Pregnancy and marriage

So basically, I’ve been with my husband six years already I’m 24 and he’s 25th. We don’t have that much money at the moment but I’m trying to work as hard as I can to save so when I become a mom I can be able to stay at home. But last week our condom broke during my ovulation period and I’m afraid I may be pregnant. My husband say that he loves me but he doesn’t want babies at this moment and he want me to drink something to take “care” of it. I don’t want to but he said we don’t have money and he’s not able to give us the life he wants for us. I’m having suicidal thoughts and my anxiety it’s just driving me crazy. I don’t know what can I do to calm down and stop thinking about it cuz it’s driving me crazy .

Ariana ♡

Date posted: 14h

This sounds so straining on you, I'm so sorry. Please wait until you're in the right mind before you make any major decisions. It's important if you want to be a mom to give your child the best life possible, financially, emotionally, mentally. You want these things to be prepared and well planned out, which is why your husband feels like you should take a plan B or whatever he's said. It's also important to take your husband into account onto this decision: do you want a child with a father who is not prepared now, or have patience and a child later with a father who is prepared and ready? Good luck to you and please take care of yourself!!🫂 This is YOUR body and YOUR life, you are in full control of this

Anonymous

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 13h

Most people do regret abortion. The reality is neither of you will ever feel like you’re ready or prepared to have a child. Most people don’t. I am against abortion and believe every life deserves a chance and no offense but it’s selfish to end a life because of how you or your husband feels. No one can say what the future holds and I think it’s dangerous when people start deciding who deserves to live or die. There’s always adoption to consider as well. There are many people that would love to have a baby that are unable and look for opportunities to adopt.

Maeday

Date posted: 10h

I have a cousin who adopted twins. 10-14 years later, the twins mother asked her if she'd like to adopt her two other children. They were able to keep a family of siblings together. I don't know the bio mom's circumstances, but I know my cousin has been blessed by adoption. It's definitely a path forward and I think there are organizations to help with prenatal care and Dr visits if you do end up being pregnant, don't want to get an abortion, yet don't feel ready to take on that responsibility.

Loveconquers...

Date posted: 14h

I had an abortion when I wanted to keep my baby. I did it and regretted it so much. Just take some time to think about it.

Someone99

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 13h

You will find a way, we always do. 🙏🏼

Stay.Fluid

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 11h

Please talk to your partner or someone you trust about your suicidal thoughts. You should not be suffering this alone. Also please ignore any posts regarding regretting or not regretting abortion. They are not helpful and they are one sided. Your life is yours and you will be ok. You are just overwhelmed over a big decision. But you will find your way.

anonymous737...

Date posted: 15w

can someone please help me

Nobody is responding to my posts and i’m literally going insane right now i don’t know what to do my ocd keeps telling me i cheated on my boyfriend and got pregnant by someone else but the thing is i never did i’ve never cheated and i’m absolutely positive that my boyfriend is the father of my baby because it’s impossible for anyone else to be and i want to confess so bad but the thing is i didn’t do it and i don’t want to ruin me and my baby’s life over something i didn’t even do it’s so stressful can someone please please help me

Holl1

Date posted: 11w

OCD

So I’ve just found out I’m pregnant and I’m freaking out rn I’ve been getting thoughts like “I’ll be a bad mum” and overthinking everything & my OCD is convincing me that I’ll act on my thoughts because of my hormones and stuff. I’ve also got a fear of being sick & I’m stressing over that too. Anyone else who has harm OCD pregnant or a Mum can give me some advice pls😭

Harm OCD

issphra 🫶🏻

Date posted: 10w

I’m panicking pls help

The compulsive praying for harm on others is back. I know compulsions are a choice, but right now, it feels impossible not to do them. I was spiraling because I thought about losing my boyfriend, and that scared me so much. But then, my brain twisted it with thinking that I would feel liberated and find comfort and new love if my boyfriend were “out of the way” and to this I almost felt excited? I don’t want to lose him. I don’t want him to die or go away. I don’t want him to be gone. But then, that spiraled into these awful thoughts where I felt like I had to pray for harm or death on him. I don’t know why I feel the urge to do this. It doesn’t feel like it will make anything better; it just makes me feel like it’s more likely to happen. I feel trapped in them. I don’t understand why my brain keeps doing this, can anyone help? Please

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