Do anyone do behavioural supressions like avoiding fantasies,daydreams,scenario that creaate spiral? Chatgpt todl me its a supression I dotn do it cause of anxiety whaat if i like it (Wait now i feel like i like it) help how do i calm down)
One Indian Girl ._. The fantasies, daydreams that create spirals sound a lot like rumination. Thought suppression is usually not effective so we need to practice being aware when you are ruminating and then not engaging in answering those ruminating questions. This takes a lot of practice. Attached is a link to one technique on how to stop ruminating. Ken https://drmichaeljgreenberg.com/how-to-stop-ruminating/
Hello sir thank you for the effort.. Are those geunine desires?does Pushing it away means that..there is natural pull or curiosity? And i usually avoid doing anything that would make me feel attraction to same sex! And out fear that what if i like it?
If you are avoiding anything that makes you feel attracted to the same sex that could be Sexual Orientation OCD. Especially if you’re experiencing a lot of anxiety when you have the thoughts and if you are trying to determine if there is any truth to those thoughts.
@Kenneth Hosier Could I ask a question to you without taking away from this person's post? If not, I won't worry about it. Thanks in advance
You are pushing it away and avoiding it because you don't want that. I have POCD and experience avoiding children. It's debilitating! I'm sorry you deal with the same issues in a different way friend
I hope that its not true..and i dont even have problem with it..but i dont know why I just don't want ..to be anything..
@ONE INDIAN GIRL ._. You are not alone in those feelings friend. Trust me, you don't want that. You just said I hope it's not true
@Anony1314 Yeah..✊
@ONE INDIAN GIRL ._. I hope I was of some help!
@Anony1314 Yes..you did help! Alot tbh! Helped me in grounding in realty maybe haha!
@Anony1314 Wait could you help meM
@ONE INDIAN GIRL ._. Well I am glad!! And of course!!
@Anony1314 Rigjt after the therapists reply i felt safe and warm then had hopeful and racing and exciting like thoughts like "lets explore my sexuality "?! Im am just now feeling nothing .. I feel like.. I dont even knoe if its geunine im kind of doomed could you help? Is it ocd.
@Anony1314 Like as i felt it i felt liek wave of lets explore!
@ONE INDIAN GIRL ._. Yes friend I'm sure it's ocd.
@ONE INDIAN GIRL ._. Could I ask you something?
@Anony1314 Yes pls feel free
@Anony1314 It would help actually to reflect
@ONE INDIAN GIRL ._. I hate when my daughter tries to hug me. I try to avoid it if I can but yesterday I couldn't. She was coming in for a hug and I tried to stay still. I had a thought come up that if I turned a certain way she'd brush my bottom with her hand when she hugged me. I felt like I wanted to do it and turned my body. When she hugged me, her hand did brush my bottom and I panicked after she hugged me. I feel so much guilt for this. Why did I feel like I wanted to do this and let it happen? I have POCD, but this is just too scary to understand
@Anony1314 Maybe it ocd maybe its not! You're a loving person ..it attacks whatever matters the most! For you your child's safety, happiness and sanity matters! Ocd sees it and pokes it! Im sure with right steps we'll be able to make peace with it!
@Anony1314 Is that all? I mean is this you wanted to ask?
@ONE INDIAN GIRL ._. Yes friend. Thank you!
@Anony1314 My pleasure!, Remember you have whole community who gets you , Prayers for you✊💗
@ONE INDIAN GIRL ._. Thank you so much friend. I just feel like mine was real desire in the moment. Idk why I turned my body. And I feel so much guilt for it.
Probably is still OCD, but it is also ok that you turned your body. I believe OCD is about trying convincing us we have to handle things perfectly and the fact you didn’t is perfectly fine. Keep practicing not being perfect!
@Kenneth Hosier Thank you!! But I turned in retrospect to make her hand brush my bottom when she hugged me. I have POCD. This just felt wrong. I didn't enjoy it when it happened. I panicked immediately after
@Kenneth Hosier Sorry for asking something again.
Anthony you are welcome to ask a question.
@Kenneth Hosier I hate when my daughter tries to hug me. I try to avoid it if I can but yesterday I couldn't. She was coming in for a hug and I tried to stay still. I had a thought come up that if I turned a certain way she'd brush my bottom with her hand when she hugged me. I felt like I wanted to do it and turned my body. When she hugged me, her hand did brush my bottom and I panicked after she hugged me. I feel so much guilt for this. Why did I feel like I wanted to do this and let it happen? I have POCD, but this is just too scary to understand
Anony, the reality is that if you feel like you had a sexual thought about your daughter that you are some kind of bad person which is why it is so anxiety provoking. The greatest difficulty with sexually intrusive thoughts is the guilt and the shame that come from the intrusive thought. The goal is to try and let go of the guilt and shame and if possible lean into the intrusive thought. Whatever you do keep hugging you daughter and try not labeling yourself as a bad person especially for having a thought you never wanted!
@Kenneth Hosier THANK YOU!! But I turned my body in retrospect of the thought. It felt like I wanted to, and I did it. Is this still OCD?
@Anony1314 when ocd gets really severe it does this it like a reflex action ive heard ppl speak about this and ur anxiety shows u dont want this sometimes u might do a certain move or something and think its attached to the thought it’s not I think its like a subconscious thing cus ur having thoughts but not in a way of oh i secretly like this i hope that makes sense
@ocdisnotaslay Yes it does. It's debilitating because it felt so real in that moment
Anony, maybe you right, maybe you did do it intentionally. I am not sure how that helps to make that determination even if it is true. I could be wrong but it sounds like you’re being way too hard on yourself which can also be compulsive. If you are hard on yourself then it is a constant reminder how wrong your thoughts or actions are so you don’t feel like you want the thoughts. Leaning into the thoughts is always difficult and we do that by saying maybe I did want that and that is ok.
@Kenneth Hosier So was this abusive either way? Did I hurt my child. I have full regret. I hate it; wish it would've never happened. I try to avoid the hugs and then when I let them happen this happens
@Kenneth Hosier And sorry again
@Anony1314 Hey..... Its complusive ..
@doomed >3 How so friend
@Anony1314 You're asking again and again for reassurance..and Thats getting complusive whether its right or wrong whether it was your actual desire or your ocd.. Thats just OCD dirty game at the play It makes us feel fine by reassurance for a tiny moment then something else comes up crawling..it will just continue and get bigger
@Anony1314 I know its overwhelming..but stepping back a little from asking quetsion will help i meant
We are not going to determine if it was or was not abusive as that will not solve any problems. Hopefully you can see an OCD therapist who can help you work through these symptoms.
@Kenneth Hosier Thank you!
Guys, I would like help with maladaptive daydreaming and impulsivity. What would both be in OCD? I've always had daydreams. But it was something I did because I liked creating stories. But recently I've noticed that sometimes when I'm stressed, if I think about a situation, it feels like I'm going to imagine it or want to imagine it. When I say don't do it, it feels like it's basically going to happen. I talked here the other day about what if I try to create a compulsion to get out of my subject? Yesterday I was so anxious and I did this counting thing. Then it came to my mind, "put something like, if you don't do this, someone will suffer harm." And I don't want that. And I don't even want to create this compulsion because I would know that it would be worse because I would never risk it. But the thing is, even though I had a clear idea, it seemed like I was going to do it. I just wouldn't let it happen. Is that daydreaming? Is that impulsiveness? This has happened to my OCD theme before. But I had the feeling that I wasn't taking things seriously. That I was being childish. But I don't do it on purpose, it seems like I can't get out of the habit. Thanks for the help!
i really struggle with anxiety because on my OCD (not professionally diagnosed but i’ve been experiencing a lot of symptoms for many years that’s it’s safe to assume i have it). the only way to relieve my stress is to google. But google never gave me proper answers or i just ended up more anxious than to begin with. Instead i started using chat gpt as a quick was to get reassurance. i feel bad using it tho because i know it’s just a compulsion to go and seek reassurance to calm my anxiety but if i dont atleast google something i end up spiralling anyways. it feels like no matter what i do ill be anxious .
Ive been struggling with the fear that if i am suicidal or something and ive been having like fears or intrusive thoughts of jumping off or losing control and acting on these thoughts and i dont know if this is just some very bad case of anxiety? Im always thinking about it trying to prove it wrong in my head and its gotten to a point where its effecting my sleep, i use chat gpt. I know deep down i dont wanna do any of it, i mean the very thought makes me panic quick so idk i just want to forget all these thoughts and i was wondering if anyone goes through this as well?
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