- Username
- ladye
- Date posted
- 6y ago
I’m sorry you’re going through this! I have some of the same obsessions it sucks :(. But all of the searching and checking social media will never satisfy your ocd, it’s just a compulsion. I used to search this same way and it just led to big fights with my boyfriend and took me further away from my value of being a strong , self-loving woman! I think it is important to share what you want in the relationship but it seems like you’ve told him a lot and he keeps reassuring you - this ‘fix’ won’t last long as I’m sure you’ve realized. Write out and do an ERP that maybe he is seeing someone else and what you’re afraid that means about you. If he’s seeing someone else after telling you he wasn’t, that’s on him. I know this is painful but If you do the exposure work as well as practice self kindness, it will get better. Thinking of you, you are strong and not alone ❤️
Good luck and I hope you the best
Yes it is!! Sometimes I say it’s like having a full-time job just inside my mind. But ERP is one of the most helpful things I’ve done & still do. And you’re definitely not alone in having these thoughts :)
I know how it feels to have trust issues but I think an important part of a relationship is honesty. Talk to him and be open about how you feel. If he truely likes you I’m sure he’ll understand. I’m sure you guys can get through this.
Thanks for your reply! I have talked to him about it many times and he has told me numerous times he isn’t seeing anyone else. My issue is that even though we have these conversations I have these obsessive thoughts that he’s lying to me and check all his social media looking for something.
I get that this can be something very hard to go through and I completely understand that. Maybe try going to see a therapist or just a close friend you trust. I’m not an expert and completely understand how it feels to have trust issues. I’m sure you like this guy and want to be with him but you’re minds telling you that somethings up. Every time one of these thoughts pop up try doing some calming activities like meditating. This can often help suppress the thoughts. Hope this helped xx
Thank you I’ll try it!
Thank you! I appreciate the response, and it is reassuring to know I’m not the only one who has these thoughts. It’s mentally exhausting. I will definitely try the ERP
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