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Firefly girlFirefly girl
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I think when we go through periods of growth, our ocd can lead us to view things from a distorted lens. Maybe the universe was showing you someone new, maybe not. But you chose the path of staying and working through things with your boyfriend. That’s your present reality. Don’t feel guilty for thoughts you can’t control!! Ive experienced something similar. I realized a lot of my rocd stems from issues I’ve had with my family because my mom is a narcissist and it rubs off on my siblings. During this time, I was convinced I was having this huge spiritual awakening and this guy I talked to for 2 minutes was my soulmate and I had to leave my boyfriend and everything I love behind. But there is room for a gray area and there is room for mutual growth in a relationship. It’s just a matter of what path is more valuable to you in the long term. I reminded myself that if I REALLY didn’t care about my boyfriend the thought about this other guy being my soulmate wouldn’t be so distressing. I ended up confessing it to my boyfriend but DONT MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE AS ME. WE ARE NOT OUR THOUGHTS. The grass is always going to be greener where you water it💓
Firefly girlFirefly girl
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@Anonymous39826 The guilt is a terrible feeling and it really takes over you I so get that. But you never cheated, you weren’t together, and in the PRESENT things are great between you two. So come back to that. Everything ebbs and flows💓
Firefly girlFirefly girl
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@Anonymous39826 I would say so…I think when we’re in an emotional headspace we can definitely be more prone to intrusive thoughts. But I’m also not an “expert” per se and don’t want to give you reassurance…maybe it’s a normal thought to have, maybe not;) The anxiety and guilt is going to come and go but you have control over your own life and who you choose to be with💓
FenWilder1FenWilder1
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Not gonna lie I feel for the bait. I did the thing where I left because of my intrusive thoughts. Still don’t know if it’s the right decision or not which is really messing me up. I think I just gotta accept it idk
Firefly girlFirefly girl
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@FenWilder1 If you think it’s bait and you left because of your intrusive thoughts then reassess if that decision was aligned with your values. If the relationship wasn’t supporting your growth in any way and you are happier focusing on yourself then maybe you are on the right path. Maybe you made the “right” decision, maybe not. Remember everything is neutral. Accept reality for what it is now and focus on what is in your control. This community is here for you💓
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