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If you believe in God, please believe in a god that loves you unconditionally. Sexual thoughts are part of our nature, it's human to have them. If your sexual life is respectful and not hurting anyone then you shouldn't feel ashamed about it.
The fact that you freak out so much about these things show you really love God and you have a good heart. But that doesn't mean he doesnt know what you are going through which is scrupulosity. He's going to help you fight through it you will be just fine. And remember to always pray.
Thank you both very much
Do you think so? I feel so freaked out by the fact he can see into my brain. It’s like he watches me do everything. And I just can’t deal with that pressure :’(. My sexual life was totally fine and not hurting anyone, just a normal girl. But since having these thoughts it’s like I can’t stop ruminating about it. I don’t even know how to combat it.. how will I ever be able to kiss someone with my mind focusing on not enjoying it because God is watching and I feel anxiety inside about my thoughts
Look, I'm not religious but I used to be. From my experience I can tell you that if your God is a good presence then he doesn't judge what is going on in your head. Some thoughts could be intrusive and not even meaningful to who you really are. A good God wouldn't be so scrupulous about our minds , especially if he made us this way, with this ability to think about anything. Just try to focus more on your actions. If you're sure that your sexual life is respectful towards you and others, then don't be afraid to fulfill your desires.
@Bigheart God is a good God and He's not scrupulous. Scrupulosity doesn't come from Him because He has freed us from guilt and shame. God loves the sinner but hates sin. He didn't make us this way. "So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them." Genesis 1:27 His plans were never to harm us any kind of way. "For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11 His word also says that" by His stripes we have been healed " Isaiah 53:7 Even though God knows the situation with our minds He also knows what's deep inside our hearts. That's all He sees.
Does anyone have hard time with sexuality and sexual things? I am worried to be sexual, that God is watching. I stopped everything remotely sexual. If it ever comes to the point where I will kiss someone again I will be so scared because God is watching me. And it will be uncomfortable because I won’t be enjoying the moment I will be thinking about my thoughts. I used to be totally fine and then all this came along and I feel like I can’t even be normal human. I have sexual dreams and I feel fine and aroused in them. Then I wake up and I’m like omg God doesn’t want me to think these things. I can’t even explain it all.. I wish I could all stop this and go back to normal me :’(
Just went down a rabbit hole of googling a lot of stuff for almost 2 hours about pedophilia. And now I’ve got my self scared. I haven’t done it this bad in almost 2 months. I hate this. I was diagnosed with OCD, but some stuff I masturbated to a while back when I had a slight porn addiction is giving me proof. (Not actual children by the way) I’ve had OCD my whole life, and I’m starting to wonder if when I had thoughts about children before my huge spike if they were also intrusive, and I just didn’t care much about them then? Why would I just start caring now. I’m so broken.
I have this boyfriend who i’ve been with for over a year and I love him and I felt like I was ready so I lost my virginity to him and we’ve been having sex for a while. I’ve grown this extreme fear that God hates me and every time I do it, I’m disappointing him or like he no longer likes me because I’ve done it. I tried to pray and ask if I shouldn’t be doing it or if I should stop but I never really get any response or clear answers so I’ve been continuing to do it because I love my boyfriend and I want to be normal and feel normal but the feeling of God hating me seeps and every time we are getting together and every day throughout my life. I go to a Catholic school so every time we pray or God has brought up I feel deep guilt I feel like I’m not worthy of praying, or speaking to God anymore. We had reconciliation the other week, and I finally got up the courage to tell the priest that I lost my virginity and that I felt like God didn’t love me and was looking for some reassurance. the priest responded by saying he doesn’t think God is mad at me but he’s just disappointed in me. This actually made me feel a lot worse because it kind of confirmed the idea that God was disappointed or didn’t like me which to me is very scary and makes me feel sick. A lot of the time it feels like I’m being told I shouldn’t do it and I know I shouldn’t do it but I do it anyway, so I feel like I’m gonna go to hell. But at the same time I feel like if I didn’t have OCD, I wouldn’t be thinking those things and it wouldn’t matter so I feel like I really don’t know what to do.
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