Anxiety over unexpected death and fear of losing control in life.

I used to have morbid thoughts, fearing for the wellbeing of my parents. It got really bad at one point in my young life. I still worry about my wife going out to walk our dog at night, but not nearly as much as I used to. I think what's worked for me is to accept the uncertainty of life (although I still say a little prayer when my wife leaves the house, which is technically a compulsion, I suppose), and to stay in the present, not the "what-if." My OCD therapist helped me with the problem. Even though a person tries to be careful there are still times when s/he is just in the wrong place at the wrong time, or there's an unknown morbid health condition. Just is...We can't put people in cages, we just have to accept the uncertainty of it all and move forward. Maybe it will happen, and maybe it won't, but there's no sense worrying about it. OCD therapy will definitely help you with this issue.

I can relate. One of my really close friends recently died in a car accident. He was 21 so it was very sudden and difficult. Ever since my anxiety surrounding death has been worse but I am working really hard to stop that spiral by just reminding myself that things are out of my control and I have to be ok with that because that’s life. That girl was in the wrong place in the wrong time but that’s not something her or her family could have controlled. By constantly wondering ‘If I go here or if I do this or what if this happens’ it just adds unnecessary anxiety to your day. Like right now as I’m typing this a plane could fall from the sky and crush me but what am I supposed to do about it. See into the future? My point is (and it’s a little catastrophisizing and not super helpful) but literally anything could happen at any time and that will always and forever be out of your control. I just try to live my life a little fuller and be thankful and remember to tell my family I love them. One thing that always helps me when I’m spiraling about all the different things that are out of my control is literally just writing a list. I can control myself and my actions but I can’t control other people. I hope this helps at least a little bit

I'm dealing with this OCD as well,you're not alone. Cry if you have to,go wash your face and try to do something you like. But take a breather.

What i can tell you is , as human, you have no control of what will happen in future not even tomorrow.. How by worrying can you add or subtract a single hour,or minute to your life..dont worry about tomorrow.. tomorrow will take care of itself... We came with nothing on this earth and no one not even the richest man will go with some thing..what matter in this world is the present joy love and peace you give your self..