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- 29w
- Date posted
- 29w
hi! so i’ve actually heard very similar things coming from many people with OCD and while the false memories can feel vivid and overwhelming, the entire nature of them is that they are FALSE. I’m not trying to give reassurance, just a reminder of reality to hopefully help pull you out of your spiraling thoughts. One thing that supports the fact that this occurrence didn’t really happen is your very apparent disdain for such actions. It is very unlikely that you would commit such acts with the morals you have. OCD targets the things you love and attacks your most solidly held core beliefs. As to whether or not you should tell your family, maybe you could approach it with sharing the thoughts you’re having and that they scare you. Maybe this can open the door to getting some family support directly surrounding this fear.
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 29w
Do not confess. I know it’s tempting, but this is probably just a false memory. They can be extremely vivid, and indistinguishable from actual memories. I would know because I’ve had scarily vivid ones pop up too when I start analyzing the past. Your brain can create a vivid memory out of thin air with no sign that it’s fake, so don’t be tricked by how real it seems. The brain is more than capable of generating vivid memories. This is very common in OCD
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Can false memories occur without mental review? I wasn't thinking about anything other than getting ready for bed. That's when it hit me. As you described, vivid and indistinguishable from a memory. The peculiar thing is, as convinced as I am that it's a memory, I don't remember the event taking place. It *feels* like a memory, but I can't recall it actually happening.
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- OCD Conqueror
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- 29w
@ㅤ Yes they can absolutely happen without mental review they can happen out of nowhere it’s not evidence that it happened I know it’s not easy but you don’t have to prove to your OCD that it didn’t happen in fact that will only give it more power unfortunately
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- 29w
If you are seeing a ERP therapist he or she will help you accept uncertainty, the thing is you will never 100% certain you didn't do X to your sister ,but accept uncertainty maybe I did ,maybe I didn't, if X actually happen you have to ,this part is the hardest to accept that but be okay and move on with your life
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- 29w
I also can't afford to see a ERP therapist, but I took nathan perterson self directed online master your ocd course it is helping me ,check out his YouTube channel ocd-anxiety he has videos that can help you
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- 25w
I have false memory real event ocd, I’ve been married 13 years and I used to constantly bring up past mistakes from when we were dating and it RUINED our marriage, but I got medication and therapy and things got better untill a few weeks ago where everything crumbled. I have a memory that is 13 years ago of me being intimate with my husband (than boyfriend) while being intimate I have a memory of sending a text to a male who obviously liked me but I didi not while my husband was under the covers . And I keep thinking over and over how disgusting and inappropriate it was to do that especially doing it in the middle of being intimate 😞. I have confessed this to my husband last year and he didint believe me saying it’s probably a made up memory and would are not a slut and wouldn’t do that. Now i have guilt all over again for weeks and it’s taking such a toll on me it’s all I think about and try to remember every detail I’ve thought about it so much I don’t even know if it’s 100 percent true. But I can vividly see it when I close my eyes. How do I get over this guilt without confessing? Confessing would absolutely destroy my husband.
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- Date posted
- 25w
I think I know what honestly is what caused my OCD. I’ve never told anyone this but I have to if I want help. When I was either 10 or 11, I think 10 I was at my family’s thanksgiving dinner. Around this time I discovered porn and got addicted. I would watch porn and read erotica. Because of this I guess I wanted to experiment. I feel absolutely horrible just thinking about this but I was playing around with my little cousin, he was around 7 I think and I remember we were playing chase or hide and seek, and I grabbed him and hugged him (something I never done before), and got a boner. I did this for pleasure. That’s all I did that was sexual but I feel so horrible. I try to give myself grace as I was only 10 and didn’t know the consequences of something so disgusting. I keep thinking “what if I went farther and hurt him?”. I talk to him sometimes and he seems comfortable with me and I think he doesn’t even remember this ever happened and just thought I hugged him for some reason all those years ago. I am NOT attracted to him at all but I think this incident and remembering it when I was 14 has caused my OCD such as POCD for all these years. I am 18 now but I feel absolutely horrible. And now it’s even worse because I have been invited to his 15th birthday party in Mexico. I’m traveling all the way to another country just to be near him! Obviously I know I won’t touch him or be innopropriate with him. But what if he has felt uncomfortable with me all this time? He seems fine with me and not uncomfortable around me but still. If I feel as if I go to this trip, I am a horrible person. I don’t know what to do. Am I a horrible person for what I did and continuing to be around him? I remember reading Reddit and Quora stories of similar people who felt horrible and people told them to not feel bad as they were only children and they learned and now know that was wrong and that to not tell anyone as it could only make things extremely awkward.Please help. I know COCSA is a very serious topic that harms people and I feel like a horrible perpetrator now.
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- 24w
Hey i dont even know if i belong here or not because i dont think so i have ocd i am just making an excuse for the past crimes i have committed i am 18 now and about to be 19 so just wanted to share something i know for sure i have done this crime when i was 13 or 14 because why would i think and feel guilty over an act i have never committed for 5 years so yeah i came to know about this thing OCD and now i am putting my crimes to it and false memory that kinda stuff but in my mind its always like that "you have done those acts i have proof" after asking my sister 3 times that do you even remember a glimpse of my inapproriate behaviour towards you but no she has answered "nope if i did i would tell you i never felt uncomfortable around you " well how may she remember when she was sleeping when i did those acts and yeah she was 12 too so she must be a deep sleeper well my mind have too much proof that i am a sexual abuser i dont know why i am still typing but just wanted to know do i deserve to live anymore because according to me i am done i cant tolerate these disgusting thoughts about my sister and i may be a threat to her and i dont deserve to live in this family i love them so much but i cant do it anymore i am such a monster they deserve so much better
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