How can I manage Sexual Orientation OCD and accept uncertainty in my attraction?

Sexual Orientation OCD

Hi! I am genuinely so happy and attracted to my boyfriend but cannot stop having extreme anxiety trying to figure out my sexuality. Some days I think I am sexually attracted to women and other days I don’t feel this way. How can I accept the uncertainty? Another part of this OCD is I obsess over what the queer community will think of me since I have limited experiences with women. I am so happy with my partner but the OCD is keeping me in fear of missing out. I keep constantly comparing myself to others and getting down that they have had more sexual partners. Seeing if I’m alone in this.

Username: ChocolateChocolate

Date posted: 29w ago

You are not alone! I've had this theme off and on for years now and it seems like I can never figure out my sexuality even though deep down I've always felt straight. I've been doing really great for a few years now but recently got triggered. I'm married and I love my husband so the questioning thoughts also trigger rocd a bit. But sometimes I just remind myself that I have to accept the uncertainty of sexuality. Maybe I'm bisexual maybe I'm not. All I know is I am happy in my relationship.

Username: mariamariamariamaria

Date posted: 29w ago

@Chocolate Thank you so much♥️♥️♥️

Username: anonymous1315anonymous1315

Date posted: 29w ago

Definitely not alone! I experience really similar things. Remind yourself they’re just thoughts. They may be bothering you because you love your relationship and the uncertainty feels like an unanswered “threat” to your relationship. Commit to not figuring out an answer and continuing to live your life however you want!

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 29w ago

You aren’t alone. You are describing the thoughts in my brain. Glad to know I’m not alone either 🩷

Username: ChocolateChocolate

Date posted: 29w ago

Remind yourself that it's okay to be uncertain, it's normal to have intrusive questioning thoughts, and it's normal to find all kinds of people attractive.

Username: OCDeezeNuts

Date posted: 1y ago

Bisexual OCD?

I feel so many discussions of SO-OCD revolve around (mostly) straight identifying people fearing they are gay, or the reverse. But has anyone who identifies as bisexual or queer experienced SO-OCD? I am a woman married to a man, and while my sexual orientation has been reasonably fluid since I was in my teens, I have consistently felt a preference for men, and never felt the need to put a label on my identity (including straight) - and I’ve never hidden the fact that I’ve had flings with women. About three years ago I had the “brain broke” moment where I suddenly out of nowhere thought: “I am bisexual, I have been masquerading as straight since I’m married to a man, and I have to come out to everyone I know.” It was all I could think about. The fact that I felt shame accompanying it made me fear that I might be using the term bisexual to cover up the fact that I was actually gay. It particularly messes with my head because OCD is characterised as “unwanted” thoughts, but actually I am occasionally attracted to people of other genders, so these thoughts are not always unwanted. Which makes me wonder whether I am just in denial, and I don’t have OCD at all? And thus the cycle continues… Would just love to hear from anyone else if they relate to this!

Username: haidar7878

Date posted: 1y ago

Sexual orientation ocd

Hey guys, im new to the community my name is haidar. So i been attracted to this boy in my class for the past month. My minds been so stressed out because im not 100% certain about my sexuality. Sometimes i kind of like girls but im mostly towards men. I fear that im gonna lead this boy on and im not even 100% of my sexuality. Does anybody else relate?

Username: Rgreen061820

Date posted: 22w ago

SO-OCD

So I’ve struggled with sexual orientation ocd for a while now, along with relationship ocd. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years as of yesterday (in a straight female, dating a straight male) and I was just on tik tok, and seen a girl who posted a picture of her crying and saying “me realizing I was gay and not wanted to leave my boyfriend because he’s my bestfriend” and now I’m in a whole panic attack. Because what if I’m gay and I don’t wanna leave my bf, or what if I’m in a denial, or something idk. And it feels so real. Idk what else to do anymore

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