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I would recommend against a therapist who does not specialize in OCD. I had one that gave me so much reassurance it made my OCD worse. When you let your feelings dictate your decisions you are not thinking rationally but emotionally and that's not always a bad thing but when you suffer from OCD it needs to be reconsidered. Everything thinks their OCD is unique or different, everyone thinks their OCD is the exception and therefore can't be OCD but must mean something true about themselves. I used to think perhaps if I addressed some past traumas or tried to figure out the " behind the scenes" it would stop my OCD or give me relief but turns out, that was just compulsive thinking and what I really needed to do was lean into what was uncomfortable, what I didn't want to do and tackle OCD head on. I think you should try to work with an OCD therapist first and really work on TOCD being your root issue. You can always go to a nonspecialized therapist later if this approach doesn't work. BUT if you really are just experiencing TOCD, and you go down the rabbit hole of a non-OCD therapist, you might do more harm than good and confuse yourself even more. Address OCD first, THEN if you still feel the need to explore your sexuality you can do so from a clean baseline and have no distractions.

I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this. If it’s in the context of OCD, I would say this is compulsive if you’re going to this therapist for reassurance or to seek answers about what they think your gender identity is. Does it feel urgent and anxiety provoking to solve? Does the idea of not being cisgender make you anxious, or does it bring you a sense of peace? Think egodystonic vs syntonic. I personally do not have experience with this, so all I can do is provide you context from the OCD/anxiety standpoint. Wishing you peace and love.

I’ll try not to give reassurance about the bra thing but let’s be honest, there are numerous women who don’t like wearing bras because they are uncomfortable lol. There’s no need to make a big deal over a bra but again when experiencing ocd you can’t even control these types of thoughts. I understand what you’re saying about not mentioning ocd to see what you can get out of the therapy session but let’s be truthful, you are seeking reassurance rather that exploration. When it’s this intense and obsessive in nature it’s not really indicating exploration and experimentation but rather needing an answer right now. And that’s ocd in nature. I really agree with a previous comment which says that is better to deal with the ocd first and then everything else. That’s the advice I took back then before I sought therapy. Get ocd out of the way first and then if the feelings persist try something else. Don’t forget there is a possibility you’ll get over this and feel comfortable in who you are afterwards. Or maybe not. But please seriously consider what the other user commented about therapy! I found it such good advice. Take care 💞