- Username
- Ruth
- Date posted
- 6y ago
Now I’m playing what she said over and over
I hope I’m not misinterpreting things, but that seems like a bit of an inappropriate comment for your boss to make
I’m in the UK, but there’s similar legislation in place. Thanks for your advice, it just all got a bit much and the idea that I could switch it off because I was at work seemed offensive. Thanks everyone for the support
Who told you that? Your boss?
Yes
Has she ever supported you?
Absolutely Francis. Totally inappropriate.
She knows about my “issues” and has had some mental health problems herself, so we used to talk openly about it. It seems her other management colleagues have said this isn’t appropriate and I should be more professional and focussed. Admittedly I’ve cried and panicked at work a couple of times recently, but I’m doing my very best to remain upbeat and work hard. Also I have to move some hours around therapy, which she was not pleased about..
Sounds like a catch 23 -the important thing is to remember the things that will remain important things after it’s all over -
Are you in the USA? Look into the Americans with Disabilities Act. I’m pretty sure Ocd is considered a disability and you have protections and rights including a right to a reasonable accommodation. I studied hr in college and really would recommend documenting comments like this (time and date) in case it gets worse.
It sounds like she is under pressure from others and that has led her to make this comment. Going by what you have said, perhaps you have the kind of relationship where this could be discussed when the dust has settled? If she has her own mental health problems then she will maybe reflect and see that it wasn’t appropriate to suggest ‘compartmentalising’, whatever that means. Only you know your boss and whether you can discuss this quietly with her, or whether it needs to be more businesslike from now on.
How open are you all about your ocd? Do you ever tell anyone? Right now everyone at work thinks I’m perfectly happy and that everything in my world is great. When in reality everything is falling apart and I’m depressed. It’s so hard when someone makes a comment like “you’re so perfect” or “you’ve got your life so together” when they don’t know what you’re going through and what mental battles you have to fight literally every minute of every day. This is why I want to tell the people around me, but I’m also worried they won’t understand. Can anyone relate to this?
Is there somewhere I can just go to for OCD THERAPY? I am so freaking exhausted . I had just came back from work due to anxiety attack. I was off to a great start through my day until my mom triggered my ocd and anxiety . We had discussed a lot on the way to work, Having to do most with my mental struggles . She pointed out that I hadn’t cleaned my room , at first it was with her judging me for having messy bed head too. I was openly , sincerely explaining to her why can’t mentally do things sometimes . I basically told her straight up to he bit open minded . Something along what she had said triggered my ocd anxiety. I have no idea why I was anxious , maybe because an intrusive thight crossed my mind as she yelled something out . Giving me false feelings leading up to my anxious mood. But ever since, I had been soo out of focus . Ruminating and just feeling like my ocd completely took over my head .
I feel like I don’t know how to deal with OCD anymore and I feel like I am burned out. Anyone else feeling like this? It is just defeating. Any ways to combat these feelings?
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