- Date posted
- 6y
- Date posted
- 6y
Now I’m playing what she said over and over
- Date posted
- 6y
I hope I’m not misinterpreting things, but that seems like a bit of an inappropriate comment for your boss to make
- Date posted
- 6y
I’m in the UK, but there’s similar legislation in place. Thanks for your advice, it just all got a bit much and the idea that I could switch it off because I was at work seemed offensive. Thanks everyone for the support
- Date posted
- 6y
Who told you that? Your boss?
- Date posted
- 6y
Yes
- Date posted
- 6y
Has she ever supported you?
- Date posted
- 6y
Absolutely Francis. Totally inappropriate.
- Date posted
- 6y
She knows about my “issues” and has had some mental health problems herself, so we used to talk openly about it. It seems her other management colleagues have said this isn’t appropriate and I should be more professional and focussed. Admittedly I’ve cried and panicked at work a couple of times recently, but I’m doing my very best to remain upbeat and work hard. Also I have to move some hours around therapy, which she was not pleased about..
- Date posted
- 6y
Sounds like a catch 23 -the important thing is to remember the things that will remain important things after it’s all over -
- Date posted
- 6y
Are you in the USA? Look into the Americans with Disabilities Act. I’m pretty sure Ocd is considered a disability and you have protections and rights including a right to a reasonable accommodation. I studied hr in college and really would recommend documenting comments like this (time and date) in case it gets worse.
- Date posted
- 6y
It sounds like she is under pressure from others and that has led her to make this comment. Going by what you have said, perhaps you have the kind of relationship where this could be discussed when the dust has settled? If she has her own mental health problems then she will maybe reflect and see that it wasn’t appropriate to suggest ‘compartmentalising’, whatever that means. Only you know your boss and whether you can discuss this quietly with her, or whether it needs to be more businesslike from now on.
Related posts
- Date posted
- 19w
I've been having a really tough time lately with a recent workplace interaction that occurrd today, and my mind just keeps replaying the events over and over. It feels like an endless loop, and I'm finding it incredibly hard to let go. I'm trying to figure out if this intense replaying is more about my OCD, or if it's a typical reaction to a stressful situation that's being amplified by my OCD tendencies. The specific details of the incident involve a colleague engaging in a racially insensitive discussion that I tried to disengage from. Despite my attempts to steer the conversation away and remove myself, the situation escalated with direct confrontation and accusations. This led to significant emotional distress for me. Later in the day, the same colleague misunderstood another conversation, making baseless accusations and publicly confronting me in a very aggressive way. I kept quiet throughout, just a bit of muttering. The emotional toll of these interactions has been immense. Now, my mind is stuck. I can't seem to stop dwelling on every word, every gesture, and every imagined alternative outcome. Hoping I'm not viewed as the "angry black woman" which is such an affair narrative why can't I state grievances of racism, without this narrative. * how do you manage the relentless replaying of stressful workplace interactions? What are your go-to coping mechanisms when your mind gets "stuck" on these loops? * Have you found any specific strategies helpful for navigating interpersonal conflicts at work when your OCD makes it difficult to process and move past them? * When you're feeling emotionally vulnerable due to work stress, what helps you prevent these situations from turning into prolonged rumination cycles? Any advice or shared experiences would be incredibly helpful. I'll be so grateful for any assistance. I just feel like I'm not good at life.
- Date posted
- 19w
I’ve been spiraling since a workplace incident last Thursday. I had an uncomfortable and tense interaction with a colleague, and it triggered a lot of obsessive rumination. I spent the whole weekend crying, panicking, and replaying everything that happened. Today, I went back to work — and it was really hard. Everyone acted like nothing happened. They joke with him, treat him normally, even though he bullied me and I’m just… sitting there. I didn’t greet him, and he didn’t greet me. I kept to myself, answered questions when I had to, but didn’t socialize. Now I feel scared. Like I’m walking on eggshells. I keep thinking: “What if I say something wrong?” “What if I make a mistake and they say, ‘You see? She’s the problem’? Acting holier than thou & she's a bigot too!" I know this is partly my OCD and trauma talking, but it feels so real. Like I’m one wrong move away from being blamed or alienated. I’ve even started eating lunch in my car to feel safe. I’m trying so hard to hold boundaries, stay professional, and protect my peace. But I’m exhausted. I feel like a shell of myself and I’m scared I’ll break. I was already a little on eggshells cause most of my colleagues say or do something bigoted every now & then...my bigotry ocd is always scared that when I don't confront them. I'm condoning it & becoming them. I'm exhausted. I want to work remotely so I can stay isolated from people. I don't think I'll ever heal from this. I feel like this incident is one of those that permanently changes you. Like when my parents & siblings says I'm not the same anymore. I'm more panicked etc.
- Date posted
- 18w
OCD can be so isolating. I’m in a health anxiety spiral and struggling at work. I feel like I am failing everywhere and feeling very alone. My support system is tired of hearing about my fears, health wise and work wise. I find myself crying a lot. I don’t particularly enjoy doing anything anymore. I feel like I just can’t get comfortable in my skin or my head sometimes. I’m not sure how to else to describe it. Like nothing soothes me or makes it better. Even sleep is bad dreams and waking up anxious all night. I’ve always felt different from everyone else but when I’m on meds I can fake it better and I feel more connected. I want to go back on SSRI’s but I’ve been dealing with health issues and the meds exacerbate them so am delaying for the time being
Be a part of the largest OCD Community
Share your thoughts so the Community can respond