aliciabrownx
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- 5y
Charly57Charly57
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- 5y
Hi everyone, I’m also experiencing this so I know what you feel. And the worse moment is, to me, when you’re not sure that you have ROCD, when you start doubting that maybe you are lying to yourself, trying to convince yourself, and that ROCD was an excuse... Even when I know I love him, and spent very good moments 2 days before... I am so sad I try to work on it and calm down but it’s hard.
failure2failure2
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- 5y
you cannot calm down your thoughts, trying to force your feelings will only be damaging for you. for me, i found it useful to 1) ask for time to my gf everytime my thoughts were uncontrollable, were i would sit alone, listen to some relaxing music, and let them flow 2) have a good ass cry 3) accept that i COULD feel bad the entire day and thats not a "sign" (this is difficult, like i have trouble accepting that i could feel bad the entire time i spend with my gf every time i visit her - LDR). best of luck, i'm going to my gf place in two days so i'm kind of anxious right now, i hope that you will feel good at least one portion of the time you'll spend with your bf, but even if you won't its not a sign or anything and you can choose to love him anyway.
Tones100Tones100
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- 5y
I feel exactly the same as you. Every time I plan or do anything with my bf like a mini break, holiday, romantic dinner etc. my ROCD always ruins it as it sets up so much expectation!! It drives me insane. Honestly I am my most relaxed and fun and “in love” with him walking round the shops buying dinner when I least expect it. Just remember that if you have these thoughts it’s not you it’s your demon OCD. Accept these thoughts and be aware that they’re there but don’t play with them or toy with them. You got this ????????
babycatbabycat
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- 5y
May I ask what your ROCD obsessions focus on? Ever since August my ocd has gotten way worse because I started having obsessions that I don't want to be with my husband anymore or that he's a bad person, even though that's not true at all. It's really messing me up.
aliciabrownxaliciabrownx
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- 5y
@babycat yeah I’m the same, I CONSTANTLY think I don’t love my boyfriend but I mean I literally have these thoughts 24 hours a day it’s so draining. I wait to feel ‘in love’ but never do because I just big it up so much in my head, I’m also very irritable and it’s just so annoying!!
babycatbabycat
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- 5y
It is incredibly draining, I'm constantly having them too :(
aliciabrownxaliciabrownx
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- 5y
@Tones100 it’s so good to know it’s not just me with that feeling, it just triggers me because I think is it actually these OCD demons or is that how I actually feel!! :(
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