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- aliciabrownx
- Date posted
- 5y ago
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- Charly57Charly57
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Hi everyone, I’m also experiencing this so I know what you feel. And the worse moment is, to me, when you’re not sure that you have ROCD, when you start doubting that maybe you are lying to yourself, trying to convince yourself, and that ROCD was an excuse... Even when I know I love him, and spent very good moments 2 days before... I am so sad I try to work on it and calm down but it’s hard.
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- failure2failure2
- Date posted
- 5y ago
you cannot calm down your thoughts, trying to force your feelings will only be damaging for you. for me, i found it useful to 1) ask for time to my gf everytime my thoughts were uncontrollable, were i would sit alone, listen to some relaxing music, and let them flow 2) have a good ass cry 3) accept that i COULD feel bad the entire day and thats not a "sign" (this is difficult, like i have trouble accepting that i could feel bad the entire time i spend with my gf every time i visit her - LDR). best of luck, i'm going to my gf place in two days so i'm kind of anxious right now, i hope that you will feel good at least one portion of the time you'll spend with your bf, but even if you won't its not a sign or anything and you can choose to love him anyway.
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- Tones100Tones100
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I feel exactly the same as you. Every time I plan or do anything with my bf like a mini break, holiday, romantic dinner etc. my ROCD always ruins it as it sets up so much expectation!! It drives me insane. Honestly I am my most relaxed and fun and “in love” with him walking round the shops buying dinner when I least expect it. Just remember that if you have these thoughts it’s not you it’s your demon OCD. Accept these thoughts and be aware that they’re there but don’t play with them or toy with them. You got this ????????
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- babycatbabycat
- Date posted
- 5y ago
May I ask what your ROCD obsessions focus on? Ever since August my ocd has gotten way worse because I started having obsessions that I don't want to be with my husband anymore or that he's a bad person, even though that's not true at all. It's really messing me up.
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- aliciabrownxaliciabrownx
- Date posted
- 5y ago
@babycat yeah I’m the same, I CONSTANTLY think I don’t love my boyfriend but I mean I literally have these thoughts 24 hours a day it’s so draining. I wait to feel ‘in love’ but never do because I just big it up so much in my head, I’m also very irritable and it’s just so annoying!!
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- babycatbabycat
- Date posted
- 5y ago
It is incredibly draining, I'm constantly having them too :(
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- aliciabrownxaliciabrownx
- Date posted
- 5y ago
@Tones100 it’s so good to know it’s not just me with that feeling, it just triggers me because I think is it actually these OCD demons or is that how I actually feel!! :(
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- peachy!
- Date posted
- 1y ago
having trouble with rocd
hi! I'm really struggling with rocd right now. I have a boyfriend that I'm very in love with, and havent doubted that until now. I've been struggling with what I think is derealization, which has caused myself to feel distant from him, and like he isnt actually my boyfriend. because of this, I now I keep getting repetitive intrusive thoughts that I dont love him, and that I never loved him, and that I don't even know him. its terrifying. I've told him about this, and hes very supportive. he knows I still love him, and just wants to help me. but I'm so terrified of these thoughts to the point of almost believing them. if anyone else has struggled with this, how do you cope? I've been trying to reassure myself of my memories of him, and looking at things I do currently that show I still have love for him, but I would love some other ideas since it's still hard to convince myself. thank u!!
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- hatandtie
- Date posted
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Dealing with bad ROCD about upcoming anniversary
I wish I could just enjoy what we have planned and think about how happy I am about us being together for so long. But instead I am anxious that I am making a mistake by being with him, and that I need to end it now because the longer we are together the more it would hurt to end. I am nervous about posting about it on social media because I feel like I am lying to myself and everyone around me. I want to experience loving without doubting everyone and everything, and mainly myself. I don’t want my partner to deal with me. This is so frustrating. I just needed to vent.
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- Casperava
- Date posted
- 27w ago
I’m struggling and some advice would be helpful❤️
I recently got into a relationship about three months back but him and I have been talking since last year November. This is probably the healthiest relationship I have ever been in and the man I’m with is the sweetest and kindest person to ever exist. Before this I was in a long term abusive relationship and I would go through rocd constantly with thoughts such as I may like someone else or “I should cheat” even if I’m having a conversation with someone of the opposite sex who’s my friend. My boyfriend is currently on his senior trip and I was out with some of my bestfriends, one of them being a guy that I had a little bit of history with but I didn’t want anything from it because he wasn’t compatible in that way but amazing as a friend. While I was hanging out with them I constantly kept getting intrusive thoughts such as oh I should do something or oh I don’t even like my boyfriend and I kept comparing them for the next couple of days. I feel so guilty and disgusting and I know the thoughts aren’t true but I just feel so terrible considering how amazing my boyfriend is. I really do love him infact we’re planning our future together but rocd is just getting in the way. Any kind of advice would be helpful❤️
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