- Date posted
- 33w ago
ocd will kill me
i'm going to lose my life one day to this illness i never asked for. it could've been beautiful.
i'm going to lose my life one day to this illness i never asked for. it could've been beautiful.
I’m so so sorry you are feeling like this. I have felt like this many times, I’m currently struggling with an pocd episode right now. Things will get better I myself might be struggling but I am getting better slowly with dealing with it and you will too! 🩷
@82023 thank you so much. i'm so glad you're getting better 💗
Hi. I am sorry you are feeling so badly. I have often felt like that in my 38 years of living with ocd. It just felt there is no way I could stay alive with it ruining every aspect of my life and destroying me. Life on Earth in general is quite unfriendly, unkind, aggressive and cruel. People make it so. But apart from that life can be very beautiful and is beautiful. Nature and even some human contributions like art, architecture, music,... It is as beautiful as we are willing to see it. Depends on what we focus. At least when ocd allowes it. Life does get better even for us with ocd. For me, meds are giving me my life back. After over a year on max dose I am not cured, but I am stronger than my ocd. Just a year ago ocd completely devoured me. I was alive but wasn't living. I could hardly say I was a person. ERP helps some people. Sadly not me. Meds help others. Both help those lucky ones. Whatever and however just try and keep trying till sth works for you. But it takes time, effort and patience. Especially with meds. Over a year for true results. I have no idea if anyone has ever been completely cured. I don't think I ever will be ocd free. But, like you said, none of us has ever asked for ocd, it is not our fault and it is not us. It is just a part of us. As long as we somehow accept it, observe it, without judging ourselves or ocd, and learn from it, we should be able to keep it just an annoying part of us and not the boss of us. I hate myself at times for giving in to compulsions still. But I guess that is who I am. The more I fight it, the stronger ocd gets. The thing I mostly hate about it is that makes it impossible for me to develop a meaningful friendship. I am always too cautious and don't let people in. But that is me. Lonely, terribly lonely, although I am married, but no friends. I guess I have to accept that too. I wish you all the luck and success with dealing with ocd. It will get better. 🤗
@NODA thank you so much. 💗
@NODA i really needed to hear this. thank you
@alliesdirt I am happy I could make you feel at least a bit better. You are always welcome. How are you feeling today? Believe me, your life is not over and it will never be over due to ocd. Even when we feel hopeless, exhausted, lost, we somehow manage to survive. Not only that we survive, but with a bit of work and focus on ourselves, life can be beautiful even with ocd. Stay strong. Smile as much as possible. Big hug.
I am so angry with ocd. I hate that ocd even exists. I wouldn’t necessarily say I wanted to be a mom when I was younger. I grew up without my mom around. But now my sisters are both moms and I see them and I feel like I’m missing out. But having pocd and hocd has definitely made me feel like it’s completely out of the question. I even made sure my fiancé knew that I didn’t want children/ feel like I can’t have them for fear of hurting them or passing on mental health issues. I was abused growing up and one of my old therapists told me that “people who are abused can become abusers”. That is something that I am not willing to risk. And even though I feel set on that choice, my brain still tells me that I’m missing out. So I’m constantly questioning if I truly feel like I don’t want them or if ocd is convincing me I don’t. Ugh. It’s just so frustrating.
I feel awful that I keep coming on here whenever I’m down bad but oh my gosh OCD is the most painful shit that I have EVER experienced in my life and I have a physical chronic illness…. I hate to say it but I hate living right now it’s too painful… im crying as I type to the point where my stomach is hurting, I have pretty severe ocd I do have generalized anxiety and idk if that is connected with ocd but because of that I have most of the subtypes REAL EVENT OCD,POCD,ZOCD,ROCD,SOCD HARM OCD, you name it and I got it!!! a lot of also why I have have those theme is trauma growing up and involving those things^ as of right now i’m 25 and a women with the most loving boyfriend in the entire world before my ocd hit me I NEVER questioned my love and care and attraction with the love of my life I always knew I was going to marry and be with this person the rest of my life! Now with ocd it confuses me soooo much and now I think I’m gay and didn’t realize or indenial and listen I get it “don’t look for reassurance!” “It’s not the thing ocd is attacking that is the problem ocd is the actual problem!” Here’s the thing with that if I’m in a relationship and I’m gay that would mean I would have to leave that said relationship and to say that “oh yeah that stuff happens and you’ll move on” is absolutely devastating to me this is THE LOVE OF MY LIFE and your telling me that iv been lying to myself this whole time or that I didn’t realize?!?!? And that sexuality can change (even though some say it can’t google says otherwise and some people have said it can’t idek anymore) and all this other BULLSHIT I can’t take it WHY?!?! why does this have to happen why can’t I just be with my love the rest of my life?!? and yes before anyone says anything I have been attracted to girls more so when I was younger watching lesbian porn liking the body’s and fantazing them sexually it stopped when I got older but I still don’t get disgusted with women who are pretty it just makes me uncomfortable because I’m with the love of my life and before I remember talking to my partner and discussing certain childhood things I experienced and we discussed that we both could be a little bi and for certain I’m (demi sexual so I don’t even really care about looks) and I truly didn’t care!! NOW I do care even with being bi because again I don’t like thinking about anyone else but my partner but I do also know my parents are homophobic and I do think about if I am gay they wouldn’t be okay with that and I also dont want to deal with that so now I sound like in indenial right?!???? I didn’t even care about labels before my ocd it just didn’t matter but now it’s effected my sex life and it’s hard for me to enjoy sex with being so confused I’m so confused I googled everything can you still have sexual fantasies with same gender but still be straight? Can you fantasize about same gender or imagine marrying them all of it !!! And non of that disgusts me it just makes me uncomfortable AGIAN only bc I just love the partner I’m with right now!!! I’m so fucking confused do I have to leave my partner and accept that I’m gay is that going to happen in the future if I get better with ocd and find out it’s been true all along?!???
I feel like I’ll never lead a normal life again with OCD, my thoughts have begun to be convince especially about POCD. I feel like so sad and down that this will be my life forever. I’ll never get to fall in love again without intrusive thoughts. I’ll never be worth falling in love with. I can never be intimate again. I’m just done, my life is over. I can’t even look at my nephew and niece anymore without the smile fading. It feels like I’m so nasty and then my brain convinces me this is how I feel. That there’s some part of me that is a p*do and that’s it. I’m a disgusting human being for that. I just feel hopeless
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