- Username
- aliciabrownx
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Hi everyone, I’m also experiencing this so I know what you feel. And the worse moment is, to me, when you’re not sure that you have ROCD, when you start doubting that maybe you are lying to yourself, trying to convince yourself, and that ROCD was an excuse... Even when I know I love him, and spent very good moments 2 days before... I am so sad I try to work on it and calm down but it’s hard.
you cannot calm down your thoughts, trying to force your feelings will only be damaging for you. for me, i found it useful to 1) ask for time to my gf everytime my thoughts were uncontrollable, were i would sit alone, listen to some relaxing music, and let them flow 2) have a good ass cry 3) accept that i COULD feel bad the entire day and thats not a "sign" (this is difficult, like i have trouble accepting that i could feel bad the entire time i spend with my gf every time i visit her - LDR). best of luck, i'm going to my gf place in two days so i'm kind of anxious right now, i hope that you will feel good at least one portion of the time you'll spend with your bf, but even if you won't its not a sign or anything and you can choose to love him anyway.
I feel exactly the same as you. Every time I plan or do anything with my bf like a mini break, holiday, romantic dinner etc. my ROCD always ruins it as it sets up so much expectation!! It drives me insane. Honestly I am my most relaxed and fun and “in love” with him walking round the shops buying dinner when I least expect it. Just remember that if you have these thoughts it’s not you it’s your demon OCD. Accept these thoughts and be aware that they’re there but don’t play with them or toy with them. You got this ????????
May I ask what your ROCD obsessions focus on? Ever since August my ocd has gotten way worse because I started having obsessions that I don't want to be with my husband anymore or that he's a bad person, even though that's not true at all. It's really messing me up.
@babycat yeah I’m the same, I CONSTANTLY think I don’t love my boyfriend but I mean I literally have these thoughts 24 hours a day it’s so draining. I wait to feel ‘in love’ but never do because I just big it up so much in my head, I’m also very irritable and it’s just so annoying!!
It is incredibly draining, I'm constantly having them too :(
@Tones100 it’s so good to know it’s not just me with that feeling, it just triggers me because I think is it actually these OCD demons or is that how I actually feel!! :(
I wish my ROCD and doubts would just go away ): I hate it so much. I just want to be happy with my partner because I do love him so much. Does anyone have any advice? I could really use the help on this one. This theme has been especially hard for me to handle.
hi! I'm really struggling with rocd right now. I have a boyfriend that I'm very in love with, and havent doubted that until now. I've been struggling with what I think is derealization, which has caused myself to feel distant from him, and like he isnt actually my boyfriend. because of this, I now I keep getting repetitive intrusive thoughts that I dont love him, and that I never loved him, and that I don't even know him. its terrifying. I've told him about this, and hes very supportive. he knows I still love him, and just wants to help me. but I'm so terrified of these thoughts to the point of almost believing them. if anyone else has struggled with this, how do you cope? I've been trying to reassure myself of my memories of him, and looking at things I do currently that show I still have love for him, but I would love some other ideas since it's still hard to convince myself. thank u!!
I wish I could just enjoy what we have planned and think about how happy I am about us being together for so long. But instead I am anxious that I am making a mistake by being with him, and that I need to end it now because the longer we are together the more it would hurt to end. I am nervous about posting about it on social media because I feel like I am lying to myself and everyone around me. I want to experience loving without doubting everyone and everything, and mainly myself. I don’t want my partner to deal with me. This is so frustrating. I just needed to vent.
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