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Have you expressed these worries to your therapist? I know how difficult it is. I have been dealing with this type of OCD, too. It is so so hard BUT you are strong and you can get better! If you are on Instagram, there is a page called ocdrecoveryuk which is really helpful with lots of info on it if you want to check it out. Best wishes! :)
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Yep I have had this for years & its exhausting. But the answer is probably there is non answer. Its all about accepting uncertainty about the question, well thats how I see it. Yep I think having no fear to the OCD is probably a step in the right direction as I have terrible fear most of my days (not all day but some of the days). The guilt is over bearing but I think feelings for me are not an indicator that it is true. For me the thoughts that nag me 24-7 are not welcome or true but that's what makes it OCD, my brain feels hijacked!
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Yep I have a therapist I go to for childhood upset & she's very good but I don't whether she is really good at OCD or I'm not really trying to explain it well. I do indeed follow ocdrecoveryuk as its a great source of comfort to me but I guess some days are better than others. The constant questions never stop in my head. Thank you for replying. Best wishes too!
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"Feels like it might be true" sounds like something you can learn to live with. You can't make the possibility go away. You can only make it less and less important.
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I know this sounds so simple to do, but when I was going through my darkest moments waking up to a panic attack everyday, I would feel hopeless like I was an awful person and couldn’t function but I would set goals and try to go on a walk, do something productive, eat healthy and make myself feel better about other aspects of my life. The thoughts are the worst part because of the anxiety. I’m sorry you struggle. Keep on keeping on. I believe in you!
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Yep movement does work for sure. My brain will always tell me 'no don't go walking, sit in the car & Google for an hour' this is where I just don't listen. I think walking, dancing. Anything that moves your body helps. It really does work & am not at all sporty but the difference in my anxiety levels is unreal after I have done say 30 mins of exercise!
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I’ve completely lost myself. I can’t focus on my studies, I can’t go to the gym. Dang it I can’t even be around my male friends normally anymore. I got no idea why or how this happened but the only thing I know for sure is that I never questioned my sexuality neither doubted it. I never cared in general. I just liked girls. I keep testing and keep testing and keep testing my arousal but no matter how many times I see but I don’t feel the same way for guys that I do with girls my mind will always try to make me believe that I am gay. It’s like it’s forcing me into an identity I never asked for. But at the end of the day like my psychologist told me. Sexuality doesn’t change. So since I never felt anything for guys in my life it’s ocd. I’ve been up and down for 5 months now and while the last week I was feeling way better. Monday now and I’m back to zero. I just want to go back when everything was normal. I can’t keep living with this.
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So my OCD has been bad lately. I’ve been ruminating and obsessing over my sexuality again. And it just keeps getting worse. I hate it so much. I try to sit with the discomfort but then my ocd does the backdoor spike. And the groinal response is what keeps me looped. It SUCKS. I am not attracted to men, but my OCD is trying SO hard to convince me that I am. There have been days where I’m just so mentally exhausted that I “accept” what my ocd tells me and I just walk around a hollow, lethargic shell. But then I rethink it and I feel better. It feels like I can only find my TRUE self when I tire my nervous system out enough that it literally breaks down and has me suicidal and hopeless. And then accepting my OCD’s “truth” (that I’m attracted to men) feels like a burden and a chore. I woke up today from an OCD dream, tried to go back to sleep, and my stomach kept cramping bc I was so anxious and ruminating over my intrusive thoughts. I’m starting to doubt it being OCD anymore. My brain is too tired to fight and cry about it anymore.
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I’ve recovered from HOCD before and got my attraction and my usual actual identity back. I was recovered from end 2022- start 2025 until I got triggered UGHHH😭 My HOCD is REALLY trying to convince me and it’s SO annoying cause I genuinely don’t want these thoughts. I know I naturally like men and always have done so. I can’t wait for my first therapy session in two days Omg! I need your advice, not necessarily reassurance, but more advice? My HOCD is throwing random “proof” I did/ saw as a child in my face, which back then had no meaning in my life and I continued to live a perfectly heterosexual life. I’ve educated myself about arousal non concordance / child’s play, but it still doesn’t remove the HOCD. I’ve read therapists great explanations on how it’s not a sexuality issue, BUT ITS AN OCD BRAIN ISSUE. So basically I’ve been straight and i will die as straight. But my ocd is still continuing with the intrusive thoughts/flashbacks. I’ve had some moments where I haven’t done as many compulsions and had less anxiety but still had those damn thoughts and I DO NOT want those damn thoughts. I have so much proof and factual/logical explanations but HOCD is still continuing to thrive. I absolutely hate this and I feel so alone. I wish there was a reset button cause I don’t want these thoughts to happen. I want a man and I stand by that. How do y’all deal with these situations? Cause sitting with the thoughts is clearly not helping.
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