“Compulsory heterosexuality is the idea that heterosexuality is assumed and enforced by a patriarchal and heteronormative societ” Damnit what if I have this and not HOCD

Ok wait just a quick question! My crush (currently) isn't the most attractive person but I never picked him out of a crowd, it suddenly just happened out of the blue, but he does have district features and I feel attracted to him and I'm extremely comfy thinking of him, is that compulsory heterosexuality???

@chamomile No it isn't. Everyone has a type. My current crush for example isn't what usually is my type but he's very attractive and I didn't pick him out of a crowd either. You feel good thinking about him which means you're not forced to

@notfortalk But I never spoke to him but most of my friends and my mom suspect he likes me too (or at least admires). My HOCD really makes me doubt my attraction towards cause of the topic of compulsory heterosexuality

@chamomile That's fine. I never really spoke with a lot of the guys I had I crush on yet I liked them and I wished I could. Hopefully he does really like you back and you two could start spending time together that will really make a change with your ocd ;)

@notfortalk Oh thanks for the support I really hope one day I'll tell him but whenever I really like a guy or look at a guy, things that have been natural to me, they now feel unnatural and I feel like I force it. Any tips on that?

Exactly

So I would’ve known before HOCD?? And the night I got it I wouldn’t have had a panick and anxiety attack why this was happing to me right?? If I was in dneial or gay/bi

@Dre249 This sounds like everyones hocd to me. Even mine. Comes on in an instant usually with a panic attack.

@lizzy123 Yeah

this makes sense, omg. But I once came out to my mom out of anxiety that I'm gay but I never felt happy instead I broke down. Is that something that happens to actual gay people?

@chamomile You did??

@Dre249 Yeah I did but I don't like it. It got so real at that point

@chamomile Oh I’d like to k ow the answer to this also

@Dre249 I never felt happy. I've read that gay people feel light and happy when they come out. I just broke down

It’s horseshite the “woke” community spouts and unfortunately they don’t give a shit about people like us!

It's actually a phenomen that was explored by a lesbian writer in the 70s. It's usually affects lesbians, but also gay men. Just don't mixed up because the poeple affected by it are aware of their desires

@notfortalk I don’t believe it in I think it’s rubbish If you’re (for arguments sake) “compulsory heterosexual” then you KNOW you’re going about life lying to yourself, know you’d rather be with the same sex Ocd is cruel and latches on to this then confuses people who are genuinely just straight

@uwotm8 We live in a patriarchal heteronormative society that pushes heterosexual relationships on lgbt people. They experienced compulsory heterosexuality because it's what society pushes on them, because they think being gay is bad and is a sin and they will be isolated if other know their sexuality. Just like us people with mental illnesses feel like we won't ever find a place to fit in, so do they.

@notfortalk You’re missing my point They KNOW they’re gay though! People with hocd are manipulative by these kind of articles then, where they go “wait omg what if I am and didn’t even realise?” See the difference?

@uwotm8 Manipulated* Christ this autocorrect is annoying

@uwotm8 But what should they do? Stop talking about this because we have ocd? Should we also put our lives on hold until this will go away? No. They should talk about their struggles the same way we should talk about the struggles surrounding our illness

@notfortalk I’m not saying that I’m saying there’s no such thing as “compulsory heterosexuality” - there’s bigots and closed minded assholes, but there’s no such things as compulsory anything There’s no “compulsory good mental health” either

@uwotm8 The thing is compulsory heterosexuality is a term invented by one women to describe one way of behaving. It's not a mental thing like ocd,gad or bipolar. But it is compulsory as in they feel the need to fit into heteronormative standards. For example I know I'm straight yet I obsess over it anyway, I know cleaning spefic part of my face that were exposed won't keep me away from any illnesses but I do anyway because I have the compulsive need to do that. For them knowing about compulsory heterosexuality it makes them more sure of their sexuality because then they know they're not straight. Just like ocd does the same for us. We feel safe in our diagnosis because it makes our thoughts fake tho we don't believe that

@notfortalk Exactly, it’s an invented term, that’s my point. It’s just a theory to describe living amongst pricks, it’s not something tangible like a mental health diagnoses is, but people here sadly are really affected by it anyway- ironically because their diagnosed illness is manipulated by a theory someone came up with

@uwotm8 Yes that's true. It's not like having a mental illness. In a way it reassemble soocd but it's not the same thing. It's like being in the closet and putting on a mask for the poeple outside. However these people are affected by it because some people do experience it but as I said it's totally different. Ocd latches on anything that makes you scared, so we can't do much about it anyway. But these things you just know

@notfortalk It’s all ocd, it’s all the same thing, it’s not about the gender at all it’s just it manifests in gay people “what if-ing” about being straight, and straight people “what-ifing” about being gay Listen to the ocd stories podcasts. They have loads on this

@uwotm8 So I’m not bi or gay????

@uwotm8 I’m getting the thought that I’ve been “acting” straight and have had fake crushes on girls when I really liked the crushes

@uwotm8 Yeah but compulsory heterosexuality and ocd are different. They use it as a kind of "cover" while there are gay people with soocd. It's not all ocd as a lof of people may think. Those people usually are genuinely questioning

@Dre249 You have ocd, listen to the ocd stories podcast with Elvis Gomes, I think it’s episodes 15 and 149

@Dre249 They’re specifically about sexual orientation ocd they talk about it in depth there

@uwotm8 So I would’ve known before HOCD?? And the night I got it I wouldn’t have had a panick and anxiety attack why this was happing to me right?? If I was in dneial or gay/bi

@uwotm8 Facts. If only people would understand their ideologies and motives, we wouldn't have these terms invented tp confuse people. I completely agree with you. Do you have any other social media? I would love to get to know you more, so you seem like a rational thinking person✨️