. I often looked for reassurance from family members that I was in the right relationship. I over analyzed everything. I had good times and bad times. Imagine to yourself if you do break up. How would you feel then? Like you lost someone special. It's like a double edged sword these thoughts

Thank you for the advice. It's just disappointing because she is not in my life and wishing she was now. Now I am left with the should of could would of regrets now.

@Em4706 Sorry I didn’t reply sooner, I was busy! I can tell you’re trying to figure out whether something is not OCD or is OCD/your anxiety. Simply, that is a question often asked in a form of reassurance? Is “Did I really do (insert bad thing) here or is it my OCD” or “Do I love him or is it just my OCD” familiar? These two are examples of your question. The best thing to do is be uncertain - you don’t have to know whether it’s OCD or not. If you feel anxious about the consequences, feel them. Welcome them (: sometimes, this question is something that shouldn’t be answered. (Unless you want harmful short term relief). Hope that helps you out. Good luck (: you’ll make it. Keep fighting the battle, take breaks, just remember, take it one day at a time ?

What do you do when you have a thought and get anxious and obsess but at the same time don’t seem to care and just have no clarity

If it doesn’t trigger my ocd does that make the thoughts true ?

Maybe it does make it true, or maybe it doesn’t. Try and understand that it’s best to accept the horrible deathly feeling of not knowing whether it is or not. Then go on with your day as if you never had the thought. Continue being productive (:

I don’t want it to be true :(

If it’s not true then why do the thoughts feel real and true despite the anxiety