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- chamomilegirl
- Date posted
- 4y ago
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- ocdillustratedocdillustrated
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I'm curious. If a young person you cared about, like a nephew, did whatever you did, how would you respond? By saying that tey don't deserve to live anymore? By helping them to grow in a healthier direction? My guess is that hat you'd show them more compassion than you are yourself, while still acknowledging that their behavior was unacceptable
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- chamomilegirlchamomilegirl
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I would show more compassion, you’re right. I’m just scared that I would judge them or think of them differently like I’m scared of someone doing to me. It’s so hard to tell what’s ocd and what’s not in this situation
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- garden garden
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Oh same. Same same same. I feel like a fraud, and I feel the need to tell people what I did, to see if they’d still like me. Of course, I never can. I carry a lot of shame for the things I did when I was around ten years old. Things I wish I could go back and undo. But I can’t and nor can you. The present in now. Our values and morals are different, and we aren’t the people we once were. It did happen, but that doesn’t make us any less worthy of a long life full of change and understanding. It’s a part of growth, to identify and learn from our mistakes. We must accept the present moment :)
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- chamomilegirlchamomilegirl
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I want to cry reading what you said because it sounds so similar to my everyday thought processes regarding this obsession. ocd black and white thinking makes it so much worse because I think that if i’ve ever done something bad, then my life is ruined. It’s so incredibly difficult and i’m sorry you’ve gone through the same. your words make me feel a little better about moving on despite how guilty i feel.
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- garden garden
- Date posted
- 4y ago
@chamomilegirl I know. Black and white thinking is so frustrating and terrible at times. It does truly feel like everything’s ruined all because of one thing. But it isn’t. It’s okay to feel guilty, but don’t let that stop you from fulfilling your present life and values. And if it helps, I forgive you for whatever you did, no matter what it was. Now show yourself this unconditional self acceptance too :)
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- yanni94yanni94
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Tell to yourself: i'm a good person, i can withstand panic, my family and friends aren't judging me, for a minimim of five times.
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- Cactus8Cactus8
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Being something I suffered with I understand how horrible it is especially when it is stuff that happened. All I can give advice is trying to meditate, try the headspace app, and you've got to remember what you did before has no effect on who you are as a person now. It takes time but now when I get flashbacks I tell myself theres nothing I can do to change my past but change my actions for the now. Remind yourself of who you are now
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- UnEnlightenedUnEnlightened
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Whatever you did when you were younger, there are people who have done worse. Everyone has secrets and personal shames. You’re only human and we all do things that we regret. Your goal should be self improvement. You’re just being too hard on yourself. I’m sure you’re a wonderful person.
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- Violet2411
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Does anyone else suffer from ‘Real life events’ OCD? I constantly worry about things I did as a teenager (from ages 15-19) I wasn’t a very nice person and think I was quite a toxic girlfriend in my first relationship. I’m always terrified that people are going to find out and that I’m going to lose my job or something awful. I also think that a lot of people would be so shocked if they knew some of the things that I’d done, and that they would think so much less of me. I feel a constant need to confess or apologise, and wish more than anything that I could erase that whole chapter of my life. Previously in counselling, we looked at ‘black and white thinking’, and I managed to rationalise that everyone makes mistakes and nothing I did was that bad, but I have this horrible feeling that one day this will all catch up with me. Is this just genuine guilt and remorse or is this a symptom of OCD? Thanks in advance.
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- Ocdislame
- Date posted
- 2y ago
Can real event ocd, or ocd in general make you feel bad for something you did that was actually wrong? I keep thinking about things I’ve done in the past that are defiantly wrong and shitty things. But I’ve never really thought of them before. I knew they were terrible things, and I’ve not gone back since. Maybe 10+ years ago (when I was 19-21). I thought real event ocd was your brain taking things that are trivial and twisting them to make you seem bad. In these cases I’ve grown as a person l, I’m really not proud of myself and hope to never go back to that place. Is this ocd, or am I suddenly just feeling remorse for being a terrible person? I just feel the need to confess to my wife again, even though she knows most of it.
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- Givenup
- Date posted
- 39w ago
Pocd and real events ocd
What if you did something extremely horrible as a child that you didn’t know how horrible the events were that your POCD and real events OCD targets? Does it make the intrusive thoughts true? I'm getting anxious from my POCD and real event OCD based on real events (3 times) from when I was 13…… I don't ever want to ever be a P at all… I don't ever want to ever be a Chomo at all... i don’t ever want to ever be a rapist at all… I was 13 when these real events happened and now I'm 20... I've asked my mom about this so many times and every time she tells me that it's not serious anymore, that the person is okay and doesnt remember, and that I'm not a rapist or a P or a chomo... I didn’t realize how horrible the real events actually were… I was 13 at the time… now I’m 20… my POCD and real event OCD call me a P or a chomo because of the real events… while my mom reassures me all the time that it’s all over, that it’s not serious anymore, that the person is okay, and that I’m not a P or a rapist or a chomo, but when I was doing compulsive research, I remember when I saw a post on a non OCD forum about someone’s similar situation to mine and two people said to the person that they m*lested and that they needed to turn themselves in… I don’t ever want to ever be a P or a chomo in any way shape or form… i didn’t know how horrible the real events were when I was 13… I really didn’t… and after the real events I never did anything like that ever again, and I never once ever thought (before, and after) about doing stuff with kids in any way shape or form... I never once fantasized about kids or wanted to do anything with kids… I was 13 and didn’t realize how horrible the actions were at the time and I never did it ever again… I never once fantasized about kids before or after the real event… I don't ever want to ever harm a child in any way shape or form... I seriously don't ever want to do that to any child in any way shape or form and I seriously don't ever want to do anything like that to any kid now or in the future… I never have had any fantasies about kids and I don't ever want to... I don't ever want to ever be a P or a chomo in any way shape or form... I was 13….. and after the real events I never did anything like that ever again, and I never once ever thought (before, and after) about doing stuff with kids in any way shape or form... I never once fantasized about kids or wanted to do anything with kids… I was 13 and didn’t realize how horrible the actions were at the time and I never did it ever again… I never once fantasized about kids before or after the real event… And it’s comparing me to actual P’s and chomo’s who did stuff from 12-15 and then did stuff as adults, and making me think I’m a P and a Chomo because of it… I don’t ever want to ever be a P or a chomo in any way… 😭😭😭
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