Username: fcknsav

Date posted: 24w ago

Anxiety around death

Where I live this girl was just shot and killed at a mall yesterday she was innocent but there was a fight between some other people and someone pulled out a gun and she got hit I didn’t know her at all but she’s around my age and I had seen tiktoks about it and I went to her page and just seeing her instagram and tiktok posts just days before her death really got to me her and her family had no idea what was gonna happen to her just a few days later and it’s just so scary to me because it just makes me feel so out of control or everything and something bad like that can happen to me or someone else no warning last Sunday my uncle died of a heart attack it was pretty random and he’s 51 no one saw it coming and just all of this together makes me really scared for my own life and it just scares me that my time could be coming and id have no idea it’s really scary to me because my biggest fear is death I don’t know how to make these feelings stop but i just feel really anxious if anyone has felt this way I would really really love to hear some advice or just anything I hate feeling this way

Username: Steven55!Steven55!

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 24w ago

I used to have morbid thoughts, fearing for the wellbeing of my parents. It got really bad at one point in my young life. I still worry about my wife going out to walk our dog at night, but not nearly as much as I used to. I think what's worked for me is to accept the uncertainty of life (although I still say a little prayer when my wife leaves the house, which is technically a compulsion, I suppose), and to stay in the present, not the "what-if." My OCD therapist helped me with the problem. Even though a person tries to be careful there are still times when s/he is just in the wrong place at the wrong time, or there's an unknown morbid health condition. Just is...We can't put people in cages, we just have to accept the uncertainty of it all and move forward. Maybe it will happen, and maybe it won't, but there's no sense worrying about it. OCD therapy will definitely help you with this issue.

Username: bugablebugable

Date posted: 24w ago

@Steven55! So real - “what ifs” are never ending and so stressful!! My therapist likes to say focus on the “what IS” instead

Username: fcknsavfcknsav

Date posted: 24w ago

@Steven55! I just can’t stop the worrying about it like I try to calm myself down and say some things are just out of my control but it never helps I don’t know how to calm myself down my thoughts just keep going

Username: Steven55!Steven55!

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 24w ago

@fcknsav - Are you in therapy?

Username: fcknsavfcknsav

Date posted: 24w ago

@Steven55! I just recently got diagnosed with ocd for awhile I was in therapy for anxiety and I just recently got connected worth a ocd specialist my old therapist caught it late because I don’t have very many compulsions and I have mostly pure o but I’ve been dealing with this in my head stuff for a really long time and I just thought it was anxiety for the longest time

Username: Steven55!Steven55!

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 24w ago

@fcknsav I hear you. Basically, it's the same thing that happened to me. Pure O can be difficult to diagnose if the doc isn't trained in OCD. Stick with it and you'll be okay.

Username: bugablebugable

Date posted: 24w ago

I can relate. One of my really close friends recently died in a car accident. He was 21 so it was very sudden and difficult. Ever since my anxiety surrounding death has been worse but I am working really hard to stop that spiral by just reminding myself that things are out of my control and I have to be ok with that because that’s life. That girl was in the wrong place in the wrong time but that’s not something her or her family could have controlled. By constantly wondering ‘If I go here or if I do this or what if this happens’ it just adds unnecessary anxiety to your day. Like right now as I’m typing this a plane could fall from the sky and crush me but what am I supposed to do about it. See into the future? My point is (and it’s a little catastrophisizing and not super helpful) but literally anything could happen at any time and that will always and forever be out of your control. I just try to live my life a little fuller and be thankful and remember to tell my family I love them. One thing that always helps me when I’m spiraling about all the different things that are out of my control is literally just writing a list. I can control myself and my actions but I can’t control other people. I hope this helps at least a little bit

Username: fcknsavfcknsav

Date posted: 24w ago

@bugable I just can’t come to terms with the fact that things like this happen and especially to me or my family members like no one’s immune to death or bad things it’s just scary

Username: bugablebugable

Date posted: 24w ago

@fcknsav I feel the same way. It’s unfair. I still ruminate a lot on why and how. and it’s fucking terrifying. Dealing with grief is really hard and adding OCD on top of that. I’ve tried to put it in the perspective of I don’t have to accept it but it happens. and that’s it. I can’t stop it. Especially when you’re grieving though, don’t forget to just let yourself cry. Your thoughts may run wild but it’s important to feel your emotions about your uncle as well. Sitting in it can be beneficial for letting it all out. Sometimes it’s astonishing how the world can keep turning when something bad happens but you just have to keep going sometimes because what else is there to do. Also try to keep your head up. With time things get easier and it doesn’t feel like that but it will. Sending my well wishes to you ❤️❤️

Username: fcknsavfcknsav

Date posted: 24w ago

@bugable Thank you so much

Username: ScaredyCat ScaredyCat

Date posted: 24w ago

I'm dealing with this OCD as well,you're not alone. Cry if you have to,go wash your face and try to do something you like. But take a breather.

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 24w ago

What i can tell you is , as human, you have no control of what will happen in future not even tomorrow.. How by worrying can you add or subtract a single hour,or minute to your life..dont worry about tomorrow.. tomorrow will take care of itself... We came with nothing on this earth and no one not even the richest man will go with some thing..what matter in this world is the present joy love and peace you give your self..

Username: Charliexo

Date posted: 5y ago

For the past month and a half I’ve been getting horrible thoughts that I’m going to die soon and I keep seeing things on the news about 18 year olds dying and I’m scared it’s a sign because I’m 17 and my head keeps telling me somethings going to happen before I turn 18 or when I turn 18. I’ve also got a constant feeling in my gut that something bad is going to happen to me and it never goes away it’s a horrible feeling and I don’t know what to do. My head also keeps telling me I’m ready to die which I’m not I don’t want to, I’m living my life in fear and I’m really scared it’s not anxiety. Could this just be my mind daring me to think these things like the feeling I’m ready to die etc or is it my gut trying to tell me something and it’s sending me signs. I’m really scared. Please help.

Username: Vee4444

Date posted: 50w ago

When the massive paranoia of death hits lol

I'm literally just hanging out with my sister and having a good time and I realized "I'm not gonna be young like this forever" and that I'm not immune to death or aging. I'm living just to slowly watch my body die. I'm already going to be 15 this year. I've already passed so much time and I feel like it's going to be so quick and I'll be dead. What if I like living more? What if there's nothing after death? What if it's just black and everything is for nothing. It kinda makes me wish I wasn't born so i wouldn't have to deal with this. it's so stressful. Every moment that passes I'm just getting closer to something I can't control. It's so scary. I can't do this. I physically cannot accept one day I'm going to be gone absolutely forever. I'll have to leave everything. Two minutes ago I wasn't as close to death as I am now. I'm cant handle this.

Username: sophia1212

Date posted: 47w ago

Scared

Recently my anxiety has been bad because it gets worse when I'm at college. All I can think about is death and "what if this happens to me" and it's hard for me to picture myself in the future because I just feel like something is going to happen to me. Then the topic of suicide will pop in my head even though I don't want to die but it just makes me uncomfortable thinking about it and freaks me out. I've been telling myself " what if in my sleep I unconsciously harm myself" this sounds so crazy but genuinely gives me anxiety.

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