Anonymous123456789#
- Date posted
- 1y
ROCD
How do you know if its rocd or not? Or if you’re just finding excuses for being a terrible person
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 1y
ur not a terrible person because you wouldn't feel guilty but to be honest you have to accept the uncertainty behind you being a bad person or having the thoughts that a bad person would have and accept the guilt to reinforce that you are a good person but the thoughts are just a product of your need for everything to be 100% one way or the other. which in reality it will never be that way u'll always have thoughts that contradict what you want to feel but if you accept them as passing thoughts and understand that the majority of your feelings gravitate towards a positive reality then u'll slowly become desensitized to your intrusive thoughts
Anonymous123456789#Anonymous123...
- Date posted
- 1y
@Anonymous Thanks for this ❤️. Ive been trying to find someone who has gone through my exact issue to confirm if this is an rocd thought. I feel like crying… i just feel bad. Half of me is trying to justify the thought which is bad… and makes me feel like im looking for excuses and the other half is trying to make sure its rocd related.. i dont wanna reassurance seek… but i dont want to be this bad person hes in a relationship with. I genuinely hate my brain… my ocd has been kicking my ass lately whenever i get in relationships that cause me to have high emotions.. its like my brain doesn’t want me to be happy.
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 1y
@Anonymous123456789# for me i have rlly intrusive thoughts and crushes and feelings and i wish it were all thoughts in my brain but it feels like theyre interconnected which convinces me its a crush and then i feel guilty and like a horrible person bcs i dont wanna feela ttracted to anyone else and im sure u can imagine the cycle considering u suffer from rocd as well. i dont know if its abt crushes for u or if its abt the compatibility or the fate of ur relationship or intrusive thoughts/icks abt ur partner but either way its all normal and to be honest ur brain wants u to be happy but ur disorder does not. it targets ur biggest fears and reflects them as a reality so until u desensitive urself it will keep perpetuating.
OCDeeznutzzzOCDeeznutzzz
- Date posted
- 1y
While seeking reassurance usually isn’t helpful as someone who has accepted the disertenty to a certain extent, I have to say just telling myself okay so MAYBE I could be a bad person but clearly I am self aware enough to get better so at the very least there are ways to solve that problem :) either way the result ends with you not being a bad person, just a human
Anonymous123456789#Anonymous123...
- Date posted
- 1y
@OCDeeznutzzz This made me wanna cry some more when i read it… i agree with what u said. Its just the confessing that fucks me up… in the chance of that possibility being true
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- 1y
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Anonymous123456789#Anonymous123...
- Date posted
- 1y
@Bigotina Relationship ocd
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 1y
@Bigotina rocd is literally anything u dont want to feel or think while in a relationship. it could be about ruminating the end of ur relationship or anticipating it out of fear. or it could be convincing urself u dont love ur partner. it could be literally anything u see as a fear in ur relationship and something ur scared u cant control that ur ocd targets. it could be abt finding others attractive or not feeling anything or constantly second guessing ur partners intentions, speculation of cheating/unfaithfulness, etc.
Anonymous123456789#Anonymous123...
- Date posted
- 1y
@Anonymous Tw for those struggling with rocd.. Hi your post really helped in my time of need then and i was hoping you could maybe help me now. My ocd is attaching on to whether or not i find my partner attractive. Its hard.. i cant tell if its ocd or not. I struggle with finding myself good looking and body dysmorphia and now its latched on to him.. first it was the guilt of finding others attractive now its this. My partner also struggles with his feelings on how he looks… so i feel like this is doing more damage than anything if i went into specifics about it with him. Our relationship has been going through a really rough patch and hes trying to move states for me to really give us a go… but i feel guilty. My brain keeps telling me that its not right cause of this thought. When i say my morales dont want to fixate on someones looks and rather on how that person treats me i… still cant get past it. And hes putting his livelihood on the line. Any insight plz would be great
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 1y
@Anonymous123456789# this is allllll normal. i think its hard to define each and every thought as intrusive or ocd because they're all accustomed to what WE don't want to feel and they're situational so not everyone can relate to the same thoughts or feelings. but it is the same root cause. u have ocd, u don't want to feel or think it and ocd makes u have feelings and thoughts u don't want. u just need to keep living ur life with it so that ur desensitized to it bcs then jt will stop bothering u and become less frequent. most importantly, choose love when u can't feel it in you because u don't want to feel negatively so just don't act on them. u need to be okay with the uncertainty of ur feelings and the fluctuations of them so that you can move past this discomfort and fear that attracts ocd thoughts. again all normal and valid but teach urself how to detach from the thoughts
Anonymous123456789#Anonymous123...
- Date posted
- 1y
@Anonymous Just wanted to come on here and say thank you so much. Your words helped me work through another rough patch. I appreciate it and am wishing you all the best in your own battles with ocd. Thanks again
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Anonymous
- Date posted
- 24w
Can someone help
My rocd is spiraling so bad i feel like I’m terrible and can’t recover 😓 idk wuts real anymore yet ik i never wanna leave my man😓whats wrong w me
Mariabae
- Date posted
- 17w
please read
Lately, I’ve been feeling extremely confused and guilty. My boyfriend has been really busy with exams, and we haven’t talked much this past week. I don’t really feel like I miss him, and that scares me. It makes me think maybe I don’t love him anymore, maybe I’ve changed, and maybe this relationship doesn’t feel right for me anymore. A few days ago, a friend invited me to go to a club with her and another girl. I know that if I went without my boyfriend, he would feel bad — not because he’s controlling, but because in our relationship, we’ve always had mutual boundaries and respect. I decided not to go, but ever since, I’ve been spiraling. My thoughts keep going: “What if I didn’t go just because of him?”, “What if I actually wanted to go, but I stopped myself because I don’t really love him?”, “What if I’m holding myself back and this relationship is limiting me?” All of this makes me think I’m bored, that I don’t like him anymore, or that I’m staying out of habit. It’s hard to tell what I really want or whether these thoughts are part of ROCD or some deeper truth. I keep wondering if I’m just attached to him because he’s my first boyfriend and we’ve been together for so long. Sometimes I even think I wouldn’t care if we broke up, and that I don’t feel anything for him anymore — and that absolutely destroys me, because he’s such a good person who truly loves me. He doesn’t deserve to be treated with so much doubt and coldness. I feel miserable. I don’t know what’s real and what’s just obsession. It hurts that I can’t feel any clarity or peace. I just want to know if this is ROCD or if I’m in denial and refusing to accept the truth
Mariabae
- Date posted
- 10w
please read- rocd… or is it? im in agony
Hi. I wanted to stop posting here, but I can’t hold it in anymore. I’m feeling so lost. I’m in a relationship that, from the outside, looks wonderful. We’ve been together for 2 years. He loves me deeply. He’s kind and caring. And still… I can’t feel anything. I can’t imagine a future with him — living together, starting a family, growing old. When I try, it feels like something in me shuts down, like it’s wrong. I don’t feel happiness in the relationship. I don’t feel love, warmth, or comfort. I feel anxiety, numbness, guilt, and fear. We fight over the smallest things. My thoughts scream that I don’t love him, that I’m forcing this, that I’m just used to him. The scariest part is: sometimes I feel okay, even calm. And that’s when it hits me — “What if this calm means I’ve accepted the truth? What if I don’t love him?” It feels like I’m in shock. Like I’m finally seeing clearly… but I’m terrified that it’s a clarity I never wanted. I don’t know what’s real anymore. I just know that I’m exhausted. And I want peace. If anyone else has felt this — the numbness, the fear, the doubt that feels like the truth — please tell me how you’ve gotten through it. I don’t want to lose him. But I also don’t want to keep living like this. i know that people reading this will tell me to leave. but i dont have any reasons. All the problems started because of my never ending thoughts. i feel like i ruin everything. i feel like i have changed. im so lost and scared. i dont understand what is happening. It feels so real. im in agony, im crying so much. I wasnt always like this. i am trying to remember times i felt better and i cant. i cant feel anything. its so hard. i can’t explain how i feel and in scared what are you going to respond if someone will. i usually see “if you feel so bad then leave” but its not like that. he loves me so much and if the thoughts werent there it would gave been so different. everything was perfect. but i keep thinking that when the thoughts started, one and a half years ago, i realised that “i just dont like him” and gbat i couldn’t accept the truth and i am denying it. i feel fake. do i even have rocd? or is this cope?? why do i feel like this. why does it feel so real? please somebody help me
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