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- bebrave❤️
- Date posted
- 5y ago
As a human we unable to control all of memories that come across our mind in every seconds, daily. But you can manage to seperate things into its proper place, for an instance, memories are on the past, it's already done nothing can change it, so don't let it affect your current feeling. Put it on the right place, past and you can just focus on your current moment, present or your dream, future. Focus your mind on the present or future will give you more positive felling and energy cause it relates with hope whereas past usually related with regrets, sad, guilty etc. When unwanted memories come across your mind again just watch it as a movie, don't to attached to it.
Thank you so much I’ll try
@Emma1999 You're welcome
Have you ever heard about false memory? Check it! But to resume, memories can be modified by many things, by your mental status or anxiety! Memories can change according to how you feel. Don’t overthink too much. They doesn’t mean nothing.
Thanks. I feel like they definitely weren’t false. I have a very good memory and the other person has a reputation for a bad memory. But I remember weird little things like they happened yesterday.
Yes I get that a lot and I try my best to brush it off and tell myself as a child I was not responsible if anything did happen and I was just curious or just innocent. but my friends had this big problem with me that I couldn’t control, I mean in the past couple years, I had a habit of bringing up times that they were really mean to me and it scarred me so that’s why I remember and when I brought it up they’d be like “I have no idea what you’re talking about. I don’t remember ever saying that. I would never say that to you. You keep bringing stuff up from the past I don’t remember and you’re making me feel guilty. Why do you do that??” And it’s literally scarring shit that I would never forget like I told her there was a celebrity that kept me from self harming bc their music was there for me and whatever and they laughed at me and I cried. So like. I got better and not reminding them that they suck ? we’re all good now but it really used to suck.
What do you guys do when you have thoughts that have to do with something you did in your past? I am having an obsessive thought about something I used to do as a young teenager and feeling like I’m disgusting for it and worried about doing it again.
I did something specific when I was 13-14 that I found now really really disgusting (I'm almost 18 now), I feel so ashamed about myself. (i didn't hurt anyone, it's just really not something you should do) i can't get it out of my head I really wanna tell someone but I'm afraid people will think I'm weird and disgusting I feel so guilty, I don't know what to do... I wanna feel normal. This memory triggers my thoughts about children a lot because I feel like a perv (again, didn't hurt any child it's just really weird) Help Lol
Hello everybody. I’ve written many times about this topic but can’t seem to find peace within me. I remember sexual mimicking during childhood with my female cousin. She would do this to some of my friends too. She would kiss us by tongue and touch us inappropriately but we felt like we couldn’t say anything. It was a game as she likes a bit and she would call us by his name. When I got a little bit older but still young , I remember playing some kind of similar game to this one with my brother. We were both under 12. I think I was probably 11-12 and he was 9-10. Maybe younger. I’m not very sure. We would not kiss but we would get too close when in the same bed ( without our parents in the house ) we would be naked and our bodies were inappropriately touching. We may also have experienced some kind of arrousal as I definitely remember my brother did. We both enjoyed this game but both also knew it was in appropriate and we wouldn’t let our parents know. This may have happened 4-5 times during the same summer . Not ever again. My psychologist really have tried to reassure me and let me know this is more common than I think. My after covid 19 and quarantines I experience rocd and relationship guilt. Even if I have already confessed this ( without details ) to my boyfriend , my mind keeps on pushing towards telling him again. My constant fear is “How will you marry this guy if he doesn’t know?” “You are not normal” “We had forgotten about it. You should tell him again”. But I know I shouldn’t confess again because this is an unending circle. Any advice to get over this?
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