- Username
- Ruth
- Date posted
- 6y ago
Now I’m playing what she said over and over
I hope I’m not misinterpreting things, but that seems like a bit of an inappropriate comment for your boss to make
I’m in the UK, but there’s similar legislation in place. Thanks for your advice, it just all got a bit much and the idea that I could switch it off because I was at work seemed offensive. Thanks everyone for the support
Who told you that? Your boss?
Yes
Has she ever supported you?
Absolutely Francis. Totally inappropriate.
She knows about my “issues” and has had some mental health problems herself, so we used to talk openly about it. It seems her other management colleagues have said this isn’t appropriate and I should be more professional and focussed. Admittedly I’ve cried and panicked at work a couple of times recently, but I’m doing my very best to remain upbeat and work hard. Also I have to move some hours around therapy, which she was not pleased about..
Sounds like a catch 23 -the important thing is to remember the things that will remain important things after it’s all over -
Are you in the USA? Look into the Americans with Disabilities Act. I’m pretty sure Ocd is considered a disability and you have protections and rights including a right to a reasonable accommodation. I studied hr in college and really would recommend documenting comments like this (time and date) in case it gets worse.
It sounds like she is under pressure from others and that has led her to make this comment. Going by what you have said, perhaps you have the kind of relationship where this could be discussed when the dust has settled? If she has her own mental health problems then she will maybe reflect and see that it wasn’t appropriate to suggest ‘compartmentalising’, whatever that means. Only you know your boss and whether you can discuss this quietly with her, or whether it needs to be more businesslike from now on.
Starting out this morning with rushing thoughts at 8am, went to see my therapist at 11, everything was okay, and that I can label these things as OCD, but it’s still difficult, especially right now at work. And then, before work, my girlfriend and I were having lunch, and I could just see that I’m a complete mess. She has to deal with my shit, and yes we do want a future together, but now I realize since I suppose I was diagnosed with OCD today, she seemed disappointed and she said she was scared about if I do get over this theme, what would be my next one. I just felt miserable because she was irritated that I don’t say much anymore, because my thoughts are just constantly there and I’m just tired of all this.
It’s so weird how OCD just comes about with no explanation, out of nowhere. My issue has been feelings. I have moments of hyper focusing on feelings, trying to figure them out, and it’s exhausting. Logically, I know that what I’m going through with the things happening in my life (relationship ending that was abusive, my father just getting diagnosed with dementia, etc) would make anyone feel the way I do. But I keep trying to fight my feelings. “Normally, old me” would embrace them and let them be. Ever since my OCD returned, I can’t help but fixate on them and stress even more. It’s almost like my emotions and the way we are as humans in my mind has become even more of a problem than the problems themselves. Can anyone relate? I am doing my best with ERP. I definitely helps. But I’m still waking up not feeling like myself and it hurts.
This week has been tough for me. My supervisor at my job gave me some feedback that really triggered some intense OCD thoughts. They told me I was making careless mistakes on a task and that I am not being detail oriented enough. I’m sure that all of you are aware of how crazy this might sound to someone with OCD who double and triple checks everything they do. Anyway, because of this error they took away my other responsibilities because the mistake I was making was apparently bad enough that they felt they couldn’t trust me to do anything else. On top of it being terrible management and that it doesn’t teach me anything or show me what to do differently, it also seriously triggered my anxiety. Now anytime I do something at work I have been checking it 100x over because I’m afraid of another mistake. I wish people would be kinder when they criticize. Sending love to anyone who checks their work for perfection ❤️
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