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- 4y
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- 4y
Yeah I would just second that you’re not alone- I have experienced the same thing in my past relationship. I think it’s been helpful to lean into other sources of support- friends, family, therapist, online community. For me it’s also been helpful to remember that no one can save me from my emotions. It feels unbearable to hold them on my own sometimes but journaling has been really helpful for dealing with that when it arises!
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- 4y
You’re definitely not alone here
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- 4y
Thank you both. My partner broke up with me last night and I just discovered rcod today. I’m deeply pained that I didn’t know that there was an explanation and treatment for what I had been feeling or I could have done something to change the situation sooner. I was constantly questioning myself. In a low place right now. But feeling excited to get to know myself better and find support and treatment.
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- 4y
I’m so sorry to hear that, the important things is now you know and you can take back your life. It’s never too late for that. I’m sure you’re doing the best you can and that’s all anyone can really ask for. You will get through this, I believe in you (:
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- 4y
Yes, my partner recently broke up with me as well. I had just been diagnosed but I feel like for the 2.5 years we were together, there was a third person in our relationship- my OCD. I have found it really helpful to journal about what I’m learning, who I am as a person (since OCD brings up so many thoughts and feelings that make me question who I am). I am also writing a letter to her to explain more about what OCD is so she can also have some clarity about what was going on in our relationship.
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- 4y
Thank you both. It feels so good to know I’m not alone in this, finally! I feel it’s possible that my partner will be open to resuming our relationship now that I know what was going on and have tools to handle it. But I’m also aware that I neee to focus on doing this for myself first and foremost without setting myself up for disappointment.
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- 18w
Hi all! I was wondering if anyone being treated with ROCD and/or SOOCD has some advice on how they handle the things *with* their partner. For context, my ex and I were together ~7 months before we broke up a year ago, in large part due to my severe anxiety from untreated ROCD/SOOCD. I’ve gotten a lot better through NOCD treatment and we’ve been friends since then. But we’re currently in a “situationship” kind of stage, where I think we’re both trying to figure out if the relationship is still feasible, and I’m finding that I’m a lot more triggered as the relationship nears becoming “serious” again. We’re both really trying to figure out the healthiest way to handle when things get hard for me. Does anyone have input about what they’ve learned or found what has worked in their own relationships? Some specific questions: - I’ve found that when getting really triggered in my own head, I have no clue if I should explain how I’m feeling to my partner or how we should address it together. How do you differentiate between communicating versus falling into the confessing/reassurance trap? - Related to the above, my partner and I are both a bit lost on the best way for him to respond when I’m really paranoid (for examples, I have major I’m-being-cheated-on paranoia and overanalyze if I’m enjoying sex enough), or if I’m overreacting to feeling rejected/misunderstood (e.g. “he didn’t respond to my comment just now, he doesn’t care/he doesn’t get me/maybe we shouldn’t be together…”) - How much does your partner know about ROCD/SOOCD in general? How much have you shared with them about your thoughts and experiences? I’ve explained both subtypes and some of my thought processes to him, but definitely not all of it, and I’m not sure how much is helpful for him to know. Answers to any or all of the questions are very much appreciated. Thanks so much in advance! Hope you’re all well 💗
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- 17w
I am at a very difficult spot in my relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years, and I have a history of cheating that for years we’ve been trying to work through. To me, it makes a lot of sense that my OCD has attached itself to this and for the last few years I’ve experienced intrusive sexual thoughts of others and relationship ocd. I have been open to him about the content of my thoughts and now, with a proper diagnosis of an anxiety disorder, I am able to reframe them and work through them with ERP so that my brain will *hopefully* get bored and stop sending them. But, things have not been easy. As a result of this and everything in our past, he has become anxious about all the scenarios where I could be having sexualized thoughts about other people. To him, if I am thinking something utterly different than what I am telling him or acting like to him, he can’t fully trust it. And of course, I can imagine how difficult it is to know your life partner is sexualizing others in her brain and to be able find a way to dismiss them as unthreatening, especially when past mistakes say otherwise. Is there anyone that has gone through this with a partner? And other than repeatedly explaining the egodystonic nature of my thoughts and providing reassurance, what are some things you did that helped them? Any advice helps! Thank you
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- 17w
for a few days now I’ve been super anxious about my relationship. I’ve been anxious about it before but lately it’s been worse than normal. I’m in a very healthy and loving relationship, I love my boyfriend so much and he treats me so so well. The only thing is that I’ve been having scary thoughts that what if I’m lying to him and don’t actually love him? What if I don’t find him attractive? And like what if the only way to stop being anxious is to break up with him? I don’t want to leave him and I am so scared. I feel like I’m lying to him by not telling him what’s going on because he might think I’m actually going to leave him, which I’m really not going to. I have had anxiety since before we started dating and incestual and sexual ocd, then I got into a point where I started having religious ocd, and now I have ROCD on top of that I think. I’ve never been diagnosed but I’m going to therapy and figuring things out but I’m so scared. Idk what to do and I feel like if I talk to anyone they’re going to say I have to leave him.
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