Hi everyone! I’m not sure who saw my post a couple days ago about rocd attacking my boyfriends friends lol.. they’re not unattractive and I had some horrible thoughts (I call them horrible even though they’re “normal”).. I’ve had the fear or cheating, flirting, etc even though I know I would never. Sometimes I worry myself because I like impressing them but I only do that because they’re his friends so I want them to like me lol! Anyways, ever since then they’ve been still hanging out with my friends and I’ve been tagging along because I feel like hanging out with them is a good exposure but then my mind also picks at the idea that me hanging out with them is wrong since my boyfriend isn’t there with us.. he’s in the army and he’s helping at the elderly homes but he knows when we hangout and he seems fine with it.. anyways I just need someone’s opinion on this, thanks!

little rabbit

Date posted: 5y

I have had the same thoughts and fears, wondering if I'm a cheater for being very open and talkative You're asking for reassurance here however and this won't help you get better in your OCD journey. I suggest you do ERP, expose yourself to the fear of being a cheater, flirting etc, until eventually your brain realizes this isn't something that will kill you and the anxiety will drop. You can have no real answers from yourself when you're anxious anyway, so prioritize the exposure, is my honest opinion. I've been exactly where you are and still get some thoughts that I'm bad for having male friends and that it's immoral, I know what you're going through.

Kea

Date posted: 5y

So sorry went through this, I know how much it sucks.. & Yeah you’re right, like I said, I feel like hanging out with them is a good exposure since my fear is losing control while I’m there and doing something stupid.. I wish I can just stay in my room for days on end and avoid everything but that’s no good

little rabbit

Date posted: 5y

@Kea You won't leave your life behind for the OCD, you deserve to live your life! Keep on doing the hard work and it gets better, gradually and slowly, but it does. Sending my good wishes to you

Kea

Date posted: 5y

@little rabbit Same for you, goodluck!

erikaxo

Date posted: 5y

If your boyfriend knows and is okay with it, then it’s definitely not wrong! It’s okay to have guy friends. It’s also normal to have intrusive thoughts like you said, and I know they seem so horrible but that’s all ocd is. Now if you feel that you are putting yourself in a situation where cheating could happen, then I’d recommend not hanging around them! As long as it’s just friendly, I see no harm.

Maybe,MaybeNot

Date posted: 5y

I have thoughts like this every single day and it’s debilitating. All we can really do is what we feel is best at the moment. I think a lot of things we consider “right” or “wrong” is just a matter of opinion.

Kas01

Date posted: 21w

ROCD

So this past week I’ve needed to do something’s with group for my school. I have been hanging around more people who are not my boyfriend and now I’m scared I’m losing feelings for him and I am attracted to someone else. Is this normal I have researched and researched and it says it is but what if these thoughts are true? What if there is someone better for me than my boyfriend? Help me please has anyone else gone through this?

Mk3

Date posted: 8w

ROCD

I adore my partner. There’s this other guy my ocd has been triggered by from the start. He hangs out with my friends, we used to hangout before my partner. I feel like I’m so wrong for still hanging around him in social settings. Its just fun sometimes. I have fleeting feelings and there’s kind of a flirtatious vibe? I’m scared I’ve flirted. I’m scared of the “feelings” I get even though I know feelings can have zero significance when I love my partner so much. I overanalyze everything. The guilt is overwhelming. I want to be with my partner not this other guy. I feel like a terrible partner. I know this could all be OCD why does it feel so hard. I think my brain has so much worked up over this other person no wonder I feel so much guilt. My OCD makes everything into a big deal.

Mk3

Date posted: 7w

ROCD

So like I continue to have the thought of.. is it messed up that I allow myself to be around/friends with this guy (for various reasons). Should I tell myself maybe maybe not? Or do I need to get my partner involved? The issue is this other guy is a huge ocd trigger for me and I don’t want to bring any confessing into this

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