Is it normal to have gay dreams and false crushes/attractions with HOCD? There are certain people of the same sex that will trigger my fears out of being afraid that I might be sexually attracted to them.

I have HOCD and I promise you it is normal for an HOCDer to have gay dreams and false crushes/attractions. If you were actually in denial, you would enjoy these feelings and thoughts but just not want to be gay because you’re afraid of how people will view you, etc..I only want to be with a man but HOCD makes me afraid I am bisexual and want to be with a woman. I know deep inside being with a woman would make me miserable and bring me no joy. It’s normal to think the same sex is beautiful or attractive! If you want, I have a group chat on instagram with a bunch of people who have HOCD. It is a supportive group.

@himz333 if you don’t have HOCD , don’t leave ignorant and rude comments such as “so chillout” you have ocd yourself . Don’t belittle someone else’s struggle. Maybe you weren’t trying to be offensive but you could easily trigger the person commenting this. I’m in that support group chat Jen mentioned, point being, if you don’t have HOCD educate yourself because no one needs ignorant comments that could trigger them.

@brookenoel thank you so much for sticking up for me. That comment did in fact trigger me. & yes I’d love to be apart of that support group

sometimes it can be considered denial as well, but unless you are actively attracted to them, you can tell yourself that it’s just your HOCD

@Jaugust , you’re welcome :) and just send me your Instagram if you have it and I can add you :) my name is brooke so if you see one from a girl named brooke it’s just me ?

Brooke and I understand how triggering comments like that can be! @Jaugust! Seriously, feel free to join our chat! It has helped both of us a lot!

Awesome :) my instagram is @thejustingibbs

@brookenoel my name is Justin btw !

@brookenoel feel free to add me when you can :)

I haven’t been added yet guys! ? I’m eager lol

Could I be added to that? @brashelllcollier

@Brookenoel, my comment - "so chillout" was not to belittle the struggle. It is just to calm down the person & develop a sense to detach the thought with anxeity. The basis of all forms of ocd is anxeity, doubt, building up of fearful situations in mind & ocd can change from one form to another...we have to attack the root ...that is doubt. My comments are not rude or ignorant. They are to the point. Look at someones intention when they are commenting. I am 31 and I am battling OCD since I was 14, so my intention is to help and I have pretty detailed knowledge about ocd.

@ Jaugust...read my comment again. Brother no comment can trigger u...its the doubt your mind is developing that is triggering the whole thing. doubt - anxeity - reassurance - doubt - fear - ...its a loop.

as soon as you mark the thought as ocd...just let it go, dont fall for the loop. if u doubt that the thought is ocd or not...then its definitely ocd. ocd can switch form from hocd to rocd to pocd etc..the form does not matter bcos they are all popping up from same root - "doubt".

@nOCD my comments are not spam or abusive. People can flag me all the time if they want but my intentions r pure.