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I would recommend against a therapist who does not specialize in OCD. I had one that gave me so much reassurance it made my OCD worse. When you let your feelings dictate your decisions you are not thinking rationally but emotionally and that's not always a bad thing but when you suffer from OCD it needs to be reconsidered. Everything thinks their OCD is unique or different, everyone thinks their OCD is the exception and therefore can't be OCD but must mean something true about themselves. I used to think perhaps if I addressed some past traumas or tried to figure out the " behind the scenes" it would stop my OCD or give me relief but turns out, that was just compulsive thinking and what I really needed to do was lean into what was uncomfortable, what I didn't want to do and tackle OCD head on. I think you should try to work with an OCD therapist first and really work on TOCD being your root issue. You can always go to a nonspecialized therapist later if this approach doesn't work. BUT if you really are just experiencing TOCD, and you go down the rabbit hole of a non-OCD therapist, you might do more harm than good and confuse yourself even more. Address OCD first, THEN if you still feel the need to explore your sexuality you can do so from a clean baseline and have no distractions.

I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this. If it’s in the context of OCD, I would say this is compulsive if you’re going to this therapist for reassurance or to seek answers about what they think your gender identity is. Does it feel urgent and anxiety provoking to solve? Does the idea of not being cisgender make you anxious, or does it bring you a sense of peace? Think egodystonic vs syntonic. I personally do not have experience with this, so all I can do is provide you context from the OCD/anxiety standpoint. Wishing you peace and love.