ROCD

@Anonymous Thanks for this ❤️. Ive been trying to find someone who has gone through my exact issue to confirm if this is an rocd thought. I feel like crying… i just feel bad. Half of me is trying to justify the thought which is bad… and makes me feel like im looking for excuses and the other half is trying to make sure its rocd related.. i dont wanna reassurance seek… but i dont want to be this bad person hes in a relationship with. I genuinely hate my brain… my ocd has been kicking my ass lately whenever i get in relationships that cause me to have high emotions.. its like my brain doesn’t want me to be happy.

@Anonymous123456789# for me i have rlly intrusive thoughts and crushes and feelings and i wish it were all thoughts in my brain but it feels like theyre interconnected which convinces me its a crush and then i feel guilty and like a horrible person bcs i dont wanna feela ttracted to anyone else and im sure u can imagine the cycle considering u suffer from rocd as well. i dont know if its abt crushes for u or if its abt the compatibility or the fate of ur relationship or intrusive thoughts/icks abt ur partner but either way its all normal and to be honest ur brain wants u to be happy but ur disorder does not. it targets ur biggest fears and reflects them as a reality so until u desensitive urself it will keep perpetuating.

@OCDeeznutzzz This made me wanna cry some more when i read it… i agree with what u said. Its just the confessing that fucks me up… in the chance of that possibility being true

@Bigotina Relationship ocd

@Bigotina rocd is literally anything u dont want to feel or think while in a relationship. it could be about ruminating the end of ur relationship or anticipating it out of fear. or it could be convincing urself u dont love ur partner. it could be literally anything u see as a fear in ur relationship and something ur scared u cant control that ur ocd targets. it could be abt finding others attractive or not feeling anything or constantly second guessing ur partners intentions, speculation of cheating/unfaithfulness, etc.

@Anonymous Tw for those struggling with rocd.. Hi your post really helped in my time of need then and i was hoping you could maybe help me now. My ocd is attaching on to whether or not i find my partner attractive. Its hard.. i cant tell if its ocd or not. I struggle with finding myself good looking and body dysmorphia and now its latched on to him.. first it was the guilt of finding others attractive now its this. My partner also struggles with his feelings on how he looks… so i feel like this is doing more damage than anything if i went into specifics about it with him. Our relationship has been going through a really rough patch and hes trying to move states for me to really give us a go… but i feel guilty. My brain keeps telling me that its not right cause of this thought. When i say my morales dont want to fixate on someones looks and rather on how that person treats me i… still cant get past it. And hes putting his livelihood on the line. Any insight plz would be great

@Anonymous123456789# this is allllll normal. i think its hard to define each and every thought as intrusive or ocd because they're all accustomed to what WE don't want to feel and they're situational so not everyone can relate to the same thoughts or feelings. but it is the same root cause. u have ocd, u don't want to feel or think it and ocd makes u have feelings and thoughts u don't want. u just need to keep living ur life with it so that ur desensitized to it bcs then jt will stop bothering u and become less frequent. most importantly, choose love when u can't feel it in you because u don't want to feel negatively so just don't act on them. u need to be okay with the uncertainty of ur feelings and the fluctuations of them so that you can move past this discomfort and fear that attracts ocd thoughts. again all normal and valid but teach urself how to detach from the thoughts

@Anonymous Just wanted to come on here and say thank you so much. Your words helped me work through another rough patch. I appreciate it and am wishing you all the best in your own battles with ocd. Thanks again