- Date posted
- 42w
Politics with my bf
**long post, sorry, need advice so if anyone could help, I’d really appreciate it, thank you** So I’ve been a little anxious and mad at my boyfriend lately since I found out he’s voting for trump in the upcoming election. I’m voting for kamala for a lot of reasons but I also simply don’t like trump one bit. (I’m not considered a democrat or liberal either, I’m neutral with stuff, but not with anything trump stands for). We’ve been together for almost 2 years so I already knew my bf aligned more with the Republican Party rather than democratic, but that wasn’t really a problem for me since I think that both parties have their issues, and he’s mainly neutral with a lot of topics, and so am I. And we’re not really political people either, but this is our first time voting in a presidential election so ofc we talked about it and he said he was voting trump bc he wants the economy fixed. And I agree with the economy but I don’t like a lot of the things that trump says and the fact that he 🍇’d a woman, and everything with abortion, so it threw me off. And then I started to research more and found out that trump wouldn’t fix the economy, he’d make it worse, and when he was president before, we were under obama’s tax plan so that’s why the economy was so good. But anyway, after learning more and more, I started to grow angry at my bf cuz I just don’t see why he’d vote someone who would actively take away my rights if given the chance. I’ve tried talking to him about this and he understands where I’m coming from, and agrees with me that a lot of stuff that trump says and does is ridiculous, he’s not even a trumpie at all, and my bf isn’t against abortion either, he’s told me himself that if people should be allowed to carry guns, we should be allowed to do what we want with our own bodies. And all that makes me feel better, but he’s so focused on the economy and the fact that he just doesn’t believe that my rights would be stripped away, he just thinks that the government wouldn’t allow that to happen. And I tell him that they definitely would, but idk he just doesn’t believe it. He told me that he’s mainly voting for the Republican Party rather than trump, and that statement made me feel better at one point but regardless, the vote is still going to trump so it just rubs me the wrong way. It also doesn’t help at all that I keep seeing TikTok’s and tweets of people saying “if your partner loves you so much, why are they voting for someone that would take your rights away?”, saying to break up, etc., and that really freaks me out because of my rocd. I know my bf loves me and he wouldn’t want anything to happen with my rights, but I think he’s so oblivious to that the fact that there’s a possibility that bad things can happen. He doesn’t think anything will happen and everyone’s being dramatic, but I guess he’s not so skeptical about the government. I’m just hoping that kamala wins so I can move on from this, but if trump wins and he takes away womens’ rights, just like I thought he would do, I don’t see how I could ever forgive my bf. I would just hope that he’d admit he was wrong and actually understand, but it’s also sucks that something would have to happen in order for him to believe that any bad thing can happen. And I know that if trump loses, he won’t be able to run again after this, and that gives me some peace of mind, but now it’s freaking me out that if someone comes along in the Republican Party, that’s similar to trump, I feel like my bf would vote for them and it’d be the same thing every election. Idk I’m thinking too far ahead. I guess I just needed to vent about this, it’s all confusing, idk if anyone can relate, or has any advice (that isn’t to break up with him).
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