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Yeah I would just second that you’re not alone- I have experienced the same thing in my past relationship. I think it’s been helpful to lean into other sources of support- friends, family, therapist, online community. For me it’s also been helpful to remember that no one can save me from my emotions. It feels unbearable to hold them on my own sometimes but journaling has been really helpful for dealing with that when it arises!
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You’re definitely not alone here
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Thank you both. My partner broke up with me last night and I just discovered rcod today. I’m deeply pained that I didn’t know that there was an explanation and treatment for what I had been feeling or I could have done something to change the situation sooner. I was constantly questioning myself. In a low place right now. But feeling excited to get to know myself better and find support and treatment.
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I’m so sorry to hear that, the important things is now you know and you can take back your life. It’s never too late for that. I’m sure you’re doing the best you can and that’s all anyone can really ask for. You will get through this, I believe in you (:
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Yes, my partner recently broke up with me as well. I had just been diagnosed but I feel like for the 2.5 years we were together, there was a third person in our relationship- my OCD. I have found it really helpful to journal about what I’m learning, who I am as a person (since OCD brings up so many thoughts and feelings that make me question who I am). I am also writing a letter to her to explain more about what OCD is so she can also have some clarity about what was going on in our relationship.
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Thank you both. It feels so good to know I’m not alone in this, finally! I feel it’s possible that my partner will be open to resuming our relationship now that I know what was going on and have tools to handle it. But I’m also aware that I neee to focus on doing this for myself first and foremost without setting myself up for disappointment.
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Good morning. Anyone struggle with ROCD? When I think about what I have done in the past, I feel immense guilty (I feel the tightness in my chest) and have the urge to tell my partner about it, even if my partner says she doesn’t need to know if it is going to hurt her and that I need to talk to my therapist about it first. Any suggestions on how to manage the urge/urgency? Thanks!
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Hey guys! My boyfriend has said recently that he doesn't know if he's strong enough to continue with our relationship because of my OCD. He wants to see me overcome my symptoms and learn to live a healthy life with OCD, but my anxieties and obsessions are starting to really affect his life. I understand his reasoning, it's hard to see someone you care about struggle with OCD, especially when it starts to affect you too. I'm asking for tips to deal with my compulsions in the relationship. I HAVE to know the answer to things and sometimes that leads into arguments because even with apologies and discussions I can't let things go, even if they genuinely don't matter or are miniscule issues we have. It's a healthy relationship otherwise but I feel horrible because it's impacting him so negatively, that's the absolute last thing I want to happen. I care for him deeply and he cares for me too, so I don't want my OCD to be a reason we break up but I fear it's headed in that direction. I'm starting therapy soon, but until then what are some things I can do to stop my ROCD from impacting him? I know sitting in the guilt and anxiety of not completing my obsessions will help, but I'm wondering if there are other things I can do to maybe remedy some of the damage already done.
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For those of you in relationships with ROCD, do your partners know of your diagnosis. I am new to treatment and new to this avenue of mental health. I am generally pretty open and honest with my partner about things but the dark side of my mind I keep hidden. I’m scared to tell him about this if I’m diagnosed. And I’m scared that if I’m diagnosed and something real does go south in the relationship then my diagnosis will be used against me.
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