Username: Doglover93

Date posted: 26w ago

Had a hard day

I had a hard day today with my mental compulsions, rehearsing and thinking about stuff between me and my boyfriend and brought something up I thought was important. What happens every time I do is that he gets annoyed because it’s a demeanor that is intense as a result of obsessing. I didn’t say anything mean, I know it could have been much much worse, and I stopped talking about it much more quickly than I’ve done previously with going on and on and on. It’s really hard though, I’m thinking about it more, and it’s another reinforcement that it really is the same every time when you think about something all day. I feel like I’m going down a rabbit hole now where I’m thinking about it more after the fact, feeling distress at the uncomfortable thoughts. How do I stop this?

Username: Cat21Cat21

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 26w ago

Ask yourself if there’s anything you can do or solve by thinking about what you’re thinking about. If so, set up a worry time to think about it and find a solution and only during the allotted time (ex: 7pm for 15 mins.) If not, notice that you’re ruminating and divert your attention to something else, ideally something actually productive.

Username: Doglover93Doglover93

Date posted: 26w ago

@Cat21 That’s a great idea

Username: Doglover93Doglover93

Date posted: 26w ago

@Doglover93 That said sometimes it’s hard to know the answer to that question. Sometimes I’m right and sometimes I’m wrong.

Username: Cat21Cat21

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 26w ago

@Doglover93 If you can’t find an answer, you’re most likely rumination and trying to solve something that’s not solvable. It’s unproductive.

Username: Doglover93Doglover93

Date posted: 26w ago

@Cat21 You are right. What’s occurring here is that there is a 10 percent chance that if I bring something up to my boyfriend it’s beneficial information and something he wished he knew. But 90 percent of the time it turns out it’s not and he says he’s learned nothing new. Point being, it’s like I have to be okay with the 10 percent chance something will go wrong if I don’t “address it.” The obsessions and rumination is just how I think whether the information itself has validity underneath it.

Username: Doglover93Doglover93

Date posted: 26w ago

@Doglover93 And when that 10 percent chance occurs, it makes me question myself more.

Username: Cat21Cat21

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 26w ago

@Doglover93 I see what you’re saying. Then you have to decide if the 10% is worth it. Stop obsessing over which, make a decision and commit to it. I notice I am way more anxious when I can’t make a decision about something even if both options are scary. Then I feel relief once I decide and carry it out.

Username: Doglover93Doglover93

Date posted: 26w ago

@Cat21 Thank you for understanding. It feels like it’s a risk either way, but the crux is the struggle to handle that uncertainty of the outcome and either way we can’t always control it regardless of what we do or don’t do.

Username: Cat21Cat21

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 26w ago

@Doglover93 Yup, uncertainty sucks. That’s why we have OCD. If you’re working with NOCD, there is a community group called “Navigating Uncertainty.” Maybe you should check it out or run this situation by your therapist.

Username: Doglover93Doglover93

Date posted: 26w ago

@Cat21 I’ve been doing the mental compulsions group but good idea!

Username: justagirlintheworldjustagirlint...

Date posted: 26w ago

I really like this idea of setting aside time, rather than it setting you out for longer than it needs to.

Username: I'm>ocdI'm>ocd

Date posted: 26w ago

Can you try to write your thoughts done, so that you can stop thinking about them? I had a really tough day Thursday, and I wrote down all my frustrations that occurred so I could tell my therapist about them, and it helped me to know I had my feelings written down so they didn't need to keep occupying my thoughts. Then I tried giving myself a break and doing something I enjoyed which was mostly doing nothing. It took me a day or so before I could start trying to resist some small compulsions again, but it just takes going slow and taking one step at a time. I think tomorrow is going to be another difficult day for me, because I'm relying on help from someone who doesn't plan or communicate well. If I do, I might need someone reminding me these same steps.

Username: Doglover93Doglover93

Date posted: 26w ago

@Steve 🧘‍♂️ So writing down my thoughts is a compulsion because I can spend hours doing it and rewriting. And then I think about it and do it even more. I just have to get better at letting them pass. It’s true thanks for the reinforcement though. We experience tough days and get back on track. It’s part of the process

Username: sams07

Date posted: 5y ago

People who have experienced ROCD- I had a rough day yesterday with my boyfriend due to acting on some compulsions. My compulsion is to seek reassurance. It was just not a good night because he was getting impatient, I was getting sensitive.. just not good. Anyway, we’re good now, but I just feel uneasy. My OCD always continues because after I complete a compulsion, I feel guilty and then I get more irrational thoughts that my boyfriend will leave me... thus I seek more reassurance. How do I get out of this insecure space in my head WITHOUT seeking reassurance again? Does this last a long time?

Username: sams07

Date posted: 5y ago

Anyone with ROCD.. would love to chat. I’ve had a tough day. I didn’t bring up my irrational thought of the day to my boyfriend which is a win but I’ve been struggling all day and in a sour mood. These thoughts are untrue, but yet they scare me so bad and they make me mad/upset. It’s hard for me to control my emotions.

Relationship OCD

Username: lissy

Date posted: 5y ago

I keep obsessing that my boyfriend is disappointed in me / annoyed for a situation that happened and I keep asking for reassurance which he keeps providing. I know I shouldn’t ask as the ocd wants that, and it’s going in circles. Does anyone have any advice on what to do to get over the discomfort ? My ocd literally anytime there is an awkward moment or argument gives me the thought see things are ruined you ruined them and now they’ll never ever be the same. But my partner moves on quickly and says it was no big deal. Sitting with the anxiety and doing nothing isn’t working , I keep giving into reassurance seeking....I have tried distract skills like tv , internet , music, but then without fail by the end of the day it’s back on my mind. Ugh ?

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