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Yeah, my dad doesn't understand my OCD symptoms either?? He's all like "why don't you just stop the repetitive actions" and I'm like "because it causes me severe distress if I don't" and he's all like"?." Ughh? The fact of the matter is that people without OCD just don't get us. BUT! Here, we do get you. We understand that you are not a bad person, as a matter of fact, the fact that those thoughts cause you distress proves it! Is the doctor that told you to do that a general doctor or a actual OCD therapist?
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Hey! From what I understand, you told your father and he said if he should be ready, right? Sorry, I wasn't clear on that. But I do know that when it comes to speaking about OCD it's better to expect people to react erroneously and not blame them at least at the moment we are "coming out" on telling them (which actually is the moment we need them the most). We are all soooo used to go through life without questioning our thoughts, desires, and behaviors that we always think they are the same and that they all come from the same place: us and who we "are or might want to be". So you mention OCD yo someone and they quickly think their's at least a hidden temptation or desire on you to act on whatever you are mentioning you are affraid of. Keep explaining them what OCD is and hopefully he might understand better. Wether we like it or not, our family is important in supoorting us. But if they don't, then we still find a way to push through! You are not your mind and You're loved ❤ keep pushing?
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@Infinite1010 The Doctor is a general doctor. My therapist is not someone who actually deals specifically with OCD, and I just got diagnosed with BPD, so my therapist and psyche wanted me to go to a day program for “crisis” basically. But I’m hoping after they’ll be able to find me someone who specializes in ocd and takes my insurance and that I’d be able to get to them since I have no car.
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@TonyOCD yeah, that’s what he said. In the past my father has been an asshole, and honestly I have trouble trusting him for that reason. I think he’s trying to be better now, but it’s still hard to trust him. He at least wasn’t angry about it, but he got defensive when I tried to explain.
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Mars, but few therapists know how to treat OCD well. I dont know where you live, but The Behavioral Wellness Clinic specializes specifically in OCD treatment. I might be wrong here, but I think they accept insurance and, even if they don't, they do have low fee opportunities for people in need. I provided evidence of my need and believe me I'm in treatment at a rate that is nowhere near their normal ones. They also provide teleconsultation in case you live far. Look for them on the internet or try to find help near you in the International OCD Foundation website. A general doctor knows nothing about psychological disorders and diagnoses yet for some reason people make the mistake of consulting them for psychological conditions. Even worse they can make the mistake of telling you what to do instead of referring you to proper assistance. A general doctor is where my mom took me the first time I told her I had OCD 11 years ago. There's nothing he could do then. Hang in there ❤
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@Mars I see. Here are a few great resources to finding a specialized therapist! First start here, because the therapists that are recommended are very specialized in OCD https://iocdf.org/ocd-finding-help/find-help/ If none are the right fit from there, then using this resource will help you find more, plus you can also filter for BPD https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists Now, I will say, I strongly recommend that when you contact a therapist to first ask if they accept your insurance, then also ask about the BPD. The second part is a little important because I waited like 2 1/2 months to see a therapist just for her to say "I can't help you because you have co-occuring disorders" so that sucked. My current therapist specializes in OCD and understands I have other co-occuring disorders, but we are just working on the OCD. So take a look and message as many as you think are a good fit and see if they can work with you. Good luck?
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- 24w
I had like a really bad argument with my mom basically about her complaining about my “attitude” and “constant arrogance” like okay firstly 😭 yes i do have an attitude and am irritable but im not THAT bad 😭🙏 she was saying that im a “pest” and that “its not enjoyable to live with someone who makes other people miserable” like 😅🧍♀️ oh ☺️ and then i tell her that i know im struggling and that im going to therapy to try to get better and trying to possibly get a diagnosis and she says “your generation just wants something to deal with. You want something to be wrong with you. ‘Trying to get better’ isn’t good enough… would you be able to stand someone like yourself? You’re just choosing this antisocial, narcissistic behaviour and harass everyone… You need to pull yourself together. No matter how much effort we put into you, you will never be happy. You want some medicine? Some diagnosis? Because that will solve everything?” 😭😭😭 and the way she said “some medication”- she sounded so disgusted and appalled and now i feel ashamed… i mean im not officially diagnosed with ocd and it is never my intention to self diagnose- but im sorry its VERY obvious when you have ocd and know of ocd- its so distinct. Everything- the compulsions, reassurance, intrusive thoughts, themes, patterns, perfectionism- but she has me overthinking- what if i dont have ocd 😭 and ive just been lying to myself and everyone maybe its not ocd and im just sick in the head or trying to self sabotage- and especially when my supposed ocd is calm or not as loud i get so anxious “what if i dont have ocd…”
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- 16w
Having ocd is so incredibly exhausting and depressing- my mom and dad argued with me for over an hour talking about how im a pain to be around, go in too many loops, and ruin everything and everyones mood… this conversation started with me saying im stressed out because of school and that i dont want to go because im exhausted- and idk if this is like ocd directly but it takes me like 2 hours to get ready in the morning because i need to look PERFECT and the same everyday literally 😭 and that process feels so exhausting every morning at 6am but i will NOT go to school without going through with it- i will literally be crying and shaking and wanting to go home the minute i get to school if even a single strand of my hair is not perfectly straightened or any blemishes or flaws are showing- and i cant even walk to school or anything bc im scared the humidity will mess with my hair and everything- and it just really affects my life? And yeah its freaking exhausting. And i have two more years of highschool and I dont know if im going to make it 😭i get super stressed over grades too because i need them to be extraordinary otherwise its a fail. Nothing below 95%. And thats also tiring! 😁 and my mom told me today “medication IS NOTTTT AND OPTION!!!” Like oh okay so im just cooked 😭 and therapy isnt really helping me at all- i feel like what im being told is so basic and generic and it doesn’t help me when im in a huge ocd episode- which is often… and what i hate most is like my mom says “don’t come to me with your problems after 6pm…” im sorry i cant schedule my feelings 😭 im so tired
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- 16w
LONG VENT POST: This is my second post of the day. Seriously, I am SO sorry. I have therapy tomorrow, I promise I will shut up after this lmao. Anyway, for Memorial Day weekend, I spent it at my aunt/uncles vacation house. Fortunately it wasn’t a big crowd - just my mom, grandmother, aunt, uncle and I. For context, I come from a pretty big family, and I am the youngest of 7 cousins and a younger sister to two brothers. All my cousins are in their early to mid 20’s, each very successful in school and their careers. My half brother is 29, and absolutely crushing it. My full brother is turning 23, he’s also doing amazing with school. I just turned 20 in April, I feel very lost. I know I want to be a forensic psychiatrist one day, and that I want my PhD. I want to be the best therapist I can be, but the fact that I barely get by with ocd/adhd has been discouraging me, so I currently feel like a flop. Anyway though, spending time with my aunts/uncles/cousins/grandparents triggers my ocd the most, as majority of them can be on the judgmental side. ESPECIALLY my aunt, she’s on my moms side, and she and my mom are total opposites. My aunts a very calculated, straightforward, logical, stern, sassy buisnesswoman. She’s successful, but lacks a lot of understanding and can be so cold and just mean. My moms a kindergarten teacher in a struggling community, and she’s always thinking about others before herself, extremely emotional, caring, but neglects her own needs a lot. They’re sisters, and they bump heads a ton. My aunt and all of her kids aren’t neurodivergent. They simply don’t understand mental health. My mom does, thank god. My aunt and uncle think that if a kid is having a psychotic break, then that kid should be kicked out of the house and not helped at all. My mom and I entirely disagree with this idea, and that someone clearly mentally suffering NEEDS mental health help asap, and they need to be home. The streets are the last place someone suffering should be. While we were vacationing at the house, my mom argued about this with my uncle. I was asleep, thank god, but I seriously hate having people in my family like this. I can never tell them about me having ocd, they’ll think it’s just an “excuse” for not getting things done, or just me trying to feel special. The reality is, they don’t get it. My full brother went through the worst psychotic break a few years ago. It lasted two years on and off due to bipolar disorder, but thank god he got himself help and he’s doing absolutely amazing now. He’s frustrated and embarassed with himself but now he’s on track, and as I said, crushing it with school. But the entire time he was going through this, my aunt and uncle just didn’t understand. To keep it short, they thought his mental problems were behavioral, and that he’s a “crazy” kid. The reality is, he was coping with the loss of his childhood best friend and our other uncle who was like a second father figure to us. He had manic episodes from the grief and self medicating with drugs and alcohol. This was all the while Covid was happening and he was a freshman at a college states away. He was so vunerable. I’m saying all this because, well, how am I to seriously be forward about my mental struggles when they couldn’t even show the slightest amount of empathy to my brother, who was struggling, so much more intensely than me? I’m quiet at family gatherings when they’re around for this exact reason. I have so much resentment toward them for it. I try to avoid them when I can, because I love them, I just hate their actions/views. What do you guys do with these kinds of people?
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