rose_rott
- Date posted
- 5y
ejghejgh
- Date posted
- 5y
Maybe they could make specific trigger warnings, that could be useful.
rose_rottrose_rott
- Date posted
- 5y
I made this earlier out of frustration but now that I talked it out and took in different opinions I kinda changed my mind? But to answer your question it was hocd. Sometimes, I can’t differentiate between it being sheer ocd or internalized lgbtphobia and as someone part of that community, it tends to upset me to see people treat us like we’re something bad. This, however, was before I was talked to about different factors that may have led to hocd like religious conditioning, being raised by conservative parents or even because so many bi people tend to get erased in society that we see only two options, those being gay or straight. I would’ve suggested this could be for anyone who might panic over a post that could trigger their ocd but then I realized that’s what trigger warning is for. So basically, disregard what I said here fndnjdjfjg
ejghejgh
- Date posted
- 5y
Oh in a sense there are already.
EsosaEsosa
- Date posted
- 5y
Just curious but what exactly do you want to blacklist?
EsosaEsosa
- Date posted
- 5y
Yeah, I get where you’re coming from with that. It’s like it’s such a sensitive topic for some people, it comes out the wrong way whenever people talk about it. I even struggle with HOCD (and other themes), yet watch myself to see if I’m being ignorant because I was a few times in the past while struggling with this. In my opinion, it’s not so much the fear of being gay, but the fear that people who suffer has been living a lie their entire lives. While it’s perfectly okay to be gay/bi/Pan/queer/etc., sometimes, people seem to misunderstand the reason why this is such a big issue beyond internalized homophobia. And don’t forget that this can go the other way around too. You have the right to be upset, but just don’t forget where these people are coming from.
rose_rottrose_rott
- Date posted
- 5y
Absolutely!! And that’s why I’m glad someone was able to talk it out with me. I can tell it’s really hard to handle sudden changes like that so in the end I don’t blame you guys for being distressed by the idea of living a lie. Especially if like I said your backgrounds weren’t the most supportive it can be hard to come to terms with.
EsosaEsosa
- Date posted
- 5y
@rose-r0t Yeah. It’s pretty normal to doubt it at some point or think outside of what you were taught (and scary too). But it’s unhealthy to constantly question about it 24/7 or have the question take over your life. I have a few lgbt friends myself, and they told me that the difference between me and them was that whenever they questioned themselves, they were either able to come to a peaceful conclusion or turn the thoughts “off.” The fact I can’t do that kinda proves that it’s OCD. Sometimes, I even feel bad for being stuck with this theme just because more people are being accepting towards it nowadays (which is good) but I’m also afraid that I’ll end up offending some people in the community by going through this. Like the best thing to do is realize what I really like (which I know) and just accept that things may or may not change. Even though my mind constantly tries to seek “the change,” my orientation won’t change in 5 minutes, it doesn’t work like that. But thank you for writing this because I noticed it too.
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