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- 46w
Soocd :(
SO OCD is getting bad again. Telling me that I'm attracted/like girls when I know I don't but it's bothering me:( I don't want this again
SO OCD is getting bad again. Telling me that I'm attracted/like girls when I know I don't but it's bothering me:( I don't want this again
From my experience, just try using ERP by saying maybe, maybe not. Then just carry on with life. The more attention you give the thought, the more it will try to bother you. I’ve struggled with this too because it is against my religion to have same sex attracting so I’ve gotten scared. Just try not to ruminate.
Im not an ocd expert or therapist, but i dont know if its the best treatment to constantly tell everyone with soocd that any sexual excitement they get from looking at someone of the same sex or watching same sex porn is just a false attraction or feeling. I think what does better to bring the anxiety down is firstly exposure, which most people who have soocd dont want to do, and secondly accepting the idea that you may enjoy sex with someone of the same sex. But most likely you prefer sex with some of the opposite sex. Obsessive compulsives have a hard time accepting that idea. People without ocd might say yeah i could enjoy that but i prefer sex with opposite sex.
Same! I’ve gotten to the point where my brain says everyone is attractive no matter if I can fully see the person or not. I don’t need the false commentary of OCD😭
I’m 25 and never ever thought this before my soocd relapse. I have a bf of 5 years. Never been a high libido kinda girl. Don’t get me wrong I do get turned on by my bf but not like every day you know? - That had always been in the back of my head, is this normal and ok? But my ocd has latched onto the most scariest what if EVER. My brain is now saying How do you know you won’t prefer to sleep and kiss girls if you haven’t tried it: and it’s that unknown that is scaring the shit out of me. I DONT AND NEVER HAVE wanted to sleep / kiss a girl. But now my intrusive thoughts is all I think about!!! I don’t want I don’t want I don’t want??? So why does my brain think BUT WHAT IF??? I know ocd thrives off uncertainty which is why I think this is happening? But I don’t wanna find out or work it out because all I want is to be with my bf and marry him!! Is this just the epitome of OCD?
So I identify as a lesbian and I am in a committed relationship with a wonderful girl. But i’m stressing that I have crushes on boys I go to school with. I get anxious around them, which I think I mistake for excitement. I obsess over it in my head which confuses me a lot. Idk I also never think about them sexually or romantically but I think about them often which is scaring me. Any advice?
I’ve completely lost myself. I can’t focus on my studies, I can’t go to the gym. Dang it I can’t even be around my male friends normally anymore. I got no idea why or how this happened but the only thing I know for sure is that I never questioned my sexuality neither doubted it. I never cared in general. I just liked girls. I keep testing and keep testing and keep testing my arousal but no matter how many times I see but I don’t feel the same way for guys that I do with girls my mind will always try to make me believe that I am gay. It’s like it’s forcing me into an identity I never asked for. But at the end of the day like my psychologist told me. Sexuality doesn’t change. So since I never felt anything for guys in my life it’s ocd. I’ve been up and down for 5 months now and while the last week I was feeling way better. Monday now and I’m back to zero. I just want to go back when everything was normal. I can’t keep living with this.
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