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- Anonymous
- Date posted
- 4y ago
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- DeepBreathsDeepBreaths
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Yeah I would just second that you’re not alone- I have experienced the same thing in my past relationship. I think it’s been helpful to lean into other sources of support- friends, family, therapist, online community. For me it’s also been helpful to remember that no one can save me from my emotions. It feels unbearable to hold them on my own sometimes but journaling has been really helpful for dealing with that when it arises!
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- Idk Idk
- Date posted
- 4y ago
You’re definitely not alone here
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- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Thank you both. My partner broke up with me last night and I just discovered rcod today. I’m deeply pained that I didn’t know that there was an explanation and treatment for what I had been feeling or I could have done something to change the situation sooner. I was constantly questioning myself. In a low place right now. But feeling excited to get to know myself better and find support and treatment.
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- Idk Idk
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I’m so sorry to hear that, the important things is now you know and you can take back your life. It’s never too late for that. I’m sure you’re doing the best you can and that’s all anyone can really ask for. You will get through this, I believe in you (:
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- DeepBreathsDeepBreaths
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Yes, my partner recently broke up with me as well. I had just been diagnosed but I feel like for the 2.5 years we were together, there was a third person in our relationship- my OCD. I have found it really helpful to journal about what I’m learning, who I am as a person (since OCD brings up so many thoughts and feelings that make me question who I am). I am also writing a letter to her to explain more about what OCD is so she can also have some clarity about what was going on in our relationship.
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- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 4y ago
Thank you both. It feels so good to know I’m not alone in this, finally! I feel it’s possible that my partner will be open to resuming our relationship now that I know what was going on and have tools to handle it. But I’m also aware that I neee to focus on doing this for myself first and foremost without setting myself up for disappointment.
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