Dating a nonbeliever. Faith/Dating OCD

Hi all. I have OCD, and I’ve been having it for about 2 years. I am Christian, and I heavily love the Lord. I also have a loving boyfriend, who is not religious. It’s a huge struggle because in the Bible, it says to not make close relationships with nonbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14 NIV). I love my boyfriend and totally accept him for who he is, and he accepts me for who I am and my beliefs. However, it’s just been an on and off thing of “should I break up with him?” “Does God not want me with him?” “Am I selfish for wanting to be in a relationship with him?” “Does God accept us?” Those things. I always tend to over analyze and overthink about this sensitive topic of mine, and it overwhelms me so much because I truly don’t know what to do. I know the Lord doesn’t want his children with nonbelievers, so I feel selfish. However, my boyfriend heavily respects me and my beliefs, and whenever I tell him about my day whether it’s reading the Bible, praying, etc, he totally supports me and is actually happy for me! He doesn’t judge me, he doesn’t judge my love for God, and he wants to be a better person. Our relationship has helped change me for the better and helped me realize I really need to focus on the Lord. When we first dated, I was a lost girl and didn’t fully know God. The fear I had about dating a nonbeliever as a believer really got to me at that time which made me look into it more. I definitely think it helped me to understand the Lord and form a relationship with him. Furthermore, he uses the Lord’s name in vain which absolutely hurts me. I haven’t told him that it does, but I’m waiting for a right time because he too has mental issues going on. It’s hard because we have different values so I definitely feel like talking about it will affect us and make me seem controlling. But, this is what we signed up for, knowing how hard it will be. All in all, I’m a daughter of God dating a non believer, but we help each other get back up. Even right now I’m asking myself if I’m selfish. I don’t need reassurance or help, but I’d love to hear from people.

Username: Amara Amara

Date posted: 20w ago

It's important to acknowledge that everyone's relationship with faith and spirituality is deeply personal. While certain verses in the Bible may advise against being unequally yoked with unbelievers, it's also important to consider the broader context and the unique dynamics of your own relationship. It seems like your boyfriend is respectful of your beliefs and is supportive of your spiritual journey, even if he doesn't share the same faith. This mutual respect, understanding, and love in your relationship are significant strengths to be cherished. Ultimately, the decision about your relationship with your boyfriend is yours to make, guided by your values, beliefs, and what feels right for you. It might be beneficial to have open and honest conversations with your boyfriend about your concerns and feelings, including how his use of language impacts you. Regardless of the challenges you face, your relationship with God, your faith, and your personal growth are integral parts of your journey. I encourage you to continue seeking clarity, guidance, and peace as you navigate these complex emotions and decisions.

Username: alliebearalliebear

Date posted: 20w ago

@Anonymous - Thank you!!!! This helps so much.

Username: Amara Amara

Date posted: 20w ago

@alliebear Your welcome 🙂

Username: JustmesadlyJustmesadly

Date posted: 20w ago

I will tell you this from the perspective of someone who is religious/ a believer, dating someone that doesn’t believe will never ever be easy ! I don’t recommend it. You will have different reactions to things, different reasons for things, if you plan to continue to date Sundays may look different, marriage may look different. But at the end of the day it’s your choice

Username: alliebearalliebear

Date posted: 20w ago

@Justmesadly Hi yes, thank you😊

Username: JustmesadlyJustmesadly

Date posted: 20w ago

@alliebear My therapist recommended that it be a non negotiable when dating, it’s a question I always asked before the first date. You should make the choice if it’s a non negotiable for you or not

Username: aholcomb17

Date posted: 5y ago

I keep feeling like I’m letting god down Bc I’m dating an agnostic person but he’ll pray with me and he says maybe one day he’ll become a Christian and he’s offered to go to church with me. I keep feeling like “god wants me to leave” but idk if it’s my ocd. Any tips ?

Username: foreverhatin...

Date posted: 5y ago

Anyone here a Christian and dealing with ROCD? I’m in a really great relationship with my boyfriend who is a Christian like myself. We both have our own solid relationship with God. However, every time I pray specifically about my relationship (and have for 4 years) I feel like God gives me affirmations or feelings soon after that conclude with my boyfriend just not being the person God has for me and I know God loves me and wants the best for me no matter what. Every time I pray about this, the ROCD comes in, like, “God has more for you”, “God has someone better for you”, “Am I disobeying and disappointing God if I stay in this relationship?” “Am I missing out on someone more fulfilling that God may have for me?” You get the point. After that part of the process, I beat myself up in guilt both for my boyfriend and thinking that I’m not listening to what God wants for me and I’m just holding onto something that’s good but I could have better. Then I just stop praying about that question and feel like I avoid God. And lastly, inevitably, I feel numb around my boyfriend because I’m exhausted from the whole process and I live in a feeling of settlement even though I do love him. My boyfriend believes that God has put me in his life and that God has grown him so much in part for me and because of our relationship. He is amazing, and I agree slightly, but that just leads me to more questions. Why don’t I feel that was too or why don’t I feel love for him the way I should If God out us together? Sorry if this triggers anyone. I have just been dealing with this for 4 years and have never actually typed it out this way. Any comments, advice or anything is welcome

Relationship OCD

Username: hateocd123

Date posted: 5y ago

I'm a big jumbled mess. The hocd has backed down quite a bit to the point where I was starting to have moments of forgetting and my attraction to guys came back. Here's the issue. I'm a Christian and my boyfriend and I are in an unequally yoked relationship. I feel like to any normal person this wouldn't matter but my OCD moved on to this, picking at it viciously. Of course it makes me sad that we don't have the same view about the existence of God, but it's never bothered me THIS much. Also the fact that we have premarital sex is starting to bother me as well when it never did before. It's killing me. I feel like I can't talk to God anymore. I've been obsessing over it all day. What do I do? I don't want to break up with him. He is my other half. I love him so much. I know this is a really sticky subject. Please no anti religious comments.

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