Hi everyone! I’m not sure who saw my post a couple days ago about rocd attacking my boyfriends friends lol.. they’re not unattractive and I had some horrible thoughts (I call them horrible even though they’re “normal”).. I’ve had the fear or cheating, flirting, etc even though I know I would never. Sometimes I worry myself because I like impressing them but I only do that because they’re his friends so I want them to like me lol! Anyways, ever since then they’ve been still hanging out with my friends and I’ve been tagging along because I feel like hanging out with them is a good exposure but then my mind also picks at the idea that me hanging out with them is wrong since my boyfriend isn’t there with us.. he’s in the army and he’s helping at the elderly homes but he knows when we hangout and he seems fine with it.. anyways I just need someone’s opinion on this, thanks!

Hey everyone :( it’s been while since I posted but I’m having hard time with my relationship cause of my ROCD. I keep worry about small details like the fact my bf recently changed his voice note messaging to expiring after two mins. I know his best friend talks to him 24/7 and he is always sending my bf voice notes (sometime his friend talks about illegal things) but is this something I should worry about? I feel like over analyzing his behaviours to see if he is hiding something from me or being disloyal. My heart knows it’s not in his character but I’m still worried :( any advice would be great. (Also have PTSD from being cheated on in past relationship)

Plz only respond with positive advice or thoughts. Last time I posted someone responded with a bad thought and it made everything worse. I have ROCD and I am absolutely terrified that I might cheat or doing something that’s cheating. Like everything is either bad or good. It’s all just black and white. I’ve never slept with anyone, given my number out, kissed anyone, texted anyone or secretly been seeing anyone. I freak out over things like making eye contacts with a guy and I notice he thinks I’m pretty (which feels good cuz I struggle with insecurities) and I make eye contact for too long, but the entire time I have no intentions of doing any with this guy and I’m very prepared to tell him I have a boyfriend if he comes over and telling him to leave. Anyways, that’s an example of the small things I tend to obsess over and just wondering if anyone worries about the same thing and any positive advice you could give before I go insane.

Need some advice please! Went out with friends the other night - both of them are single and I have been in my wonderful relationship for over a year now. Anyways, my friend met a guy and he offered to buy us some drinks. Both my friends went to the bathroom and I decided to stay behind and watch all our drinks (safety reasons obvi since we don’t know this man). A man was talking to the guy we were with and I was relieved I didn’t need to make conversation with him when all of a sudden the guy we were with goes to the other man “hey my girlfriend and I here are trying to have a nice date night together and enjoy each other’s company, would you mind?” And I was completely thrown off. I felt so uncomfortable and had to go along with it, and the other man was like “what do you like about your bf?” And I was like Um he’s a cool guy I guess and it becomes this big false story. The man leaves and this guy then asks me “have you ever had that happen to you before? Have a guy pretend to be your boyfriend?” And I immediately was like “no I haven’t. Normally MY boyfriend is with me lol.” Shut it down right away. Then the guy started asking about my friends again. Anyways long story short, my OCD spiked after this. My mind has been replaying the event over and over to check and make sure I didn’t flirt. My mind is also saying “did I like he was trying to flirt with me? Did I want to flirt back? Did I flirt back? Maybe I flirted?” I had a quick thought it could be a cute story at first for how someone would meet for the first time, not me obviously but someone else, but then the more I thought about it the more I just thought this guy was plain rude. I told my boyfriend the entire story that same night and he just said the guys a weirdo (which he was) and he’s sure I didn’t do anything wrong. But I still feel so guilty for some reason? Any advice? Also want to say I know I would never ever do anything to jeopardize my relationship with my boyfriend, nor do I even have any desire for other mens attention. I was just super uncomfortable I was even put in that situation.